The Flawed Father

Genesis 12:1-20
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Pastor Colin begins by showing an idealised family picture from the 1950s, emphasising that no family is picture-perfect. The Bible, addresses the realities of life, including fractured families.

He highlights that even notable biblical figures like Abraham, Sarah, Hagar, and Ishmael were flawed and broken but experienced God’s grace in extraordinary ways.

In this sermon, Pastor Colin focuses on Abraham, described as the flawed father. Despite being a great man of faith, Abraham made mistakes and faced significant challenges. The sermon reflects on one such incident where Abraham, out of fear, deceives others about Sarah being his sister, leading to unintended consequences.

Pastor Colin reminds the congregation that faith is required for fractured families and that no one is perfect. He urges men to quit deceptions, stop focusing on themselves, and face their fears with faith. He advises women to give weight to the mystery of sin, look to God for miracles of grace, and stand firm in the obedience of faith.

The sermon underlines the importance of faith, repentance, and God’s grace in dealing with life’s imperfections. Pastor Colin concludes by pointing out that God deals well with us for Christ’s sake, encouraging everyone to return to and walk with Him.

1 00:00:00,000 –> 00:00:08,000 Now I want to begin with a picture and simply to say that if this is your family, you do not need the series 2 00:00:08,440 –> 00:00:11,960 We’re looking at an idealized picture of the 1950s 3 00:00:12,720 –> 00:00:16,920 Imaginary family the father reading a book to his 4 00:00:17,799 –> 00:00:20,600 eager children while his loving and adoring wife 5 00:00:20,959 –> 00:00:22,440 Looks on and 6 00:00:22,440 –> 00:00:28,320 The reason that I show this sort of airbrush type of a picture at the beginning is that it’s very easy 7 00:00:28,740 –> 00:00:34,480 when you arrive at church to think that everyone else’s family is sort of picture-perfect except for yours and 8 00:00:34,919 –> 00:00:41,279 That somehow all other husbands are enjoying loving intimacy with their wives all other wives are 9 00:00:41,980 –> 00:00:46,759 experiencing the engaged support of their husbands who of course understand them very deeply and 10 00:00:47,200 –> 00:00:49,200 All other people’s children 11 00:00:49,480 –> 00:00:56,340 Love and respect their parents and of course seek their counsel and gladly follow after their godly example except for yours 12 00:00:56,380 –> 00:01:02,240 I just want to say right at the beginning let’s dispel that myth because there are no 13 00:01:02,660 –> 00:01:04,459 picture-perfect 14 00:01:04,459 –> 00:01:07,599 Families right? That’s an amen moment. I think 15 00:01:08,160 –> 00:01:15,080 So the Bible addresses the realities of life, there are no airbrushed pictures in the Bible 16 00:01:15,099 –> 00:01:19,839 In fact, I was thinking about this if someone were to attempt to write a book 17 00:01:20,239 –> 00:01:25,540 Called all the model families of the Bible which families would you put in there? 18 00:01:25,540 –> 00:01:26,779 I think be the short 19 00:01:26,779 –> 00:01:27,900 I don’t think you could write the book 20 00:01:27,900 –> 00:01:29,300 Who would you put in there? 21 00:01:29,300 –> 00:01:33,139 I mean you think about the the families that were told about in the Bible 22 00:01:33,459 –> 00:01:39,559 Now you think about the family of Jacob and how God wonderfully blessed him huge family 12 sons 23 00:01:40,120 –> 00:01:43,440 He must have so wished that God had given him daughters instead 24 00:01:43,839 –> 00:01:45,160 Because these boys, you know 25 00:01:45,160 –> 00:01:49,360 there’s envy and then there’s jealousy and then it becomes at one point hatred and 26 00:01:49,459 –> 00:01:53,519 In early pools the whole family apart all kinds of dysfunction 27 00:01:54,120 –> 00:01:56,779 You think of Eli what a godly man of prayer? 28 00:01:57,199 –> 00:02:02,260 Eli was if only we could all pray like Eli and you say one of his sons 29 00:02:02,260 –> 00:02:06,139 they must have been marvelous godly people know his two sons Hoffney and 30 00:02:06,360 –> 00:02:11,740 Phineas end up indulging in some of the worst imaginable sins to the heartbreak of their father 31 00:02:12,539 –> 00:02:19,279 You think about David Israel’s greatest King and he has a son whose name is Absalom 32 00:02:19,539 –> 00:02:23,639 and absalom hates his father hates his father and 33 00:02:24,320 –> 00:02:28,139 Whatever David does to try and reconcile with with Absolom 34 00:02:28,139 –> 00:02:29,520 He’s not able to do it 35 00:02:29,520 –> 00:02:34,740 If you are a parent who has had the experience of a son or a daughter your son your daughter 36 00:02:34,820 –> 00:02:37,940 Saying to you in a moment of anger. I hate you 37 00:02:38,720 –> 00:02:43,080 Then you are in the good company of Israel’s greatest King 38 00:02:43,880 –> 00:02:50,839 Because that’s what happened in his family no airbrushed pictures of families in the Bible 39 00:02:51,440 –> 00:02:54,759 Now that’s why I’ve chosen this title faith is for 40 00:02:55,259 –> 00:02:58,240 fractured families and in this series 41 00:02:58,240 –> 00:03:02,300 We’re going to look at four scenes from the life of one very 42 00:03:03,119 –> 00:03:04,960 fractured family 43 00:03:04,960 –> 00:03:09,020 Today we’re going to look at Abraham who I’m describing as the flawed 44 00:03:09,559 –> 00:03:11,039 father 45 00:03:11,039 –> 00:03:15,000 Next week. We’re going to look at Sarah the perplexed wife 46 00:03:16,080 –> 00:03:20,160 then we’re going to look at Hagar the single mother and 47 00:03:20,479 –> 00:03:24,899 then we’re going to look at the life of Ishmael who I’m describing as the 48 00:03:25,300 –> 00:03:31,479 Troubled son. So for husbands for wives fathers mothers sons daughters, whether you married or whether you’re single 49 00:03:31,660 –> 00:03:36,240 There is an abundance of truth for all of us in this 50 00:03:36,899 –> 00:03:44,179 Real-life story that is presented to us in the book of Genesis all of these four characters 51 00:03:44,179 –> 00:03:49,679 They are fractured people and the good news is that all of them in their brokenness 52 00:03:50,479 –> 00:03:54,460 experienced in wonderful ways the grace of God 53 00:03:55,119 –> 00:04:00,460 And today then we begin with Abraham who I’m describing as the flawed father 54 00:04:01,460 –> 00:04:05,779 Remember of course that Abraham is known throughout the Bible as a great man of faith 55 00:04:06,179 –> 00:04:08,240 He was blessed by God 56 00:04:08,360 –> 00:04:15,080 But it is important to remember that men and women at our best are only the raw 57 00:04:15,380 –> 00:04:16,640 material in which 58 00:04:16,640 –> 00:04:23,140 God’s great work of grace takes place the best of Christians including the Christians sitting next to you is 59 00:04:23,359 –> 00:04:26,079 a sinner in the process of being 60 00:04:26,959 –> 00:04:28,299 redeemed and 61 00:04:28,299 –> 00:04:30,260 God puts his 62 00:04:30,679 –> 00:04:36,480 Blessing into jars of clay and the Bible makes that very clear in the story of Abraham 63 00:04:37,000 –> 00:04:39,600 It begins in verse 1 by telling us about 64 00:04:40,100 –> 00:04:42,839 Abraham’s faith God calls him to set out on a journey 65 00:04:43,160 –> 00:04:48,779 Go from your country and from your kindred and your father’s house to the land that I will show you 66 00:04:48,920 –> 00:04:53,260 And God promises in verse 2 to bless him and to make him a blessing 67 00:04:53,459 –> 00:04:57,559 Indeed all of the nations of the earth verse 3 will be blessed through him 68 00:04:57,899 –> 00:05:02,200 Blessing is going to come from God to all of the world all nations 69 00:05:02,480 –> 00:05:07,859 Through Abraham and through his offspring through his seed in you 70 00:05:07,859 –> 00:05:14,440 All the families of the earth shall be blessed and as Abraham is introduced to us in Genesis in chapter 12 71 00:05:14,700 –> 00:05:20,179 There are four distinguishing marks that are very admirable about this man 72 00:05:20,679 –> 00:05:23,239 The first is that he was clearly a man of faith 73 00:05:23,700 –> 00:05:27,279 God calls him to move and inverse four we read these marvellous words 74 00:05:27,799 –> 00:05:33,299 So Abraham went. He moved. That’s the obedience of faith. God says it 75 00:05:33,299 –> 00:05:34,100 I do it 76 00:05:34,100 –> 00:05:38,420 that’s the kind of person that he is at this point in the story and 77 00:05:38,660 –> 00:05:41,540 Verse four tells us that he was 75 years old 78 00:05:42,320 –> 00:05:47,140 This is interesting because the the patriarchs were given an unusually long 79 00:05:47,940 –> 00:05:49,959 lifespan in the Providence of God 80 00:05:50,839 –> 00:05:53,160 Abraham lived to 175 81 00:05:53,559 –> 00:05:56,079 Sarah lived to the age of 127 82 00:05:56,239 –> 00:06:02,480 So Abraham at 75 on a 175 year lifespan is is in what we would call midlife 83 00:06:03,119 –> 00:06:08,040 He’s just at the place where you think now, I’ve got myself established 84 00:06:08,420 –> 00:06:10,420 Settled put down roots 85 00:06:10,739 –> 00:06:17,600 Begun to get some order in life began to get myself established and suddenly everything in his life is uprooted 86 00:06:17,760 –> 00:06:22,239 And the call of God leads him into a whole new journey of faith 87 00:06:23,079 –> 00:06:27,399 He’s not only a man of faith. He’s a man of influence verse five an 88 00:06:28,239 –> 00:06:31,760 extended family travels with him Lot and lots family 89 00:06:31,760 –> 00:06:38,299 And then we read about the possessions that they had and the people they had acquired in Haran 90 00:06:38,660 –> 00:06:42,179 So you to think of a sort of plan migration here 91 00:06:42,179 –> 00:06:47,399 Here’s this manabrium and there is an extended group of people around him people work for him 92 00:06:47,640 –> 00:06:53,079 People are employed by him people look to him for their livelihoods in some sense are 93 00:06:53,619 –> 00:07:01,420 Dependent upon what is happening under his leadership? He’s a man of very significant influence. And thirdly, he’s a man of prayer as 94 00:07:02,140 –> 00:07:06,179 He follows the Lord in faith and obedience. We find him building altars 95 00:07:06,579 –> 00:07:11,579 little piles of stone that Mark places of worship and of prayer 96 00:07:12,000 –> 00:07:14,220 places where he calls on the name of the Lord 97 00:07:14,260 –> 00:07:16,579 He builds an altar verse seven in Shechem 98 00:07:16,579 –> 00:07:19,459 he builds another one verse 8 when he gets to the place between 99 00:07:19,579 –> 00:07:23,160 Ai and Bethel and he calls on the name of the Lord there 100 00:07:23,160 –> 00:07:27,619 He’s a man of prayer and fourthly. He’s a man of remarkable spiritual experience 101 00:07:28,519 –> 00:07:33,980 So not only did God speak to him. I believe in this case, we’re talking about an audible voice 102 00:07:34,899 –> 00:07:39,959 But even more clearly in verse 7 the Lord appeared to Abraham 103 00:07:40,920 –> 00:07:46,260 Abraham actually saw the glory of the Lord as Isaias saw the glory of the Lord 104 00:07:46,279 –> 00:07:49,200 There was what’s called in the Old Testament a theophany 105 00:07:49,200 –> 00:07:55,700 That is an appearance of God in a visible form so that he actually saw the Lord of glory 106 00:07:55,720 –> 00:08:00,519 Can you imagine the impact of that marvelous spiritual experience? 107 00:08:00,519 –> 00:08:06,700 He saw the Lord the Lord appeared to him says it twice in verse seven 108 00:08:06,700 –> 00:08:08,200 Now let’s put this together 109 00:08:08,260 –> 00:08:11,519 Here is a remarkable person a man of faith 110 00:08:12,760 –> 00:08:15,179 Here is a man of influence a leader 111 00:08:16,500 –> 00:08:21,660 Here is a man of prayer and here is a man of remarkable 112 00:08:22,660 –> 00:08:24,660 spiritual experience 113 00:08:26,079 –> 00:08:28,079 What a blessing 114 00:08:29,100 –> 00:08:33,340 For Sarah to be married to this man, don’t you think? 115 00:08:34,619 –> 00:08:36,840 You’re not sure you’re right 116 00:08:37,739 –> 00:08:39,739 But seriously 117 00:08:40,020 –> 00:08:44,719 Is this not a Christian woman’s wish list? 118 00:08:46,200 –> 00:08:50,539 Here’s a single Christian woman and she would like to be married and she’s praying about it 119 00:08:50,539 –> 00:08:53,859 and she’s got in her mind what she would look for and 120 00:08:54,880 –> 00:09:01,700 She says to the Lord something like this Oh Lord, if you would give to me a husband who is a man of faith and 121 00:09:02,559 –> 00:09:04,559 a leader and 122 00:09:05,159 –> 00:09:07,159 a man of prayer and 123 00:09:07,739 –> 00:09:10,380 someone who really knows you and walks with 124 00:09:11,200 –> 00:09:14,419 that would be the desire of my heart. This is a 125 00:09:15,960 –> 00:09:17,960 Description surely of 126 00:09:18,520 –> 00:09:23,940 what a godly woman would look for in a husband, it’s the wish list and 127 00:09:25,380 –> 00:09:29,280 We’re being told in this story that we’re looking at today that even this man 128 00:09:30,679 –> 00:09:32,679 has feet of clay and 129 00:09:33,299 –> 00:09:36,200 And the Bible does not hide this from us 130 00:09:37,400 –> 00:09:43,580 Because faith is not for airbrushed since there are no ideal men and women 131 00:09:45,719 –> 00:09:49,580 Faith is for flawed fathers. It is for fractured 132 00:09:50,520 –> 00:09:52,000 families 133 00:09:52,000 –> 00:09:56,200 And that’s why the Bible speaks directly into the realities of our lives today 134 00:09:57,760 –> 00:10:01,219 So we come to this extraordinary story that begins in verse 10 135 00:10:01,820 –> 00:10:08,280 Abraham, this man who’s been introduced to us, and he’s stretched himself. He’s extended himself in faith 136 00:10:08,280 –> 00:10:09,340 He’s believed God’s promise 137 00:10:09,340 –> 00:10:10,280 He’s uprooted 138 00:10:10,280 –> 00:10:16,140 everything and all these people with him and he’s moved in this journey of faith to come to