Parenting in the Flesh vs. Parenting in the Spirit

Galatians 3:1-9
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Pastor Colin explains the historical context of Galatians, noting that the Apostle Paul established churches there and later found confusion among the believers regarding the gospel. Many had begun to undermine grace by over-emphasising obedience, effectively abandoning the gospel.

Pastor Colin points out that Paul is astonished by how quickly the Galatians have deviated from grace to a rigid focus on law and morality. He suggests this misstep is not unique to churches but also manifests in Christian family life today. Colin stresses the importance of avoiding this error and staying true to the gospel’s core of grace and faith.

Delving into Galatians 3:2, Pastor Colin highlights Paul’s critical question: whether the believers received the Spirit by observing the law or by believing the gospel. He clarifies that this encapsulates four central gospel themes: hearing, believing, receiving, and obeying.

Pastor Colin goes on to explain the relationship between the law and the gospel. He asserts that the law is good, but the gospel is better because it brings the Holy Spirit into believers’ lives. He warns against parenting that focuses solely on law and moral conformity, advocating instead for a spirit-filled life that goes beyond mere morality.

He uses practical examples to illustrate the necessity of a balance between law and gospel in parenting, urging parents to discern and affirm the Spirit’s work in their children’s lives.

Concluding, Pastor Colin encourages parents to trust God and have faith, using Abraham as an example. He stresses the importance of not quenching the Holy Spirit and allowing room for God’s work in their children’s lives.

1 00:00:00,000 –> 00:00:01,760 Well, I hope you have your Bibles open 2 00:00:01,760 –> 00:00:03,980 at Galatians and chapter three. 3 00:00:05,420 –> 00:00:08,000 This is one of the most fascinating letters 4 00:00:08,000 –> 00:00:10,600 in all of the New Testament and 5 00:00:10,600 –> 00:00:12,060 the verses that have been read 6 00:00:12,060 –> 00:00:15,900 from chapter three really get us to the heart 7 00:00:15,900 –> 00:00:18,820 of what it’s all about and I want to suggest to you 8 00:00:18,820 –> 00:00:21,000 that the theme of Galatians 9 00:00:21,840 –> 00:00:25,280 is probably about the most important theme 10 00:00:25,280 –> 00:00:27,920 for us to grasp in relation 11 00:00:28,160 –> 00:00:30,200 to family life today. 12 00:00:32,279 –> 00:00:33,919 Let me try and paint the picture. 13 00:00:35,200 –> 00:00:39,560 There were a group of believers in this area called Galatia, 14 00:00:39,560 –> 00:00:41,599 they had come to faith in Jesus Christ 15 00:00:41,599 –> 00:00:44,580 through the missionary journeys of the Apostle Paul. 16 00:00:44,580 –> 00:00:46,720 You’ll notice from chapter one and verse two 17 00:00:46,720 –> 00:00:50,060 that churches had been established. 18 00:00:51,160 –> 00:00:54,320 Early on in the life of these churches, 19 00:00:54,439 –> 00:00:58,160 it seems that there was some confusion over the gospel. 20 00:00:59,320 –> 00:01:03,880 Some people placed such emphasis on obedience 21 00:01:03,880 –> 00:01:08,660 that they actually undermined grace. 22 00:01:08,660 –> 00:01:12,160 Now, this meant that in effect they abandoned the gospel. 23 00:01:12,160 –> 00:01:14,580 If you look at chapter one and verse six, 24 00:01:14,580 –> 00:01:16,980 you will find that Paul is astonished 25 00:01:16,980 –> 00:01:20,040 that such a thing could happen so quickly 26 00:01:20,040 –> 00:01:23,320 among sincere Christian people. 