The Heart Gone Wrong, Part 1 (A Father’s Wisdom)

Proverbs 23:26

“Where is your heart?”. Today Pastor Colin explores the importance of our heart as the command and control centre of our lives. Discover how understanding the condition of our heart today can predict where our life will lead tomorrow. Join us as we unwrap the wisdom of Proverbs 23 in the message titled “The Heart Gone Wrong” and learn about God’s transformative promise to replace a heart of stone with a heart of flesh. Don’t miss this chance to reflect on the ultimate importance of what’s in your heart.

100:00:00,760 –> 00:00:09,840The heart very simply is the command and control centre of your life. Your heart is the deepest200:00:09,840 –> 00:00:17,559thing about you. Where you heart is, is always the central question, where your heart is today300:00:17,559 –> 00:00:23,879will be a predictor of where your life will be tomorrow. Welcome to open the Bible with400:00:23,879 –> 00:00:29,580pastor Colin Smith I’m David Pick, I’m glad you could join us today. And Colin, for someone who500:00:29,600 –> 00:00:34,900answers that question honestly, where is your heart? And they come up with an answer that600:00:34,900 –> 00:00:40,980perhaps they’re not happy with. How can they change that? Oh, well, it is the work of God700:00:40,980 –> 00:00:47,240to transform the human heart, and that is the great promise of the Gospel, that he’s800:00:47,240 –> 00:00:53,259able to take away a heart of stone and give a heart of flesh. And where we’re going in900:00:53,259 –> 00:00:57,060the message today is really the heart is the most important thing about you at the end1000:00:57,060 –> 00:01:02,880of the day, it’s not how much you know. It’s not even a matter of your behavior that’s1100:01:02,880 –> 00:01:07,879the ultimate thing about you. It’s what’s in your heart. That’s why the Scripture says,1200:01:07,879 –> 00:01:12,739guard your heart. It’s the fountain of life. And we’re looking at the words of Solomon1300:01:12,739 –> 00:01:17,459today where he says to his son, give me your heart, because even if his son’s well-behaved,1400:01:17,459 –> 00:01:22,360even if his son’s super well-educated, if the heart is in the wrong place, it doesn’t1500:01:22,360 –> 00:01:26,580matter how much the boy knows he’s going to end up in the wrong place, if his heart isn’t1600:01:26,660 –> 00:01:31,000in the right place. So, that’s where the action is. The gospel speaks to the heart.1700:01:31,000 –> 00:01:37,480So, join us today, if you can, in Proverbs 23 as we begin a message, The Heart Gone Wrong.1800:01:37,480 –> 00:01:38,839Here is Pastor Collin.1900:01:38,839 –> 00:01:45,660Now, what we have in this verse that’s before us today is obviously a father speaking to2000:01:45,660 –> 00:01:52,660his son. My son, give me your heart. It could, of course, equally well but a father speaking2100:01:53,620 –> 00:01:59,540to his daughter. Or, it could be a mother speaking to a daughter or a mother speaking2200:01:59,540 –> 00:02:06,540to a son. So, we can hear these words in all of these ways in their different applications2300:02:06,699 –> 00:02:13,699to each of us. But, in this case that is before us today in Proverbs 23, it is a father who2400:02:13,699 –> 00:02:20,699is speaking to his son and he says, My son, give me your heart.2500:02:23,839 –> 00:02:31,259And, I want over these two weeks for us to hear these words first in the voice of a father2600:02:31,259 –> 00:02:36,259speaking to his son or to his daughter and then I want us to hear these words in the2700:02:36,259 –> 00:02:40,460voice of God our Heavenly Father speaking to us.2800:02:41,300 –> 00:02:47,199Now, let’s begin here with the question, Who then is the father?2900:02:47,199 –> 00:02:53,639Most of the proverbs, as many of you know, are credited to Solomon, the son of King David,3000:02:53,639 –> 00:02:57,339who was given a very special gift of wisdom from the Lord.3100:02:57,339 –> 00:03:02,820There are a few proverbs towards the end of the book that are by other