the land of Canaan and while 139 00:10:16,219 –> 00:10:22,799 Finally he arrives in the land of Canaan what happens after all this journey is that his faith is immediately tested 140 00:10:23,200 –> 00:10:28,820 And that happens in two ways. The first is in verse 6. God has said I’m gonna give you this land 141 00:10:28,880 –> 00:10:31,520 He arrives in the land of Canaan, and it’s already occupied 142 00:10:32,559 –> 00:10:37,780 There are Canaanites in the land Lord. I thought you were going to give me this land as I am 143 00:10:38,719 –> 00:10:41,099 Well, it’s already fool. Yes, I know 144 00:10:41,799 –> 00:10:43,799 not gonna be easy and 145 00:10:44,479 –> 00:10:49,479 The second great challenge to his faith comes in verse 10. Think about this 146 00:10:49,479 –> 00:10:53,059 He’s been doing quite well in in Haran where he was living and 147 00:10:53,479 –> 00:10:57,159 He undertakes this journey of faith to go to the promised land 148 00:10:57,599 –> 00:11:03,900 Canaan the land that’s going to be flowing with milk and honey and he extends himself in all that’s involved in this 149 00:11:04,460 –> 00:11:11,840 Sacrificial faith and obedience and he arrives in the land of Canaan and verse 10 says and there was famine in the land 150 00:11:12,760 –> 00:11:15,820 You’re about rooted me from a place for I was doing just fine and 151 00:11:16,479 –> 00:11:18,039 You bring me into a place 152 00:11:18,039 –> 00:11:21,900 I follow you in faith and obedience and you bring me into a place where there’s famine 153 00:11:22,659 –> 00:11:24,659 What is all this about? 154 00:11:25,440 –> 00:11:27,440 Now some of you know about this 155 00:11:27,659 –> 00:11:33,059 And you’ve come to a place where in your own hearts you you would have been saying something like this, lord 156 00:11:33,059 –> 00:11:36,320 I have extended myself in faith and in obedience 157 00:11:36,960 –> 00:11:41,859 I’ve taken on responsibility and leadership. I’ve given myself in service 158 00:11:41,859 –> 00:11:48,719 I’ve made sacrifices of time and of money for the sake of ministry. I have been pushing myself in all of this 159 00:11:48,719 –> 00:11:53,179 I spent myself in it. And now this how could you allow this to happen to me? 160 00:11:54,760 –> 00:11:57,840 when I’ve been stretching in every way I possibly could 161 00:11:58,820 –> 00:12:01,059 in order to honor and be faithful to you 162 00:12:03,059 –> 00:12:08,200 So as abbreviation faith is tested we read in verse 11 that he went down to Egypt 163 00:12:09,059 –> 00:12:13,659 To sojourn there for the famine was very severe in the land 164 00:12:14,900 –> 00:12:21,599 The Bible never suggests that Abraham was doing something wrong here there was food in Egypt. There was famine in Canaan and 165 00:12:22,320 –> 00:12:24,599 Abraham rightly uses his initiative 166 00:12:24,599 –> 00:12:29,760 He’s got family who are looking to him he’s got employees who are dependent upon him 167 00:12:30,039 –> 00:12:36,619 He has to do what is the appropriate thing to provide for them and the obvious thing for him to do is to go 168 00:12:36,880 –> 00:12:40,200 To the place where there is food and that is Egypt 169 00:12:40,820 –> 00:12:46,080 the problem of course comes when they arrive or get near to Egypt and 170 00:12:46,799 –> 00:12:48,799 Abraham comes up with a plan 171 00:12:49,799 –> 00:12:53,840 Now in order to understand what Abraham comes up with here 172 00:12:54,500 –> 00:12:57,679 you need to know that in ancient culture a 173 00:12:58,679 –> 00:13:00,159 single woman 174 00:13:00,159 –> 00:13:02,900 lived under the protection of her father and 175 00:13:03,640 –> 00:13:10,239 if the father was not on the scene to be able to do that then the role of protecting the single woman fell to 176 00:13:10,239 –> 00:13:12,080 her brother 177 00:13:12,179 –> 00:13:15,200 This meant that if someone wanted to marry a woman 178 00:13:15,700 –> 00:13:20,799 they had to negotiate with the father and if there was not a father to 179 00:13:21,219 –> 00:13:23,219 negotiate with the brother and 180 00:13:23,599 –> 00:13:27,700 that would involve the payment of a price and so forth and so on and 181 00:13:28,099 –> 00:13:32,140 So in ancient culture if you had your eye on a lady 182 00:13:33,260 –> 00:13:36,400 Rule number one was be very nice to our father 183 00:13:36,979 –> 00:13:41,059 In fact actually that’s still a very good rule in culture today 184 00:13:41,599 –> 00:13:43,260 except that in ancient culture 185 00:13:43,260 –> 00:13:49,619 You would add this little bit if our father is not around be very very nice to her brother because he’ll probably be even 186 00:13:50,059 –> 00:13:52,460 harder to deal with and 187 00:13:53,059 –> 00:13:57,159 So if you had a beautiful daughter or indeed if you had a beautiful sister 188 00:13:58,280 –> 00:14:03,859 That meant that anyone who might be interested in her was going to 189 00:14:04,340 –> 00:14:06,359 Treat you really really well 190 00:14:06,359 –> 00:14:12,679 Well now abram’s wife sarah was a strikingly beautiful woman. She was age 65 191 00:14:12,679 –> 00:14:18,260 But remember on a double lifespan that puts her at the equivalent of her early 30s 192 00:14:18,780 –> 00:14:21,460 which means she’s at the absolute height of 193 00:14:22,080 –> 00:14:24,080 her stunning beauty and 194 00:14:25,679 –> 00:14:28,659 Abraham says to her 195 00:14:29,739 –> 00:14:31,739 When he’s about to arrive in Egypt 196 00:14:32,099 –> 00:14:34,580 Verse 11 I know 197 00:14:35,260 –> 00:14:37,119 That you are a 198 00:14:37,119 –> 00:14:37,979 woman 199 00:14:37,979 –> 00:14:39,479 beautiful 200 00:14:39,479 –> 00:14:40,979 in appearance 201 00:14:40,979 –> 00:14:43,219 The guys that is a good thing to say to your wife 202 00:14:43,979 –> 00:14:47,340 Abraham’s a good example here is Abraham at his best 203 00:14:47,340 –> 00:14:54,260 He’s complimenting his wife, and she is indeed a beautiful woman, and he says so but be careful because he’s about to spoil it 204 00:14:54,260 –> 00:15:01,280 I know that you are a woman beautiful in appearance and when the Egyptians see you 205 00:15:01,780 –> 00:15:08,440 They will say now. This is his wife and they will kill me, but they will let you live 206 00:15:09,080 –> 00:15:15,280 so to put it in more contemporary terms Abraham saying something like this is saying 207 00:15:15,979 –> 00:15:17,880 Sarah love 208 00:15:17,880 –> 00:15:20,359 you’re an absolute stunner and 209 00:15:22,719 –> 00:15:26,359 Life with you as my wife is absolutely great 210 00:15:27,440 –> 00:15:29,440 except for one thing 211 00:15:29,500 –> 00:15:35,159 That when other guys see you, they’re gonna want to kill me 212 00:15:35,919 –> 00:15:37,919 That’s what he’s saying. And 213 00:15:38,359 –> 00:15:43,299 so he says verse 13 say that you are my sister that 214 00:15:44,200 –> 00:15:51,080 It may go well with me because of you and that my life may be spared for your sake 215 00:15:51,940 –> 00:15:58,239 Now if we say that you’re my sister then anyone who’s interested in you, they’re