27 00:01:23,320 –> 00:01:25,239 But this is precisely what happened, 28 00:01:25,239 –> 00:01:30,239 that the strong, strong emphasis on obedience 29 00:01:30,760 –> 00:01:34,800 had become so dominant in the life of the church 30 00:01:34,800 –> 00:01:37,459 that they had actually lost sight 31 00:01:37,459 –> 00:01:41,459 of the redeeming grace of Jesus Christ. 32 00:01:41,459 –> 00:01:43,260 That is what Galatians is all about. 33 00:01:44,480 –> 00:01:47,839 Now this has happened to some good Christian folk. 34 00:01:47,839 –> 00:01:50,160 And this letter in the New Testament 35 00:01:50,160 –> 00:01:51,279 that is so important, 36 00:01:51,400 –> 00:01:54,800 reminds us that it can happen in a church. 37 00:01:54,800 –> 00:01:58,620 You can start out with the gospel of grace, 38 00:01:58,620 –> 00:02:02,080 but end up living and sounding 39 00:02:02,080 –> 00:02:03,559 as if what you’re really about 40 00:02:03,559 –> 00:02:08,360 is simply morality, law, and obedience. 41 00:02:08,360 –> 00:02:10,059 Now that can happen in a church, 42 00:02:10,059 –> 00:02:11,759 and I think we’ve all seen it. 43 00:02:11,759 –> 00:02:14,039 Here’s the application today, 44 00:02:14,039 –> 00:02:19,039 it can also happen in Christian family life. 45 00:02:19,580 –> 00:02:21,320 And in this last Sunday in our series, 46 00:02:21,320 –> 00:02:23,360 I want us to think about that together 47 00:02:23,360 –> 00:02:26,300 and how we can make sure that we avoid it. 48 00:02:26,300 –> 00:02:28,479 Now let’s focus in on Paul’s question 49 00:02:28,479 –> 00:02:30,759 in Galatians chapter three and verse two, 50 00:02:30,759 –> 00:02:33,279 that really seems to me to be absolutely critical 51 00:02:33,279 –> 00:02:37,240 for our thinking as parents about raising children. 52 00:02:37,240 –> 00:02:38,979 Galatians chapter three and verse two, 53 00:02:38,979 –> 00:02:43,979 Paul says I would like to learn just one thing from you. 54 00:02:44,619 –> 00:02:49,619 Did you receive the Spirit by observing the law 55 00:02:49,779 –> 00:02:52,380 or by believing what you heard? 56 00:02:53,619 –> 00:02:56,699 Now this one verse brings together four themes 57 00:02:56,699 –> 00:02:59,380 that are really central to our whole understanding 58 00:02:59,380 –> 00:03:02,339 of the gospel, receiving the Spirit, 59 00:03:02,339 –> 00:03:07,259 observing the law, hearing the gospel, 60 00:03:07,259 –> 00:03:09,820 believing the gospel. 61 00:03:09,820 –> 00:03:11,639 Let’s put them in this order, hearing, 62 00:03:11,639 –> 00:03:14,600 believing, receiving, obeying. 63 00:03:15,839 –> 00:03:17,360 Now look at Paul’s question. 64 00:03:18,440 –> 00:03:23,440 Did you receive the Spirit by observing the law? 65 00:03:24,600 –> 00:03:26,839 Now what’s he talking about, what spirit? 66 00:03:27,720 –> 00:03:29,979 Well Paul is clearly talking here 67 00:03:29,979 –> 00:03:33,559 about the Holy Spirit of God 68 00:03:33,559 –> 00:03:35,919 and just to fill that in for us a little bit, 69 00:03:35,919 –> 00:03:39,080 throughout the Old Testament remember God had promised 70 00:03:39,080 –> 00:03:43,039 that one day he would pour out his Holy Spirit 71 00:03:43,039 –> 00:03:45,220 upon all of his people. 72 00:03:45,220 –> 00:03:48,699 And you remember that that happened on the day of Pentecost. 73 00:03:48,699 –> 00:03:51,240 You can read about it in Acts chapter two 74 00:03:51,240 –> 00:03:52,639 and actually I am going to invite you 75 00:03:52,639 –> 00:03:54,699 to turn to Acts chapter two, 76 00:03:54,699 –> 00:03:56,639 the story of the day of Pentecost 77 00:03:56,639 –> 00:03:59,279 that is so important for understanding 78 00:03:59,279 –> 00:04:00,699 the book of Galatians. 