authors, a King3200:03:02,820 –> 00:03:09,820Lemuel a and man by the name of Agur but most of the uh proverbs were either written by3300:03:10,259 –> 00:03:16,179or collected by King Solomon and how appropriate that he should be the one to do this because3400:03:16,179 –> 00:03:22,899he was given particular wisdom and this book of proverbs is a collection of wisdom for3500:03:22,899 –> 00:03:25,220our lives.3600:03:25,220 –> 00:03:26,699So Solomon was the father.3700:03:26,699 –> 00:03:28,399Who is the son?3800:03:28,399 –> 00:03:35,399Now, Solomon, of course, was infamous for having had many wives and so we must assume3900:03:36,320 –> 00:03:42,660that over the course of his life he had many sons and daughters as well.4000:03:42,660 –> 00:03:47,779But here’s a kind of bible trivia question.4100:03:47,779 –> 00:03:51,500How many children of Solomon are named in the bible?4200:03:51,500 –> 00:03:58,020You see, sons of David, many sons of David are mentioned and in the genealogies you know4300:03:58,020 –> 00:04:00,919how often multiple offspring are mentioned.4400:04:00,919 –> 00:04:07,300But in the case of Solomon only one son is mentioned.4500:04:07,300 –> 00:04:11,059No daughters, only one offspring.4600:04:11,059 –> 00:04:13,339And his name was Rehoboam.4700:04:13,339 –> 00:04:17,820You can read about him in 1 Kings chapter 11 through chapter 14.4800:04:17,820 –> 00:04:24,239He was the successor to Solomon of course and rained for 17 years after his father’s4900:04:24,239 –> 00:04:26,440death.5000:04:26,440 –> 00:04:32,160And so I think it is very reasonable therefore for us to hear these verses that are before5100:04:32,160 –> 00:04:34,059us today.5200:04:34,059 –> 00:04:44,799First as the passionate plea of King Solomon to his own son Rehoboam the only one to be5300:04:44,799 –> 00:04:47,679named in the Bible.5400:04:47,679 –> 00:04:53,179Rehoboam was 41 years old when he became king when his father died.5500:04:53,640 –> 00:04:58,859So we are to picture then that the father was speaking to the son at an earlier stage5600:04:58,859 –> 00:05:07,500maybe in his teenage years, maybe in his twenties or maybe in his thirties.5700:05:07,500 –> 00:05:13,119And he sits down with his son and bringing collected wisdom to bear that we have preserved5800:05:13,119 –> 00:05:16,679for us by the holy Spirit in the verses that have been read.5900:05:16,679 –> 00:05:24,220He says, proverbs 23, verse 26, my son give me your heart.6000:05:24,220 –> 00:05:28,799So these are the words of a wise father, that’s the first thing to know, a good father who6100:05:28,799 –> 00:05:31,880loves his son.6200:05:31,880 –> 00:05:37,559These are not the words of an emotionally needy dad who sort of saying, love me, love6300:05:37,559 –> 00:05:39,299me, please, I need you to love me.6400:05:39,299 –> 00:05:42,440It’s nothing like that at all.6500:05:42,440 –> 00:05:48,640These are the words of a good father and he is seeking the good of his son.6600:05:48,640 –> 00:05:58,160And what he says is my son, give me your heart, that’s the focus of his concern.6700:05:58,160 –> 00:06:03,660Now, I want to focus on three things today, we’ll spend most of our time on the first6800:06:03,660 –> 00:06:04,660two.6900:06:04,660 –> 00:06:05,660Let’s begin here.7000:06:05,660 –> 00:06:06,660Why the heart matters?7100:06:06,660 –> 00:06:08,679Why does he say give me your heart?7200:06:08,700 –> 00:06:15,359Why is the heart so important in the Bible as indeed it is?7300:06:15,359 –> 00:06:20,399Well, the heart very simply is the command and control center of your life.7400:06:20,399 –> 00:06:24,119Your heart is the deepest thing about you.7500:06:24,119 –> 00:06:30,480Where your heart is, is always the central question, where your heart is today, will7600:06:30,480 –> 00:06:33,760be a predictor of where your life will be tomorrow.7700:06:34,260 –> 00:06:39,540Let me give you just very briefly six scriptures that point in different ways to the importance7800:06:39,540 –> 00:06:41,000of the heart.7900:06:41,000 –> 00:06:45,700First, the Bible makes clear that your heart directs your life.8000:06:53,940 –> 00:06:55,640Notice keep your heart.8100:06:55,640 –> 00:07:00,239You have, brother, sister, a responsibility for your own heart.8200:07:00,339 –> 00:07:03,920God says to you, you gotta guard your heart.8300:07:03,920 –> 00:07:04,920You gotta keep your heart.8400:07:04,920 –> 00:07:09,700If your heart is cold, there’s a reason why your heart is cold.8500:07:09,700 –> 00:07:14,160If your heart is all over the place today, there’s a reason why it’s become distracted8600:07:14,160 –> 00:07:15,519and why it’s all over the place.8700:07:15,519 –> 00:07:20,079Why is your heart like that and someone else’s is in a different place?8800:07:20,079 –> 00:07:24,500You have a responsibility for your own heart, and here’s why it matters, because from your8900:07:24,500 –> 00:07:26,760heart flow the springs of your life.9000:07:26,760 –> 00:07:29,380The whole trajectory of your life.9100:07:29,380 –> 00:07:34,000Where you will be tomorrow springs from where your heart is today.9200:07:34,000 –> 00:07:38,200Second, the heart is a mystery.9300:07:38,200 –> 00:07:41,399Jeremiah 17 and verse 9.9400:07:41,399 –> 00:07:45,320The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick.9500:07:45,320 –> 00:07:49,660We’ll come back to that in a moment, but notice the last part of the verse.9600:07:49,660 –> 00:07:52,720Who can understand it?9700:07:52,720 –> 00:07:56,420Who can understand it?9800:07:56,440 –> 00:08:00,179Can you explain your own heart?9900:08:00,179 –> 00:08:04,619Can you explain why you are as you are?10000:08:04,619 –> 00:08:06,160Why you feel what you feel?10100:08:06,160 –> 00:08:09,640Why you are drawn to what you are drawn to?10200:08:09,640 –> 00:08:16,019Well, someone may say, Well, Pastor, if you knew what had happened to me in my life, that10300:08:16,019 –> 00:08:18,299would explain why I am.10400:08:18,299 –> 00:08:24,299But here’s the thing, other people have experienced something very similar to what10500:08:24,459 –> 00:08:27,480you have experienced in your life.10600:08:27,480 –> 00:08:30,480And they may be in a very different place.10700:08:30,480 –> 00:08:35,619So, how are you going to explain that?10800:08:35,619 –> 00:08:38,900The heart is a mystery.10900:08:38,900 –> 00:08:44,159That’s why Paul speaks in Romans, chapter 7, about his own heart, he says, I don’t understand11000:08:44,159 –> 00:08:46,940it.11100:08:46,940 –> 00:08:52,940What I want to do I end up not doing and what I don’t want to do I end up going there.11200:08:52,940 –> 00:08:54,239Why is that?11300:08:54,239 –> 00:08:55,299It’s a mystery to me.11400:08:55,299 –> 00:08:58,880I seem to be a mass of contradictions.11500:08:58,880 –> 00:09:01,880Third, the heart is sinful.11600:09:01,880 –> 00:09:06,719We already saw that from Jeremiah, but look at it in the words of Jesus in Matthew chapter11700:09:06,719 –> 00:09:08,67915 and verse 19.11800:09:08,679 –> 00:09:18,799He says this, from out of the heart, come evil thoughts and murder and adultery and11900:09:18,799 –> 00:09:26,280sexual immorality and theft and false witness and slander.12000:09:26,280 –> 00:09:32,400Now, of course, we like to think that bad things that all out there and come to us from12100:09:32,400 –> 00:09:35,919outside, but the Bible won’t let us get away with that.12200:09:35,919 –> 00:09:42,919No, the Lord Jesus says very clearly that it comes from inside.12300:09:42,919 –> 00:09:49,640It’s out of the heart that these sins and these evils flow.12400:09:49,640 –> 00:09:56,979Now of course, as parents, we rightly feel a responsibility to do whatever we can to12500:09:56,979 –> 00:10:03,700protect our children from the many, many evils that are indeed in the world out there.12600:10:03,700 –> 00:10:08,380But of course, when we take to heart what we learn in the Bible, we understand that12700:10:08,380 –> 00:10:14,440the greatest danger, not only to our children, but indeed to all of us, is not in fact the12800:10:14,440 –> 00:10:18,340evil that is out there, but the evil that is in here.12900:10:18,340 –> 00:10:20,880In our own hearts.13000:10:20,880 –> 00:10:28,739Now this actually is very important for parents to grasp, particularly parents who grieve13100:10:28,739 –> 00:10:32,500over a rebel son or a rebel daughter.13200:10:32,940 –> 00:10:39,059Let me quote to you from John White, a Christian psychologist and counsellor and speaker who13300:10:39,059 –> 00:10:46,140wrote a very helpful book called Parents in Pain, and he talks in that book about the13400:10:46,140 –> 00:10:55,440theories of raising children that are widespread in our culture that simply assume that children13500:10:55,440 –> 00:11:00,840are the product of their upbringing, period.13600:11:00,859 –> 00:11:08,960And he says this, that these theories assume that children come into the world, and I quote,13700:11:08,960 –> 00:11:16,659as clean slates for their parents to write on.13800:11:16,659 –> 00:11:22,960If the parents write properly, says John White, describing these theories, if the parents13900:11:22,960 –> 00:11:28,340write properly what they ought to write, that is if they rear their children properly, then14000:11:28,539 –> 00:11:35,460they will then produce well-adjusted, outgoing, morally upright and self-reliant children.14100:11:35,460 –> 00:11:42,719And therefore any defects in the final product must reflect parental mismanagement.14200:11:42,719 –> 00:11:50,700Now that’s his description of widespread, child raising theory in our world, that we’re14300:11:50,700 –> 00:11:56,380simply the product of our environment and so forth and so on, and therefore that anything14400:11:56,479 –> 00:12:01,880that is produced that is amiss in a child is to be blamed at the mismanagement of the14500:12:01,880 –> 00:12:04,080parents.14600:12:04,080 –> 00:12:09,140Now here’s what John White is saying, he’s making this point.14700:12:09,140 –> 00:12:19,580Child rearing theories may say that children come into the world as a clean slate for parents14800:12:20,080 –> 00:12:22,119to write on.14900:12:22,119 –> 00:12:27,020But the Bible, if we understand it is saying to us something very different, the Bible15000:12:27,020 –> 00:12:33,799is saying children do not come into the world as a clean slate for parents to write on.15100:12:33,799 –> 00:12:38,500Children come into the world with sin written on their hearts already.15200:12:38,500 –> 00:12:44,340This slate is already graffitied and that’s how it has been down through the generation15300:12:44,340 –> 00:12:49,780since Adam and Eve were ejected from the Garden of Eden.15400:12:49,780 –> 00:12:53,099Sin is already scrawled on the slate.15500:12:53,099 –> 00:12:55,679The heart is sinful.15600:12:55,679 –> 00:12:59,000And that is something very fundamental we need to understand about it.15700:12:59,000 –> 00:13:02,400That’s why it’s a mystery to us, that’s why we don’t even understand ourselves.15800:13:02,400 –> 00:13:05,739You’re listening to Open The Bible with Pastor Colin Smith.15900:13:05,739 –> 00:13:10,200And we have to pause the message briefly there but we’ll be back shortly so stay with us.16000:13:10,239 –> 00:13:15,299The message is called The Heart Gone Wrong, taken from Proverbs 23.16100:13:15,299 –> 00:13:20,340If you tuned in late or if you have to leave early or if you missed any of the messages in the series,16200:13:20,340 –> 00:13:22,739it’s easy to catch up or go back and listen again16300:13:22,739 –> 00:13:27,599by coming online to our website openthebible.org.uk.16400:13:27,599 –> 00:13:31,239Also find us as a podcast on all the main podcast sites16500:13:31,239 –> 00:13:36,039by searching for Open The Bible UK or follow the link from our website.16600:13:36,039 –> 00:13:38,840Back to the message now, here again is Pastor Colin.16700:13:40,200 –> 00:13:45,059He looks at the heart, 1 Samuel chapter 16 and verse seven,16800:13:45,059 –> 00:13:47,200the Lord sees not as man sees,16900:13:47,200 –> 00:13:49,599because man looks on the outward