gonna say well 216 00:15:58,299 –> 00:16:01,799 it’d be better be very nice to Abraham because he’s the brother and 217 00:16:02,880 –> 00:16:09,099 We’re only gonna be here for a few days get some food, but we’ll get in we’ll get out and everything will be just fine 218 00:16:10,320 –> 00:16:13,000 now it’s important just to know one more thing as we 219 00:16:13,119 –> 00:16:19,659 Grasp the story here and we learn that from Genesis chapter 20 and verse 13 that I put on the screen for you there 220 00:16:20,119 –> 00:16:26,219 This was not the first time that Abraham and Sarah had done this they pulled off this deception many times before 221 00:16:27,039 –> 00:16:31,080 We know that from Genesis 20 in verse 13 because Abraham says there 222 00:16:31,960 –> 00:16:35,059 When God caused me to wander from my father’s house 223 00:16:35,440 –> 00:16:40,960 that’s right back at the beginning of the story when he first left here and on the journey of faith I 224 00:16:41,760 –> 00:16:46,520 Said to Sarah. This is the kindness. You must do me at 225 00:16:47,719 –> 00:16:49,619 every place 226 00:16:49,619 –> 00:16:54,520 To which we come say of me he is my brother and 227 00:16:54,700 –> 00:16:58,260 And so they had gone into these various towns on their journey 228 00:16:58,419 –> 00:17:01,080 They had presented themselves as brother and sister 229 00:17:01,460 –> 00:17:05,280 For the reasons that I’ve described and they had pulled off this 230 00:17:05,479 –> 00:17:10,439 Deception many many times before at every place to which we come 231 00:17:10,479 –> 00:17:16,560 you just say that I am your brother that you are my sister and so they get to the 232 00:17:16,760 –> 00:17:20,000 edge of the community that they’re visiting in Egypt and 233 00:17:20,640 –> 00:17:23,119 Abraham in effect is saying to Sarah hey 234 00:17:24,119 –> 00:17:30,459 Let’s do the brother-sister thing here again. We don’t run any risks with these people when they see you and 235 00:17:31,319 –> 00:17:33,180 It’s always worked before 236 00:17:33,180 –> 00:17:36,400 Nothing bad will come of it at all 237 00:17:37,160 –> 00:17:42,040 By the way, how many disasters in family life and their personal life have begun with a statement? 238 00:17:42,040 –> 00:17:46,760 You know, let’s just do this and some crazy idea and nothing bad will come of it 239 00:17:46,760 –> 00:17:49,959 That’s where they were. It’s a verse 14 240 00:17:50,459 –> 00:17:52,459 when Abraham entered Egypt 241 00:17:52,699 –> 00:17:56,140 Sure enough, the Egyptians saw that the woman was very beautiful 242 00:17:57,140 –> 00:18:00,219 and when the princes of Pharaoh saw her 243 00:18:01,099 –> 00:18:03,640 they praised her to Pharaoh and 244 00:18:06,020 –> 00:18:12,579 The woman was taken into Pharaoh’s house, they never expected that to happen 245 00:18:12,579 –> 00:18:16,900 by the way, if you’re the king of Egypt 246 00:18:17,680 –> 00:18:22,699 You do not need to put up your profile on eHarmony or on Christian Mingle 247 00:18:23,780 –> 00:18:25,859 Why because you have scouts 248 00:18:26,540 –> 00:18:34,920 they’re described here as princes who go all the way around the land looking for suitable candidates to introduce to you as your potential wife and 249 00:18:35,880 –> 00:18:41,599 The scouts are out as they regularly wear and they see this woman who’s just arrived in the city 250 00:18:41,640 –> 00:18:43,099 And apparently she’s here with her brother 251 00:18:43,099 –> 00:18:48,520 and they think Wow we’ve gonna introduce her as a candidate for the king of Egypt and 252 00:18:48,959 –> 00:18:52,760 So they whisk her off the abductor. They they take her off to 253 00:18:53,900 –> 00:18:55,599 the palace of 254 00:18:55,599 –> 00:18:59,119 the king of Egypt the Pharaoh and 255 00:18:59,699 –> 00:19:01,699 I have tried to imagine 256 00:19:02,140 –> 00:19:07,439 the look that must have been exchanged between Abraham and Sarah as 257 00:19:08,160 –> 00:19:10,599 this completely unforeseen event 258 00:19:11,579 –> 00:19:13,239 interrupted 259 00:19:13,239 –> 00:19:15,839 the plan that had always worked for them before 260 00:19:17,079 –> 00:19:24,219 They’d been in and out of many many towns with this rouse and nothing the like this had ever happened, but suddenly 261 00:19:25,359 –> 00:19:27,760 the unforeseen takes place and 262 00:19:29,199 –> 00:19:32,439 I imagine in my mind’s try and picture it 263 00:19:33,439 –> 00:19:39,079 Abraham looking at Sarah, she’s been taking off by this posse of these prince’s 264 00:19:40,660 –> 00:19:43,479 abrams thing you want the world have I done? What do I do now? 265 00:19:45,119 –> 00:19:47,119 And Sarah’s looking at 266 00:19:47,520 –> 00:19:53,300 Abraham, and this is another fine mess. You’ve gotten me into right can you imagine it? 267 00:19:55,000 –> 00:19:57,000 To make matters worse 268 00:19:57,479 –> 00:20:02,520 Pharaoh who believes that abraham is Sarah’s brother starts sending him gifts of course 269 00:20:02,520 –> 00:20:06,599 he’s softening him up to the beginning of the negotiation and 270 00:20:06,839 –> 00:20:10,099 And so we read in verse 16 for Sarah’s sake 271 00:20:10,400 –> 00:20:12,300 Pharaoh dealt well with Abraham 272 00:20:12,300 –> 00:20:17,520 And he had sheep and oxen and male donkeys and male servants and female servants 273 00:20:17,520 –> 00:20:21,859 We’ll pick that up later in the story by the way and female donkies and Camels 274 00:20:22,859 –> 00:20:29,060 Kent Hughes points out that the camel around this time had just been introduced as the latest mode of transport in Egypt 275 00:20:30,199 –> 00:20:32,280 So for camels think Ferrari 276 00:20:33,040 –> 00:20:37,619 two Ferraris outside the tent. I mean this is these are big gifts 277 00:20:38,459 –> 00:20:42,500 Actually, the money is rolling in Abraham became a rich man 278 00:20:43,760 –> 00:20:50,079 through these day after day gifts that are coming rolling in and money being amassed and 279 00:20:50,939 –> 00:20:53,099 Think of his position here is this man? 280 00:20:53,099 –> 00:20:55,800 And he’s outside the palace and he’s growing in wealth 281 00:20:55,819 –> 00:21:01,359 But he’s powerless, and he’s deeply ashamed and he must have been thinking to himself 282 00:21:01,359 –> 00:21:08,459 I’ve got all this money, and it’s rolling in and I’m accumulating all this stuff, but I’m alienated from my wife and 283 00:21:10,020 –> 00:21:13,819 I I’m not in a position to do anything about it. I here’s one man 284 00:21:14,619 –> 00:21:16,619 the others who are with him 285 00:21:16,719 –> 00:21:21,420 How can they storm the palace of the pharaoh of Egypt? It’s impossible 286 00:21:21,979 –> 00:21:27,880 And here’s this man of faith and influence and prayer and spiritual experience, and he finds himself not 287 00:21:28,359 –> 00:21:35,479 Powerless and he’s desperately in need of the grace of God and every Christian husband knows what it is to be their 288 00:21:37,260 –> 00:21:39,260 think about Sarah 289 00:21:39,459 –> 00:21:42,839 There she is in luxury and loathing it 290 00:21:44,319 –> 00:21:46,319 in the palace 291 00:21:46,359 –> 00:21:48,359 and she’s powerless 292 00:21:49,060 –> 00:21:54,160 And she’s vulnerable, and there is no one to protect her 293 00:21:54,160 –> 00:21:57,000 And she’s thinking to herself 294 00:21:57,000 –> 00:22:02,939 I married a man of faith and of influence and of prayer and of spiritual experience 295 00:22:02,939 –> 00:22:05,060 How in the world did I end up in this situation? 