79 00:04:00,699 –> 00:04:02,500 So if you turn back to Acts chapter two 80 00:04:02,500 –> 00:04:06,960 let’s just review the story so that it’s fresh in our minds. 81 00:04:07,000 –> 00:04:08,699 Now at this point in the story 82 00:04:09,960 –> 00:04:11,860 Jesus has ascended into Heaven 83 00:04:11,860 –> 00:04:14,300 and you have about 120 believers 84 00:04:14,300 –> 00:04:17,100 who are gathered together in a small room. 85 00:04:17,100 –> 00:04:19,000 And you remember on the day of Pentecost 86 00:04:19,000 –> 00:04:21,000 there was the sound of the wind, 87 00:04:21,000 –> 00:04:23,679 they saw this extraordinary fire 88 00:04:23,679 –> 00:04:25,380 that separated into tongues 89 00:04:25,380 –> 00:04:26,940 and rested on all of them 90 00:04:26,940 –> 00:04:31,940 and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit. 91 00:04:32,779 –> 00:04:33,980 Now with all this going on 92 00:04:33,980 –> 00:04:35,500 it’s not surprising that it wasn’t long 93 00:04:35,720 –> 00:04:37,079 until a crowd gathered 94 00:04:37,079 –> 00:04:39,660 and in verse 14 of Acts chapter 2 95 00:04:39,660 –> 00:04:41,480 Peter gets up to speak 96 00:04:41,480 –> 00:04:43,000 and notice what he says, 97 00:04:43,000 –> 00:04:46,420 this is what was spoken by the prophet Joel, 98 00:04:46,420 –> 00:04:48,380 indeed it was spoken by all of the prophets 99 00:04:48,380 –> 00:04:51,079 but he quotes from Joel in particular, 100 00:04:51,079 –> 00:04:55,179 in the last days God says I will pour out my spirit. 101 00:04:55,179 –> 00:04:57,440 This is what God has always planned to do, 102 00:04:57,440 –> 00:04:58,279 Peter’s saying, 103 00:04:58,279 –> 00:05:03,059 to pour out his spirit on all of his people. 104 00:05:03,160 –> 00:05:04,779 Well now what Peter then did 105 00:05:04,779 –> 00:05:06,880 is to go on and preach about Jesus 106 00:05:06,880 –> 00:05:08,700 and you can read through the rest of these verses 107 00:05:08,700 –> 00:05:10,000 from verse 22, 108 00:05:10,000 –> 00:05:13,320 he tells the crowd of people who Jesus is, 109 00:05:13,320 –> 00:05:15,660 why Jesus died, 110 00:05:15,660 –> 00:05:17,600 how Jesus rose 111 00:05:17,600 –> 00:05:20,279 and then how Jesus ascended to the right hand 112 00:05:20,279 –> 00:05:21,679 of the Father in heaven 113 00:05:21,679 –> 00:05:23,119 so that in verse 36, 114 00:05:23,119 –> 00:05:24,239 he ends by saying 115 00:05:24,239 –> 00:05:26,320 that God has made this Jesus 116 00:05:26,320 –> 00:05:28,920 whom you crucified both Lord and Christ. 117 00:05:29,920 –> 00:05:30,760 Now by the way, 118 00:05:30,760 –> 00:05:31,920 this is what we mean 119 00:05:31,920 –> 00:05:33,480 by the gospel. 120 00:05:34,320 –> 00:05:36,540 The gospel is the good news 121 00:05:36,540 –> 00:05:37,959 of Jesus Christ, 122 00:05:37,959 –> 00:05:39,399 the Son of God 123 00:05:39,399 –> 00:05:41,000 who was crucified 124 00:05:41,000 –> 00:05:42,119 and risen, 125 00:05:42,119 –> 00:05:43,500 he is the savior 126 00:05:43,500 –> 00:05:45,040 who is able to forgive 127 00:05:45,040 –> 00:05:46,739 all who will come to him 128 00:05:46,739 –> 00:05:49,739 and he is able to change your life. 129 00:05:49,739 –> 00:05:50,980 That is the gospel. 130 00:05:52,260 –> 00:05:54,279 As Peter lay this out before the folks, 131 00:05:54,279 –> 00:05:55,320 notice what happens. 132 00:05:55,320 –> 00:05:56,839 Verse 37, 133 00:05:56,839 –> 00:05:58,760 they respond by asking 134 00:05:58,760 –> 00:05:59,700 what shall we do? 135 00:06:00,640 –> 00:06:02,579 And Peter’s answer is very clear, 136 00:06:02,579 –> 00:06:04,700 he says repent and be baptized 137 00:06:04,700 –> 00:06:05,519 every one of you 138 00:06:05,519 –> 00:06:07,220 in the name of Jesus Christ 139 00:06:07,220 –> 00:06:09,059 for the forgiveness of your sins 140 00:06:09,059 –> 00:06:10,079 and then what will happen? 