appearance,17000:13:49,599 –> 00:13:54,099but God, the Lord, looks on the heart.17100:13:54,099 –> 00:13:57,400Here’s what was means,17200:13:57,400 –> 00:14:02,520that God looks into your life more deeply17300:14:02,520 –> 00:14:06,559than anyone else ever can or ever will.17400:14:06,559 –> 00:14:10,460God looks into your life more deeply.17500:14:10,460 –> 00:14:12,280Other people just see you on the outside.17600:14:12,280 –> 00:14:15,320They hear your words and they see your expressions,17700:14:15,320 –> 00:14:16,559they look on the outward appearance,17800:14:16,559 –> 00:14:19,479but God alone is able to look on the heart.17900:14:19,479 –> 00:14:24,479He sees into you and what is going on inside you right now18000:14:24,500 –> 00:14:29,500more deeply than any other person ever can or ever will.18100:14:31,679 –> 00:14:35,280And you may not understand your own heart.18200:14:35,320 –> 00:14:38,119Why do you love what you love?18300:14:38,119 –> 00:14:40,520Why do you think and feel as you do?18400:14:40,520 –> 00:14:41,979But you can be sure of this,18500:14:41,979 –> 00:14:45,359that while you may not understand your own heart,18600:14:45,359 –> 00:14:48,280God surely and certainly does.18700:14:49,780 –> 00:14:52,159Fifth, the heart is very important for this reason18800:14:52,159 –> 00:14:55,760that the heart actually often contradicts the mouth.18900:14:55,760 –> 00:14:57,520Jesus says in Matthew 15,19000:14:57,520 –> 00:15:01,919”This people honors me with their lips,19100:15:01,919 –> 00:15:04,520but their heart is far from me.”19200:15:05,859 –> 00:15:08,659Now, of course it is true that what we say19300:15:08,659 –> 00:15:12,099is often the overflow of our heart.19400:15:12,099 –> 00:15:16,320That’s why what we say is often very revealing about us.19500:15:16,320 –> 00:15:18,299Our Lord Jesus makes this clear, doesn’t he?19600:15:18,299 –> 00:15:20,760He says, out of the abundance of the heart,19700:15:20,760 –> 00:15:21,820the mouth speaks.19800:15:21,820 –> 00:15:23,940That’s Luke 6 in verse 45.19900:15:25,000 –> 00:15:26,580But here Jesus is making clear20000:15:26,580 –> 00:15:28,380that that is not always the case.20100:15:28,380 –> 00:15:31,179And it is possible for the heart20200:15:31,179 –> 00:15:34,520to become disconnected from the mouth.20300:15:35,659 –> 00:15:37,700In other words, it is possible to be in church20400:15:37,700 –> 00:15:39,940and to say the right things and so forth,20500:15:39,940 –> 00:15:44,020but actually for your heart to be in another place20600:15:45,299 –> 00:15:47,719and very far from God indeed,20700:15:49,159 –> 00:15:50,619which is why Jesus says,20800:15:50,619 –> 00:15:53,440why do you call me Lord, Lord,20900:15:53,440 –> 00:15:56,520and you don’t do what I command you?21000:15:58,520 –> 00:16:01,900Remember Jesus told the story about two sons,21100:16:01,900 –> 00:16:02,880not the prodigal son,21200:16:03,099 –> 00:16:06,520this is another story that was making this point.21300:16:06,520 –> 00:16:08,400A certain man had two sons21400:16:08,400 –> 00:16:10,239and he said to both of these sons,21500:16:10,239 –> 00:16:13,340go work in my vineyard.21600:16:13,340 –> 00:16:15,859And the first one said, yes I will,21700:16:15,859 –> 00:16:18,099but he didn’t go.21800:16:18,099 –> 00:16:19,419And the second one said,21900:16:19,419 –> 00:16:20,760no I’m not gonna do that.22000:16:20,760 –> 00:16:23,359But then he changed his mind and he did go.22100:16:24,619 –> 00:16:25,619Now think about this,22200:16:25,619 –> 00:16:28,159in both cases,22300:16:28,159 –> 00:16:31,380the heart was in a different place from the mouth.22400:16:31,380 –> 00:16:32,460In both cases.22500:16:33,719 –> 00:16:37,679Sixth, the roots of unbelief actually lie22600:16:37,679 –> 00:16:39,580not in the head but in the heart.22700:16:40,599 –> 00:16:42,119Psalm 14 and verse one,22800:16:42,119 –> 00:16:44,419where God says what only God can say,22900:16:45,359 –> 00:16:49,760the fool says in his heart,23000:16:49,760 –> 00:16:51,200there