296 00:22:07,160 –> 00:22:14,680 When she discovers that she is married to a man who is deeply flawed even though he is a man of faith and 297 00:22:16,060 –> 00:22:18,060 every Christian wife 298 00:22:18,939 –> 00:22:21,760 Knows what it is to find herself there 299 00:22:22,000 –> 00:22:24,000 What happens next? 300 00:22:26,479 –> 00:22:28,479 God steps in 301 00:22:29,479 –> 00:22:31,479 verse 17 302 00:22:31,780 –> 00:22:33,040 but 303 00:22:33,040 –> 00:22:34,640 the Lord 304 00:22:34,640 –> 00:22:36,640 afflicted Pharaoh and 305 00:22:36,859 –> 00:22:41,680 His house with great plagues because of Sarah Abraham’s wife 306 00:22:42,199 –> 00:22:48,099 Is the amazing thing when Abraham failed his wife God protected her 307 00:22:49,060 –> 00:22:51,060 God protected her 308 00:22:51,359 –> 00:22:53,939 Pharaoh calls in Abraham and says to him 309 00:22:54,439 –> 00:22:59,839 What is this that you have done to me? Why did you not tell me that she was your wife? 310 00:23:00,280 –> 00:23:03,880 Why did you say she’s my sister so that I took her from my wife? 311 00:23:04,400 –> 00:23:07,260 now then here is your wife take her and 312 00:23:08,160 –> 00:23:09,839 go 313 00:23:09,839 –> 00:23:11,660 friends this was a 314 00:23:11,660 –> 00:23:17,439 Remarkable intervention of God to save the marriage of Abraham and Sarah 315 00:23:18,319 –> 00:23:20,319 Here’s the two of them and they’re separated 316 00:23:21,079 –> 00:23:26,000 There’s no way that Abraham can get to Sarah and there’s no way that Sarah can get to Abraham 317 00:23:26,800 –> 00:23:30,520 they’re both in a position of absolute powerlessness and 318 00:23:31,760 –> 00:23:33,859 God steps in and God delivers 319 00:23:34,079 –> 00:23:40,900 That’s why in the New Testament. It says this at the right time while we were still powerless 320 00:23:42,459 –> 00:23:45,739 Christ died for us 321 00:23:45,739 –> 00:23:50,219 Before we come to the application 322 00:23:50,339 –> 00:23:52,540 Let me just comment very briefly on this 323 00:23:53,800 –> 00:23:57,119 The obvious question that I think comes to my mind 324 00:23:57,119 –> 00:24:03,219 I’m sure it will come to your mind to is the question what actually happened to Sarah while she was in the palace 325 00:24:04,579 –> 00:24:06,579 Was she violated? 326 00:24:07,280 –> 00:24:10,260 Did Pharaoh consummate a union with her? 327 00:24:11,520 –> 00:24:13,520 We are not told 328 00:24:13,959 –> 00:24:20,640 Some scholars say yes in answer to that question because of verse 18 where Pharaoh speaks about 329 00:24:21,099 –> 00:24:23,099 Taking her as his wife 330 00:24:24,479 –> 00:24:28,959 Kent Hughes points out I think very helpfully that in the story of Esther 331 00:24:29,140 –> 00:24:34,739 which has many similarities remember Esther was taken into the court of King has Euras and 332 00:24:35,180 –> 00:24:41,619 In Esther chapter 2 we’re told quite specifically that she was there for a whole year 333 00:24:41,880 –> 00:24:44,380 Before she was actually brought to the king and 334 00:24:45,459 –> 00:24:48,099 Remember we’re talking here about becoming the King’s wife 335 00:24:48,099 –> 00:24:52,839 We’re talking about becoming the wife of Pharaoh that means a wedding 336 00:24:53,099 –> 00:24:56,739 Anyone who has planned a wedding knows it takes a little bit of organizing, right? 337 00:24:56,739 –> 00:25:00,959 and if you’ve got a royal wedding, it takes an awful lot of organizing and 338 00:25:01,739 –> 00:25:06,160 it seems therefore quite likely from the analogy of Esther that 339 00:25:06,160 –> 00:25:12,880 That while Sara was in the palace. She was not yet actually brought to 340 00:25:13,579 –> 00:25:15,199 the King 341 00:25:15,199 –> 00:25:18,300 Pharaoh says that I took her to be my wife 342 00:25:18,839 –> 00:25:23,579 Does not necessarily mean that she became his wife and there’s one other thing that makes me 343 00:25:23,959 –> 00:25:28,260 Convinced in my own mind that God protected Sara from the worst outcomes 344 00:25:28,359 –> 00:25:31,000 That could have happened here and that is this 345 00:25:31,599 –> 00:25:34,140 that when you get to Genesis in chapter 20 346 00:25:34,640 –> 00:25:36,640 To our surprise 347 00:25:37,020 –> 00:25:43,380 Abrium and Sara actually repeat this brother-sister routine one more time. They’ve done it so often before you know 348 00:25:43,380 –> 00:25:47,959 How if you have fallen into a pattern of doing something it is easy 349 00:25:47,979 –> 00:25:52,219 Even when you thought you’ve learned from it to to slide into it one more time again 350 00:25:52,219 –> 00:25:55,680 and that’s exactly what happens in Genesis chapter 20 and 351 00:25:56,540 –> 00:25:58,300 I submit to you 352 00:25:58,300 –> 00:26:02,959 that it is very hard to imagine that Sara would ever have agreed to this or 353 00:26:03,099 –> 00:26:08,520 That Abraham would ever have suggested it if Sara had endured the worst outcomes in Egypt 354 00:26:09,540 –> 00:26:11,540 The fact that they resorted to the old 355 00:26:12,060 –> 00:26:19,199 Deception again then suggests to me very strongly that they were saying as we sometimes are tempted to think 356 00:26:19,859 –> 00:26:24,979 Well, you know, we always got away with this before and even in Egypt, you know, we did actually get out 357 00:26:24,979 –> 00:26:25,380 Okay 358 00:26:25,500 –> 00:26:29,739 And so let’s just go down this path one more time 359 00:26:30,180 –> 00:26:34,400 so I do believe for all these reasons that God protected Sarah and 360 00:26:35,219 –> 00:26:38,459 Abraham from the worst outcome of 361 00:26:39,199 –> 00:26:42,099 their deception now having said that 362 00:26:43,459 –> 00:26:47,500 What happened in Egypt must have placed an 363 00:26:48,819 –> 00:26:52,699 Enormous strain on their marriage. I mean, can you imagine it? 364 00:26:53,300 –> 00:26:57,660 Where do you go as a couple after something like this 365 00:26:57,660 –> 00:27:00,540 Can you imagine the emotional fallout 366 00:27:01,780 –> 00:27:03,780 for these two 367 00:27:04,300 –> 00:27:07,979 after all that had happened in this extraordinary 368 00:27:09,180 –> 00:27:11,180 extraordinary 369 00:27:11,280 –> 00:27:13,280 Circumstance 370 00:27:13,579 –> 00:27:16,540 Sarah you try to put yourself in her shoes 371 00:27:17,540 –> 00:27:21,380 Women what does she feel as she looks at Abraham? 