141 00:06:10,079 –> 00:06:10,899 He says, 142 00:06:10,899 –> 00:06:12,359 and you, 143 00:06:13,260 –> 00:06:14,459 whoever you are in the crowd, 144 00:06:14,459 –> 00:06:15,779 if you will come to respond 145 00:06:15,779 –> 00:06:17,399 to Jesus Christ in this way, 146 00:06:17,399 –> 00:06:18,619 here’s what will happen, 147 00:06:18,619 –> 00:06:21,579 you will receive the gift 148 00:06:21,579 –> 00:06:23,579 of the Holy Spirit. 149 00:06:23,579 –> 00:06:25,920 Now notice what he says next, 150 00:06:25,920 –> 00:06:26,859 very significant, 151 00:06:27,260 –> 00:06:28,279 verse 39, 152 00:06:29,859 –> 00:06:31,839 the promise is for you, 153 00:06:31,839 –> 00:06:33,100 he says to the crowd, 154 00:06:34,579 –> 00:06:38,399 and for your children, 155 00:06:39,579 –> 00:06:42,500 for all who are far off 156 00:06:42,500 –> 00:06:44,320 for all whom the Lord, 157 00:06:44,320 –> 00:06:46,359 our God will call. 158 00:06:47,859 –> 00:06:48,899 So this is very clear, 159 00:06:48,899 –> 00:06:49,739 isn’t it? 160 00:06:50,660 –> 00:06:52,140 God’s promise 161 00:06:52,140 –> 00:06:53,820 for my children 162 00:06:54,779 –> 00:06:59,299 is that if they will turn in repentance and faith 163 00:06:59,299 –> 00:07:00,779 to Jesus Christ, 164 00:07:00,779 –> 00:07:01,980 what will happen? 165 00:07:01,980 –> 00:07:04,380 They will receive 166 00:07:04,380 –> 00:07:07,519 the Holy Spirit of God, 167 00:07:07,519 –> 00:07:10,119 and that’s what God wants. 168 00:07:10,119 –> 00:07:11,739 That’s his promise. 169 00:07:11,739 –> 00:07:13,179 It’s his promise to you, 170 00:07:13,179 –> 00:07:14,179 to your children, 171 00:07:14,179 –> 00:07:15,380 to all who are far off, 172 00:07:15,380 –> 00:07:17,059 to all whom the Lord our God will call, 173 00:07:17,059 –> 00:07:19,739 to all who turn in repentance and faith 174 00:07:19,739 –> 00:07:20,820 to Jesus Christ. 175 00:07:20,820 –> 00:07:22,420 This is the promise of God, 176 00:07:22,459 –> 00:07:24,100 this is the purpose of God. 177 00:07:24,100 –> 00:07:26,720 Nothing less than this is the purpose of God, 178 00:07:26,720 –> 00:07:30,660 that you receive the Holy Spirit of God, 179 00:07:30,660 –> 00:07:33,739 that God’s very presence should come and live 180 00:07:33,739 –> 00:07:36,279 and dwell in you, filling you, 181 00:07:37,239 –> 00:07:39,920 so that the life of God comes to live 182 00:07:41,140 –> 00:07:42,200 within you. 183 00:07:42,200 –> 00:07:44,799 Now, let’s go back to Gallatians in chapter three 184 00:07:44,799 –> 00:07:46,420 because really Acts two helps us 185 00:07:46,420 –> 00:07:48,459 to understand Galatians three, 186 00:07:48,459 –> 00:07:50,820 so let’s go back there as if where we started 187 00:07:51,239 –> 00:07:54,640 and we’ll stay there, Galatians chapter three. 188 00:07:54,640 –> 00:07:56,839 Now look at Paul’s question in verse two. 189 00:07:57,739 –> 00:08:01,339 How did you receive the Spirit? 190 00:08:01,339 –> 00:08:02,820 This is what I want to know, Paul says, 191 00:08:02,820 –> 00:08:04,100 I just got one question, 192 00:08:05,200 –> 00:08:06,820 how did you receive the Spirit? 193 00:08:08,160 –> 00:08:10,920 Was it by observing the law? 194 00:08:10,920 –> 00:08:13,239 Now the answer, of course, is of course not, 195 00:08:13,239 –> 00:08:16,320 of course it wasn’t by observing the law 196 00:08:16,320 –> 00:08:19,760 or was it by believing what you heard? 