is no God.23100:16:52,659 –> 00:16:54,619Now the person who does not believable23200:16:54,619 –> 00:16:56,760may also say in their head23300:16:56,760 –> 00:16:58,239there is no God23400:16:58,239 –> 00:17:00,419but you see the point that is being made here,23500:17:00,500 –> 00:17:03,820unbelief has a deeper root23600:17:03,820 –> 00:17:06,060than in the intellect.23700:17:06,060 –> 00:17:08,579The fool says in his heart23800:17:09,739 –> 00:17:11,180there is no God.23900:17:12,619 –> 00:17:14,699Now it is a very simple fact, is it not,24000:17:14,699 –> 00:17:15,699that there are people24100:17:15,699 –> 00:17:19,939who are of great intellect24200:17:19,939 –> 00:17:21,140who are Christians24300:17:21,140 –> 00:17:23,380and there are people of great intellect24400:17:23,380 –> 00:17:25,099who are not Christians24500:17:26,099 –> 00:17:29,540because faith and unbelief24600:17:29,540 –> 00:17:31,560both have a deeper root24700:17:31,560 –> 00:17:33,959than the intellect.24800:17:33,959 –> 00:17:36,660It does not depend upon knowledge24900:17:36,660 –> 00:17:38,680or upon intelligence.25000:17:39,979 –> 00:17:42,020Here we’re being told in fact25100:17:42,020 –> 00:17:44,900that unbelief is visceral25200:17:46,780 –> 00:17:49,260at its root rather than intellectual.25300:17:50,300 –> 00:17:52,939That it arises at its root25400:17:52,939 –> 00:17:56,359from a hidden resistance towards God25500:17:56,359 –> 00:17:58,699that lies deep in the human heart25600:17:58,699 –> 00:18:00,660that the person who does not believe25700:18:00,660 –> 00:18:01,939may not even recognize25800:18:01,939 –> 00:18:03,699or fully understand themselves.25900:18:03,699 –> 00:18:05,920It’s in the heart that comes out of this,26000:18:05,920 –> 00:18:07,260there is no God.26100:18:09,500 –> 00:18:13,280Why is it that two people26200:18:14,699 –> 00:18:18,300can go through exactly the same experience26300:18:19,699 –> 00:18:22,619and one comes out praising God26400:18:23,619 –> 00:18:26,300and the other comes out blaming God?26500:18:28,420 –> 00:18:31,819Two people experience a terrible loss26600:18:33,339 –> 00:18:36,339and one comes out with a testimony26700:18:36,339 –> 00:18:38,760to God’s help in the trouble26800:18:40,500 –> 00:18:42,199and another comes out26900:18:42,199 –> 00:18:45,400with another reason not to believe.27000:18:47,219 –> 00:18:49,459It was the same experience.27100:18:50,939 –> 00:18:52,319Why the difference?27200:18:53,140 –> 00:18:56,660Well the difference you see lies in the heart27300:18:57,959 –> 00:19:01,560that’s taking a person in a different direction.27400:19:03,619 –> 00:19:05,260Why the heart matters.27500:19:05,260 –> 00:19:09,880Once you ponder the command and control center27600:19:09,880 –> 00:19:12,500of your own life and the mystery that it is,27700:19:12,500 –> 00:19:14,439you will see why the Bible again27800:19:14,439 –> 00:19:16,380and again and again comes back27900:19:16,380 –> 00:19:17,859to speak about your heart28000:19:17,859 –> 00:19:20,040and why God says to you today,28100:19:20,239 –> 00:19:23,560my son, my daughter, give me your heart.28200:19:26,800 –> 00:19:28,680Now let’s turn to a second thing28300:19:28,680 –> 00:19:31,140because I want us to see in these verses here28400:19:31,140 –> 00:19:34,560where the heart goes wrong.28500:19:34,560 –> 00:19:37,800When Solomon says to Rehoboam,28600:19:37,800 –> 00:19:40,280my son, give me your heart,28700:19:41,359 –> 00:19:44,079it seems very clear just from that statement28800:19:44,079 –> 00:19:48,000that this is a father who has some anxiety28900:19:48,060 –> 00:19:51,699over where his son’s heart is.29000:19:51,699 –> 00:19:53,380Now remember, as we think about this,29100:19:53,380 –> 00:19:56,339that Solomon was famed for his wisdom29200:19:57,300 –> 00:19:59,560and so here is a wise father29300:19:59,560 –> 00:20:03,780who is discerning his son’s heart.29400:20:04,900 –> 00:20:06,819Now remember, especially in the early years29500:20:06,819 –> 00:20:08,280when Solomon would’ve