372 00:27:21,739 –> 00:27:23,739 I 373 00:27:26,900 –> 00:27:28,900 trusted you I 374 00:27:29,219 –> 00:27:31,040 followed you I 375 00:27:31,040 –> 00:27:37,880 Looked to you as the godly man and leader and I don’t know how I can ever trust you again 376 00:27:39,579 –> 00:27:41,579 and she discovers 377 00:27:41,979 –> 00:27:48,780 That she is married to a man who is deeply flawed even though he is a man of faith 378 00:27:49,739 –> 00:27:54,199 By the way, there are no men of faith who are not deeply flawed. That’s what we’re learning from the story 379 00:27:56,040 –> 00:27:58,040 Get real 380 00:27:58,760 –> 00:28:05,880 And I picture Abraham so wanting to look his wife in the face and feeling that he can’t quite meet her look her in the 381 00:28:05,880 –> 00:28:07,859 eye and 382 00:28:07,859 –> 00:28:11,500 He’s no longer feeling that he has a right to her respect 383 00:28:12,979 –> 00:28:18,380 He’s losing confidence in his own ability to lead you know that guys 384 00:28:18,819 –> 00:28:20,819 God 385 00:28:21,020 –> 00:28:28,180 Has given him his wife back. Thank you God, but where in the world do we go? 386 00:28:29,180 –> 00:28:31,180 from here 387 00:28:31,739 –> 00:28:34,219 Well as soon as you get into this story you will see that 388 00:28:34,219 –> 00:28:41,979 this is speaking into our lives into the fracturing of our lives and the flaws of our lives in a hundred ways, so 389 00:28:42,699 –> 00:28:44,680 So let me in these last minutes now 390 00:28:44,680 –> 00:28:45,819 Then draw these applications 391 00:28:45,819 –> 00:28:50,760 I want to do it in two ways and then just a brief conclusion at the very end 392 00:28:50,760 –> 00:28:54,520 I want to ask this question. What did faith mean for Sarah and 393 00:28:55,500 –> 00:29:02,300 Especially to speak to all the women here in that regard. Let’s stand in Sarah’s shoes 394 00:29:02,300 –> 00:29:06,260 What did faith mean for her and then what did faith mean for Abraham? 395 00:29:06,839 –> 00:29:10,099 What’s it mean guys for us to stand in his shoes in? 396 00:29:10,300 –> 00:29:13,319 In all of the flaws and in all of the 397 00:29:13,880 –> 00:29:18,260 Fracturing that is ours and then then I just want to set the end to see how this points us 398 00:29:18,380 –> 00:29:21,819 To our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ through the eyes of Sarah 399 00:29:22,199 –> 00:29:26,880 Let me put it this way give weight to the mystery of sin 400 00:29:28,400 –> 00:29:30,359 You know that are some pious people 401 00:29:31,540 –> 00:29:38,859 Who find their way into church and there are the sort of folks who get very surprised at stories like this in the Bible 402 00:29:39,079 –> 00:29:42,920 Here’s Abram a man of faith, and and he’s behaving like a fool and falling into sin 403 00:29:42,939 –> 00:29:45,260 I mean, how could that possibly have been and? 404 00:29:45,819 –> 00:29:48,459 then he did the same thing again later a 405 00:29:50,060 –> 00:29:52,339 Man who committed the same sin twice 406 00:29:53,939 –> 00:29:58,280 He’s a the certain pious kind of person who just doesn’t get it 407 00:29:59,660 –> 00:30:05,619 You read scholars who say you know there are two stories of this brother-sister thing with Abraham 408 00:30:05,619 –> 00:30:08,099 So obviously it couldn’t have happened twice what? 409 00:30:08,300 –> 00:30:13,239 What world do these guys living if they think that a guy cannot make the same? 410 00:30:13,239 –> 00:30:16,540 Mistake and fall into the same temptation twice. I mean come on 411 00:30:19,339 –> 00:30:24,020 Give weight to the mystery of sin a pious person doesn’t get it 412 00:30:25,699 –> 00:30:27,699 The mature Christian knows 413 00:30:28,140 –> 00:30:32,479 That the problem of sin runs deep in the human 414 00:30:32,939 –> 00:30:37,160 Personality and it does not go away because of a decision to follow Jesus 415 00:30:38,479 –> 00:30:40,479 Let me give you a definition of Christian marriage 416 00:30:40,920 –> 00:30:42,920 Christian marriage is the 417 00:30:43,280 –> 00:30:44,680 union of 418 00:30:44,680 –> 00:30:48,760 two sinners in the process of recovery 419 00:30:49,880 –> 00:30:51,880 That’s what it is 420 00:30:51,920 –> 00:30:56,599 and ladies if you are not prepared to love a 421 00:30:56,880 –> 00:30:57,979 A 422 00:30:57,979 –> 00:31:03,180 Sinner in the process of recovery. There is no other person for you to love 423 00:31:04,420 –> 00:31:06,420 There is no other category 424 00:31:06,800 –> 00:31:09,540 There is not a man on the face of this earth 425 00:31:09,780 –> 00:31:13,060 Who is not a sinner in the process of recovery? 426 00:31:13,060 –> 00:31:16,459 The only alternative is to be a sinner whose recovery has not yet begun 427 00:31:17,400 –> 00:31:19,400 There is no one else for you to love 428 00:31:20,680 –> 00:31:22,900 So let’s get off this piety 429 00:31:23,939 –> 00:31:25,400 That is 430 00:31:25,400 –> 00:31:27,400 floating around in unreality 431 00:31:29,199 –> 00:31:36,420 Sarah please give weight to the mystery of sin. That’s what’s being taught listen at some point in your marriage 432 00:31:36,819 –> 00:31:43,599 Your spouse be it husband or wife will disappoint you. They will fall short of your expectations 433 00:31:43,599 –> 00:31:50,219 It’s inevitable. I love this book that’s been written about Chrisian marriage, and it’s just called what did you expect? 434 00:31:51,020 –> 00:31:53,020 That is a great title 435 00:31:53,099 –> 00:31:58,280 Because it’s drawing us to the reality of the fact that if you have a lifelong union of two sinners 436 00:31:58,280 –> 00:32:01,979 There are going to be some problems, and there’s gonna have to be a lot of grace 437 00:32:04,119 –> 00:32:06,619 Your children will struggle and 438 00:32:07,400 –> 00:32:12,579 There will not cease to struggle because they have made a decision to follow Jesus 439 00:32:12,599 –> 00:32:14,400 That’s not the end of sin 440 00:32:14,400 –> 00:32:16,319 They will make some bad 441 00:32:16,859 –> 00:32:20,380 And that is why they need a redeemer just like you do 442 00:32:23,040 –> 00:32:26,780 So I’m pleading with you for the good of marriage 443 00:32:28,479 –> 00:32:35,719 Please give weight to the mystery of sin and don’t drift through life with a kind of piety that doesn’t seem even to believe what 444 00:32:35,719 –> 00:32:37,719 the Bible tells you about 445 00:32:39,780 –> 00:32:42,900 Second, look to God for miracles of grace 446 00:32:43,300 –> 00:32:48,579 Here’s Abraham and Sarah and their marriage looks like it is over right there in Egypt 447 00:32:48,579 –> 00:32:52,640 No way for Abraham to get to Sarah, no way for Sarah to get to Abraham 448 00:32:54,160 –> 00:32:56,500 This is a marriage that is over 449 00:32:58,000 –> 00:33:03,839 Except for one thing, God stepped in to deliver them with a miracle of grace 450 00:33:04,640 –> 00:33:06,640 and 451 00:33:06,640 –> 00:33:11,599 Some of you may be in a position, even today, where you say, boy, I’ve got myself in a position 452 00:33:11,599 –> 00:33:15,459 I just don’t know how to fix it. I’ve tried everything. Nothing is working 453 00:33:16,199 –> 00:33:21,339 If you find yourself saying, I’m done, I’m beat, I’m spent. I don’t know what to do. I’ve messed up 454 00:33:21,359 –> 00:33:24,920 I don’t know how to put this right! And you’re at the end of yourself 455 00:33:25,920 –> 00:33:27,920 And you’re in this alienation 456 00:33:28,579 –> 00:33:30,579 and I’m saying to you 457 00:33:31,660 –> 00:33:33,660 Remember there is a living God 458 00:33:34,380 –> 00:33:38,839 He’s able to do what you cannot do. Look to God for miracles of grace 459 00:33:40,599 –> 00:33:43,260 Third, stand firm in the obedience of faith 460 00:33:44,140 –> 00:33:48,939 Now, you know, Sarah lived in a culture that was very very different from ours indeed 461 00:33:49,280 –> 00:33:51,280 but I’ve tried just to, in my own mind 462 00:33:51,739 –> 00:33:57,319 translate this story into our culture today and, and with all of the changes that you’d need to make, what would 463 00:33:57,439 –> 00:34:02,280 what would be the outcome of a story like this if it was played out in our culture today? 