197 00:08:19,799 –> 00:08:21,239 Yes, of course it was, 198 00:08:21,239 –> 00:08:23,160 that’s how we received the Spirit, 199 00:08:23,160 –> 00:08:25,820 by believing what we’ve heard, by believing the gospel. 200 00:08:25,820 –> 00:08:28,859 This is precisely what happened on the day of Pentecost, 201 00:08:28,859 –> 00:08:31,440 it is what happened everywhere that the gospel went 202 00:08:31,440 –> 00:08:32,599 throughout the early world 203 00:08:32,599 –> 00:08:35,000 and everywhere it has gone ever since. 204 00:08:35,000 –> 00:08:36,400 They heard the gospel, 205 00:08:36,400 –> 00:08:39,799 they received the Spirit as they turned to Christ 206 00:08:39,799 –> 00:08:41,900 in repentance and in faith. 207 00:08:41,900 –> 00:08:45,539 So the relationship between these four key elements 208 00:08:45,539 –> 00:08:47,599 of understanding the Christian faith, 209 00:08:47,739 –> 00:08:50,340 hearing leads to believing, 210 00:08:50,340 –> 00:08:54,059 that leads to receiving, that leads to obeying 211 00:08:54,059 –> 00:08:57,520 and that order is absolutely critical. 212 00:08:57,520 –> 00:08:59,219 The relationship between these things 213 00:08:59,219 –> 00:09:01,580 is critical to our understanding of the gospel. 214 00:09:02,520 –> 00:09:05,479 You did not receive the Spirit by obeying the law. 215 00:09:05,479 –> 00:09:08,000 No, just as it was on the day of Pentecost, 216 00:09:08,000 –> 00:09:10,919 you received the Spirit as you believed the gospel 217 00:09:10,919 –> 00:09:15,580 responding in repentance and in faith to Jesus. 218 00:09:15,580 –> 00:09:17,559 So he’s teaching this very clear principle, 219 00:09:18,400 –> 00:09:20,880 that we need to take in and if we grasp it, 220 00:09:20,880 –> 00:09:23,659 it will deeply affect our parenting. 221 00:09:25,880 –> 00:09:30,179 You don’t receive the Spirit by obeying the law. 222 00:09:33,479 –> 00:09:37,880 You do receive the Spirit by believing the gospel. 223 00:09:39,119 –> 00:09:41,419 Can I have a amen for that, 224 00:09:41,419 –> 00:09:43,080 just to make sure we’re all together? 225 00:09:43,080 –> 00:09:44,080 We believe that, don’t we? 226 00:09:44,080 –> 00:09:45,239 That is what we believe, okay? 227 00:09:45,239 –> 00:09:47,000 Now we’ve got to try and apply it. 228 00:09:47,940 –> 00:09:49,840 Now before we go any further, 229 00:09:49,840 –> 00:09:52,880 I want us all to be clear about the relationship 230 00:09:52,880 –> 00:09:55,099 between the law and the gospel 231 00:09:55,099 –> 00:09:56,520 as it’s explained in the Bible. 232 00:09:56,520 –> 00:09:59,239 Let me just say, if you think this sounds 233 00:09:59,239 –> 00:10:01,159 a little bit theoretical, 234 00:10:01,159 –> 00:10:04,400 I ask you to hang in with me for about three minutes 235 00:10:04,400 –> 00:10:06,960 and I promise you, we’re going someplace with this, 236 00:10:07,719 –> 00:10:10,000 and I promise you it’s someplace good. 237 00:10:11,159 –> 00:10:13,080 There really is though a great deal 238 00:10:13,080 –> 00:10:15,359 of confusion on this point. 239 00:10:16,200 –> 00:10:21,200 Some folks have the idea that the law is bad 240 00:10:22,159 –> 00:10:23,919 and the gospel is good 241 00:10:24,760 –> 00:10:28,400 and that is not the teaching of the Bible. 242 00:10:29,440 –> 00:10:31,520 If you have the idea that the law is bad 243 00:10:31,520 –> 00:10:32,960 and the gospel is good, 244 00:10:32,960 –> 00:10:34,979 that is not the teaching of the Bible 245 00:10:34,979 –> 00:10:37,039 and it’s important to make that clear 246 00:10:37,039 –> 00:10:38,320 because if you think the law is bad 247 00:10:38,320 –> 00:10:39,159 and the gospel is good, 248 00:10:39,159 –> 00:10:42,520 you’ll have an idea of parenting that includes no law. 249 00:10:42,520 –> 00:10:44,219 You’ll say there should be no rules. 