collected29600:20:08,280 –> 00:20:11,060and spoken these words of wisdom,29700:20:11,060 –> 00:20:13,380that Solomon followed the best29800:20:13,380 –> 00:20:16,579of his father David’s example.29900:20:17,520 –> 00:20:20,079But remember also that Solomon,30000:20:20,079 –> 00:20:22,119see, these are real life stories.30100:20:22,119 –> 00:20:23,839Solomon had a brother30200:20:24,959 –> 00:20:29,680whose path went in a very different direction.30300:20:29,680 –> 00:20:31,599The brother’s name was Absalom30400:20:32,520 –> 00:20:34,660and Absalom raised a rebellion30500:20:34,660 –> 00:20:37,640against his father David30600:20:37,640 –> 00:20:40,300and that rebellion led his life30700:20:40,300 –> 00:20:45,300on a sorry path that had a very miserable end, indeed.30800:20:46,739 –> 00:20:48,819And so, here’s Solomon, who at this point30900:20:48,819 –> 00:20:51,500in his life is following in the path31000:20:51,500 –> 00:20:54,839of the best example of his own father David31100:20:54,839 –> 00:20:56,599and he’s looking at his son and saying,31200:20:56,599 –> 00:20:58,540I wonder where your heart is?31300:21:00,500 –> 00:21:03,219Will my son be like my rebel brother?31400:21:04,780 –> 00:21:06,000That’s the question here.31500:21:08,339 –> 00:21:09,920So here’s Solomon’s fear.31600:21:11,060 –> 00:21:14,540He has a son who professes faith.31700:21:14,619 –> 00:21:18,060He professes to believe the faith31800:21:18,060 –> 00:21:20,500that was handed down from his grandfather David31900:21:20,500 –> 00:21:22,819and now his father Solomon.32000:21:24,339 –> 00:21:28,920But there seems to be in this son a secret longing,32100:21:30,520 –> 00:21:34,219an attraction of his heart, a drawing of his heart32200:21:34,219 –> 00:21:37,099to move in a different direction.32300:21:38,420 –> 00:21:39,619You’re listening to Open The Bible32400:21:39,619 –> 00:21:40,859with Pastor Colin Smith32500:21:40,859 –> 00:21:43,839on a message called The Heart Gone Wrong.32600:21:43,880 –> 00:21:45,959It’s a message that was originally part32700:21:45,959 –> 00:21:48,239of our series of Father’s wisdom,32800:21:48,239 –> 00:21:50,219but we’ve included it with all the other32900:21:50,219 –> 00:21:52,560most requested and downloaded messages33000:21:52,560 –> 00:21:54,000of the past 12 months33100:21:54,000 –> 00:21:58,000in a series we’ve called Listener Favorites 2026.33200:21:58,000 –> 00:21:59,719And you can find the whole series33300:21:59,719 –> 00:22:03,000as far as it’s been broadcast so far on our website33400:22:03,000 –> 00:22:06,079that’s at openthebible.org.uk33500:22:06,079 –> 00:22:08,020also on your favorite podcast site33600:22:08,020 –> 00:22:10,900by searching for open the Bible UK.33700:22:11,819 –> 00:22:14,380Open the Bible aims to give individuals,33800:22:14,380 –> 00:22:18,699small groups and churches excellent Bible study courses.33900:22:18,699 –> 00:22:21,099One of these is Fly Through the Bible.34000:22:21,099 –> 00:22:24,380I’m with Open the Bible’s executive director, John Martin.34100:22:24,380 –> 00:22:26,819John, how does Fly Through the Bible help34200:22:26,819 –> 00:22:28,180with Bible study?34300:22:28,180 –> 00:22:30,560Fly Through the Bible is Colin’s34400:22:30,560 –> 00:22:32,760Whistle Stop Tour of the Bible.34500:22:33,979 –> 00:22:35,459Through that introduction,34600:22:35,459 –> 00:22:38,540you meet five characters from the Old Testament.34700:22:38,540 –> 00:22:40,640Then we look at five events in the life of Jesus.34800:22:40,640 –> 00:22:42,739And then we finish with five gifts34900:22:42,739 –> 00:22:44,780that God gives to the church.35000:22:44,780 –> 00:22:47,739The book is short and simple and therefore shareable.35100:22:47,739 –> 00:22:49,180It’s something you might wanna give away35200:22:49,180 –> 00:22:52,180to somebody as a gift, possibly a neighbor.35300:22:52,180 –> 00:22:55,099The level at which the book is appealing to35400:22:55,099 –> 00:22:58,099is those who are perhaps more exploring faith.35500:22:58,099 –> 