464 00:34:02,800 –> 00:34:06,920 And what would Sarah be saying to Abraham in the 21st century? 465 00:34:07,380 –> 00:34:11,899 And I think it would be something like this as they’re coming out of Egypt 466 00:34:12,459 –> 00:34:16,899 Abraham, I am so out of here 467 00:34:17,679 –> 00:34:19,679 We are done 468 00:34:19,860 –> 00:34:22,340 D-O-N-E 469 00:34:22,540 –> 00:34:27,159 and don’t talk to me about going to see a counsellor, I think that’s what she’d say 470 00:34:29,560 –> 00:34:31,600 But that’s not what happens in this story 471 00:34:31,820 –> 00:34:33,459 Look at this miracle of grace verse 20 472 00:34:33,719 –> 00:34:38,379 Sarah walks out of Egypt by Abraham’s side 473 00:34:39,459 –> 00:34:44,280 and presses on in the obedience of faith 474 00:34:46,939 –> 00:34:50,899 And you may say, how in all the world could she have done that 475 00:34:52,379 –> 00:34:53,879 And I’ll tell you how she did that 476 00:34:54,800 –> 00:35:00,439 Sarah was faithful to Abraham because she had faith in God 477 00:35:00,840 –> 00:35:04,179 And she knew that God had promised to bless them 478 00:35:05,179 –> 00:35:09,120 and her faith in the promise of God was what sustained her 479 00:35:09,120 –> 00:35:13,360 and it will be faith in the promise of God that will sustain you 480 00:35:14,260 –> 00:35:18,760 in the most difficult moments of a rocky marriage 481 00:35:20,020 –> 00:35:22,280 And what came out of her faithfulness? 482 00:35:23,879 –> 00:35:26,399 What came out of her faithfulness to Abraham? 483 00:35:26,399 –> 00:35:27,459 Answer 484 00:35:27,459 –> 00:35:28,959 Christ did 485 00:35:29,600 –> 00:35:31,120 Christ came out of this 486 00:35:32,620 –> 00:35:35,360 out of the seed of Abraham and Sarah 487 00:35:35,360 –> 00:35:41,540 that’s the line into which Jesus Christ, the Saviour of the world is born 488 00:35:41,540 –> 00:35:43,459 from which he takes his flesh 489 00:35:45,580 –> 00:35:47,879 See, as the two are separated here 490 00:35:47,879 –> 00:35:51,580 the whole promise of God for the redemption of the nations of the world 491 00:35:51,580 –> 00:35:53,679 hangs on them being brought back together 492 00:35:55,179 –> 00:35:58,379 Friends when you’re in a situation where a husband and wife are alienated 493 00:35:58,459 –> 00:36:01,459 There is always more at stake than the interest of two people 494 00:36:01,459 –> 00:36:02,439 Always 495 00:36:03,179 –> 00:36:06,219 Always more at stake than the interest of two people 496 00:36:06,219 –> 00:36:08,699 and nowhere is that seen more clearly than here 497 00:36:08,699 –> 00:36:13,120 Never underestimate what God may do through your faithfulness 498 00:36:13,120 –> 00:36:14,939 and your obedience 499 00:36:14,939 –> 00:36:17,459 and your pressing forward 500 00:36:17,459 –> 00:36:21,540 even when it is difficult in order to honor the Christ 501 00:36:21,540 –> 00:36:24,260 who calls you to faithfulness 502 00:36:24,699 –> 00:36:29,459 And if that is what we learn standing in the shoes of Sarah 503 00:36:29,459 –> 00:36:33,300 Guys, what should we learn especially 504 00:36:33,300 –> 00:36:36,899 Standing in the shoes of Abraham? 505 00:36:36,899 –> 00:36:39,699 Quit deceptions 506 00:36:39,699 –> 00:36:41,679 Quit deceptions 507 00:36:41,679 –> 00:36:48,120 It is so easy to drift through life as evidently Abraham had done 508 00:36:48,120 –> 00:36:53,320 as a man of faith, jusr accommodating this deception 509 00:36:54,320 –> 00:36:57,820 This secret sin 510 00:36:57,820 –> 00:37:01,179 You get away with something and then, though you know it is wrong, 511 00:37:01,179 –> 00:37:04,979 after a while you begin to convince yourself that you’ll get away with it always 512 00:37:04,979 –> 00:37:08,060 and that there’s a reason why you should be able to accommodate it 513 00:37:08,060 –> 00:37:10,300 Nothing much will come of it 514 00:37:10,300 –> 00:37:14,439 I’m telling you something WILL come of it 515 00:37:14,439 –> 00:37:17,520 Every sin has its wages 516 00:37:17,520 –> 00:37:20,639 So quit deception 517 00:37:20,659 –> 00:37:24,120 And if you have a secret sin that you have managed to keep hidden, 518 00:37:24,120 –> 00:37:27,679 I call on you to renounce it today 519 00:37:27,679 –> 00:37:31,360 and be done with it before it brings destruction to YOU 520 00:37:31,360 –> 00:37:38,600 and destruction to the people you love who God has placed around you 521 00:37:38,600 –> 00:37:41,820 And then this, from standing in the shoes of Abraham 522 00:37:41,820 –> 00:37:46,100 Stop thinking about yourself 523 00:37:46,159 –> 00:37:50,580 This was Abraham’s problem, and all guys recognise this with him 524 00:37:50,580 –> 00:37:52,260 he is thinking about himself 525 00:37:52,260 –> 00:37:57,540 Sarah, when they see how beautiful you are, they are going to kill me 526 00:37:57,540 –> 00:38:00,760 So let us just say that you are my sister so that it will go well with me 527 00:38:00,760 –> 00:38:08,020 Abraham, you are so focused on protecting yourself 528 00:38:08,020 –> 00:38:10,840 Me! Me! Me! 529 00:38:10,840 –> 00:38:12,100 All that I have to do 530 00:38:12,100 –> 00:38:15,699 Why do I have to carry this difficulty and this responsibility? 