00:23:00,199Perhaps they’re new as a Christian,35600:23:00,199 –> 00:23:02,459perhaps they want to see how it all fits together.35700:23:02,459 –> 00:23:03,939They know bits and pieces,35800:23:03,939 –> 00:23:05,920but they wonder where all the characters35900:23:05,920 –> 00:23:07,560and events fit together.36000:23:07,599 –> 00:23:09,900And this is Colin’s introduction to that.36100:23:09,900 –> 00:23:12,239You can find details of Fly Through The Bible36200:23:12,239 –> 00:23:16,079on our website, openthebible.org.uk.36300:23:17,199 –> 00:23:19,619Well, as regular listeners will know36400:23:19,619 –> 00:23:23,079Open The Bible is supported by our listeners financially.36500:23:23,079 –> 00:23:24,800If that’s something you already do,36600:23:24,800 –> 00:23:27,640then thank you so much for your support.36700:23:27,640 –> 00:23:29,660If you’re considering beginning to support36800:23:29,660 –> 00:23:31,439Open The Bible in the future,36900:23:31,439 –> 00:23:33,819this month, we’d love to say thank you37000:23:33,979 –> 00:23:36,239by sending you a copy of Pastor Colin’s37100:23:36,239 –> 00:23:40,359brand new 30 day devotional book, Grow In Love.37200:23:40,359 –> 00:23:42,459Colin, what’s one thing you’d like people37300:23:42,459 –> 00:23:44,239to take away from this book?37400:23:44,239 –> 00:23:45,760Well, I think that most of us feel37500:23:45,760 –> 00:23:47,020that we need to grow in love,37600:23:47,020 –> 00:23:48,800especially when it comes to loving37700:23:48,800 –> 00:23:51,339those with whom we deeply disagree,37800:23:51,339 –> 00:23:52,280but here’s the question,37900:23:52,280 –> 00:23:53,819do you think it’s possible38000:23:53,819 –> 00:23:55,959for you to become a more loving person38100:23:55,959 –> 00:23:58,040than you are right now?38200:23:58,040 –> 00:24:00,780See, the thing is, if it simply depended38300:24:00,780 –> 00:24:03,500on what you can generate from within yourself,38400:24:03,500 –> 00:24:05,420the answer would have to be no.38500:24:05,420 –> 00:24:08,540Our love would depend on our experience,38600:24:08,540 –> 00:24:10,939and if we hadn’t been well loved by others,38700:24:10,939 –> 00:24:14,439well, we wouldn’t be able to give love to others,38800:24:14,439 –> 00:24:19,439but the good news is that love really can be learned.38900:24:19,439 –> 00:24:22,300It’s possible to grow in love,39000:24:22,300 –> 00:24:24,739and God’s Holy Spirit is given39100:24:24,739 –> 00:24:27,300to every Christian believer for this purpose,39200:24:27,300 –> 00:24:30,339so the thing I’d want people to take away from this39300:24:30,339 –> 00:24:33,280is the wonderful hope that as you experience39400:24:33,280 –> 00:24:36,560the love of God poured into your own heart39500:24:36,560 –> 00:24:38,579by the power of the Holy Spirit,39600:24:38,579 –> 00:24:43,040so you will be better able to love others really well.39700:24:43,040 –> 00:24:44,719Well, we’d love to send you a copy39800:24:44,719 –> 00:24:47,140of Pastor Colin’s book, Grow in Love,39900:24:47,140 –> 00:24:49,199when you set up a new direct debit40000:24:49,199 –> 00:24:50,760to the work of Open the Bible40100:24:50,760 –> 00:24:53,599in the amount of five pounds per month or more,40200:24:53,599 –> 00:24:57,280or a one-off gift of 60 pounds or more this month.40300:24:57,280 –> 00:25:00,079Full terms and conditions, and to give online,40400:25:00,079 –> 00:25:04,280come to our website, openthebible.org.uk.40500:25:04,280 –> 00:25:06,880And don’t forget to leave your full name and address40600:25:06,880 –> 00:25:09,479so we can send you your free gift.40700:25:09,479 –> 00:25:11,880For Open the Bible and Pastor Colin Smith,40800:25:11,880 –> 00:25:15,780I’m David Pick, and I hope you’ll join us again next time.40900:25:15,780 –> 00:25:19,640Better love, better,41000:25:19,640 –> 00:25:23,719better love,41100:25:23,719 –> 00:25:27,140How does the human heart go wrong?41200:25:27,140 –> 00:25:29,800Find out next time on Open The Bible.

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