531 00:38:16,080 –> 00:38:20,020 Abraham well you just stop thinking about yourself 532 00:38:20,020 –> 00:38:23,179 and start thinking about your wife 533 00:38:24,260 –> 00:38:29,340 How much pain could have been avoided if he had just done that 534 00:38:29,340 –> 00:38:35,300 How much more pain would be avoided if you would start thinking that way 535 00:38:35,300 –> 00:38:37,780 and doing that today 536 00:38:39,060 –> 00:38:44,479 And then Abraham, as we are applying the lesson from his life to ours 537 00:38:44,479 –> 00:38:47,919 Face your fears with faech 538 00:38:47,919 –> 00:38:49,780 with faith 539 00:38:49,780 –> 00:38:51,659 Guys, you know 540 00:38:51,659 –> 00:38:56,159 We know the stuff that we are made of and fear lies at the bottom of 541 00:38:56,159 –> 00:39:02,100 so many of the disasters that threaten our own lives 542 00:39:02,100 –> 00:39:04,280 and that was clearly the case with Abraham 543 00:39:04,280 –> 00:39:07,320 He’s afraid of what people might do 544 00:39:07,320 –> 00:39:10,780 people killing him and and so forth and so on 545 00:39:11,659 –> 00:39:13,959 Fear of losing face 546 00:39:14,800 –> 00:39:17,580 Fear of not measuring up 547 00:39:18,159 –> 00:39:22,260 fear of what might happen 548 00:39:22,260 –> 00:39:25,080 It’s at the root of so many foolish choices 549 00:39:25,080 –> 00:39:31,580 Would you just tell God today what it is that you are afraid of? 550 00:39:31,580 –> 00:39:35,000 You’ll find there’s a marvelous liberation just to come before God and say 551 00:39:35,000 –> 00:39:38,500 Lord, I’m so afraid of this 552 00:39:38,500 –> 00:39:39,760 losing face 553 00:39:39,760 –> 00:39:42,100 whatever it is 554 00:39:42,139 –> 00:39:44,679 spit it out in prayer 555 00:39:44,679 –> 00:39:45,979 say it to God 556 00:39:45,979 –> 00:39:49,639 and then ask him for his help 557 00:39:49,639 –> 00:39:51,699 Face your fears with faith 558 00:39:51,699 –> 00:39:53,100 Abraham’s known as the man of faith 559 00:39:53,100 –> 00:39:58,699 The problem is, he’s simply not applying this faith that everyone says he has 560 00:39:58,699 –> 00:40:02,860 To the realities of his own situation in which he’s experiencing some fears 561 00:40:02,860 –> 00:40:03,840 Abraham you’ve got to do that 562 00:40:03,840 –> 00:40:07,379 You’ve got to apply your faith to your fears 563 00:40:07,379 –> 00:40:10,780 Every leader has to do this 564 00:40:10,879 –> 00:40:14,179 And then persevere in your calling 565 00:40:14,179 –> 00:40:18,760 because whenever we’ve failed badly the easiest thing in the world is just to give up 566 00:40:18,760 –> 00:40:21,300 You feel like you want to give up on yourself 567 00:40:21,300 –> 00:40:23,139 You feel like you want to give up on God 568 00:40:23,139 –> 00:40:26,379 You feel like you want to just slink off and waste the rest of your life 569 00:40:26,379 –> 00:40:29,879 and Abraham doesn’t do that 570 00:40:29,879 –> 00:40:31,219 God has promised to bless him 571 00:40:31,219 –> 00:40:34,860 and so he steps out in the obedience of faith 572 00:40:34,860 –> 00:40:37,199 and then after all the trials and the traumas of Egypt 573 00:40:37,199 –> 00:40:41,139 he just keeps going 574 00:40:41,139 –> 00:40:42,459 and that’s what you need to do 575 00:40:42,459 –> 00:40:44,139 when you feel your failure 576 00:40:44,139 –> 00:40:48,260 and the mess that you’ve made of your testimony 577 00:40:48,260 –> 00:40:57,040 and the pain that you’ve allowed and brought into the lives of others 578 00:40:57,040 –> 00:41:00,719 And the very last thing is just this 579 00:41:00,719 –> 00:41:04,379 Who’s like Jesus in this story? 580 00:41:04,439 –> 00:41:06,840 I love just to ask that question of any story in the Bible 581 00:41:06,840 –> 00:41:09,439 Who is like Jesus? 582 00:41:09,439 –> 00:41:13,020 You kind of expect that it’s going to be Abraham that’s like Jesus 583 00:41:13,020 –> 00:41:16,939 but Abraham is not like Jesus at all in this story, is he? 584 00:41:16,939 –> 00:41:20,659 Who is like Jesus in this story? 585 00:41:20,659 –> 00:41:22,260 Answer 586 00:41:22,260 –> 00:41:26,899 Sarah is like Jesus in this story 587 00:41:26,899 –> 00:41:29,120 Here’s Sarah, this beautiful, godly woman 588 00:41:29,379 –> 00:41:32,500 And she is the gift to Abraham 589 00:41:34,560 –> 00:41:38,580 And he does not cherish the gift 590 00:41:38,580 –> 00:41:42,600 but he gives her up 591 00:41:42,600 –> 00:41:44,219 And then we read in verse 16 592 00:41:54,600 –> 00:41:56,540 Sarah, the one who should have been honoured 593 00:41:59,739 –> 00:42:02,899 who Abraham had failed so badly 594 00:42:02,899 –> 00:42:07,679 for her sake, for the sake of the given one 595 00:42:07,679 –> 00:42:13,260 the king dealt well with Abraham 596 00:42:13,260 –> 00:42:18,439 And here God sends His Son into the world 597 00:42:18,439 –> 00:42:20,939 and we are given the gift of gifts 598 00:42:20,939 –> 00:42:24,459 and here we are fools who do not realise 599 00:42:24,459 –> 00:42:26,139 the gift that we’ve been given 600 00:42:26,139 –> 00:42:28,620 and instead of cherishing him 601 00:42:28,639 –> 00:42:33,419 when that happens, we give him up 602 00:42:33,419 –> 00:42:35,199 And while Sarah is remarkably 603 00:42:35,199 –> 00:42:37,120 protected by the grace of God 604 00:42:37,120 –> 00:42:39,600 when He is given up He is scourgeed 605 00:42:39,600 –> 00:42:41,120 and He is pierced 606 00:42:41,120 –> 00:42:45,560 and He is violated in the vilest of manners 607 00:42:46,419 –> 00:42:51,639 yet, for His sake 608 00:42:51,639 –> 00:42:58,379 the king treats us well 609 00:42:58,479 –> 00:43:02,679 For His sake, grace comes to 610 00:43:02,679 –> 00:43:08,679 fools and sinners like us 611 00:43:08,679 –> 00:43:10,020 And you may be at a point today 612 00:43:10,020 –> 00:43:15,120 where you feel a complete fool 613 00:43:15,120 –> 00:43:17,159 where your awareness of your own sin 614 00:43:17,159 –> 00:43:19,280 and your own folly and your own failure 615 00:43:19,280 –> 00:43:20,939 and the pain that you’ve brought in 616 00:43:20,939 –> 00:43:25,959 to the life of others is all around you 617 00:43:25,959 –> 00:43:27,600 And I’m saying to today 618 00:43:27,600 –> 00:43:31,419 is that God will deal well with you 619 00:43:31,419 –> 00:43:34,659 for Christ’s sake 620 00:43:34,659 –> 00:43:37,199 And so, however flawed, however fractured 621 00:43:37,199 –> 00:43:39,439 your life is today 622 00:43:39,439 –> 00:43:45,959 Embrace Him. Trust Him. Return to Him. 623 00:43:45,959 –> 00:43:50,459 Love Him. Walk with Him. 624 00:43:50,459 –> 00:43:54,020 He will receive you with grace 625 00:43:54,100 –> 00:43:59,459 And for Christ’s sake, the King Eternal 626 00:43:59,459 –> 00:44:04,760 will deal well with you. 627 00:44:04,760 –> 00:44:13,020 Father, this story is just speaking into our life in a hundred ways 628 00:44:13,020 –> 00:44:19,280 And we pray that in all the ways that it touches each of us individually 629 00:44:19,280 –> 00:44:23,540 it will help us to respond to you with repentance 630 00:44:23,540 –> 00:44:28,959 and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ 631 00:44:28,959 –> 00:44:33,379 so that the redeeming grace that goes on throughout a lifetime in us 632 00:44:33,379 –> 00:44:36,699 fractured sinners 633 00:44:36,699 –> 00:44:39,840 may advance in its work 634 00:44:39,840 –> 00:44:42,639 for the good of Your people, for the good of marriages, 635 00:44:42,639 –> 00:44:45,739 for the good of families 636 00:44:45,739 –> 00:44:50,379 and for the sake the name of the Lord Jesus Christ 637 00:44:50,379 –> 00:44:52,939 through whom we pray and everyone together said, Amen.

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Colin Smith is the Senior Pastor of The Orchard Evangelical Free Church in the northwest suburbs of Chicago. He has authored a number of books, including Heaven, How I Got Here and Heaven, So Near – So Far. Colin is the Founder and Teaching Pastor for Open the Bible. Follow him on X formerly Twitter.

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