250 00:10:44,299 –> 00:10:45,739 There should be no standards 251 00:10:46,820 –> 00:10:49,080 and you will completely misunderstand 252 00:10:49,080 –> 00:10:53,299 the pattern of parenting that is laid out in the Scripture. 253 00:10:53,299 –> 00:10:54,960 Don’t say the law is bad. 254 00:10:56,159 –> 00:10:58,219 That’s not scriptural. 255 00:10:58,219 –> 00:11:00,619 Romans chapter seven and verse 12, 256 00:11:00,619 –> 00:11:03,979 Paul says the law is holy, 257 00:11:03,979 –> 00:11:06,780 righteous, good. 258 00:11:06,780 –> 00:11:08,219 It is good. 259 00:11:08,219 –> 00:11:11,260 Look at verse 21 of this same chapter that we’re in. 260 00:11:11,260 –> 00:11:12,400 Galatians chapter three, 261 00:11:12,400 –> 00:11:13,619 notice what he says there. 262 00:11:13,640 –> 00:11:16,359 Is the law opposed to the promises of God? 263 00:11:16,359 –> 00:11:17,679 Are these two different things? 264 00:11:17,679 –> 00:11:18,799 What’s his answer? 265 00:11:18,799 –> 00:11:20,960 Absolutely not. 266 00:11:22,320 –> 00:11:26,280 The law and the gospel both proceed from the mouth of God 267 00:11:27,179 –> 00:11:28,440 and God never changes. 268 00:11:28,440 –> 00:11:30,619 God is good. 269 00:11:30,619 –> 00:11:32,520 So if the law comes from God, 270 00:11:32,520 –> 00:11:34,419 how can the law be bad? 271 00:11:35,359 –> 00:11:38,760 If your son or your daughter grows up to be a person 272 00:11:38,799 –> 00:11:41,559 who is faithful to their spouse, 273 00:11:41,559 –> 00:11:43,979 can be trusted with money, 274 00:11:43,979 –> 00:11:45,880 tells the truth, 275 00:11:45,880 –> 00:11:48,280 honors their father and mother even into old age, 276 00:11:48,280 –> 00:11:50,000 that is good, isn’t it? 277 00:11:50,000 –> 00:11:51,640 That is really good. 278 00:11:51,640 –> 00:11:54,000 That is not bad, that is good. 279 00:11:54,000 –> 00:11:56,299 Thank God for the law. 280 00:11:58,479 –> 00:12:01,580 So the relationship then between the law and the gospel 281 00:12:01,580 –> 00:12:03,840 is not that the law is bad and that the gospel is good. 282 00:12:03,840 –> 00:12:04,760 What is it? 283 00:12:04,760 –> 00:12:09,760 It’s this, the law is good, the gospel is better. 284 00:12:10,960 –> 00:12:14,880 The law is good, the gospel is better. 285 00:12:14,880 –> 00:12:18,080 And the reason that the gospel is better than the law 286 00:12:18,080 –> 00:12:21,580 is that when you believe the gospel, what happens? 287 00:12:21,580 –> 00:12:23,280 You receive the spirit. 288 00:12:24,640 –> 00:12:27,719 The holy spirit comes into you. 289 00:12:27,719 –> 00:12:30,679 That’s something that the law can never bring you into. 290 00:12:30,679 –> 00:12:34,280 The law is about living a model life, that’s good. 291 00:12:35,099 –> 00:12:38,780 The law is about a disciplined life, that’s good. 292 00:12:38,780 –> 00:12:42,380 We need to teach and train our children in that, it’s good. 293 00:12:42,380 –> 00:12:44,359 But the gospel is better, 294 00:12:44,359 –> 00:12:49,080 because it is about God filling you with his own spirit. 295 00:12:51,219 –> 00:12:56,219 The law is black and white, the gospel is color. 296 00:12:56,820 –> 00:13:01,820 The law is like the little speaker in your cell phone, 297 00:13:05,739 –> 00:13:08,299 the gospel is like surround sound, 298 00:13:10,599 –> 00:13:13,419 the law is like dial-up, 299 00:13:14,440 –> 00:13:16,539 the gospel is Comcastic! 300 00:13:19,679 –> 00:13:20,719 For those of you who don’t know 301 00:13:20,719 –> 00:13:23,659 that was an internet connection analogy. 302 00:13:24,380 –> 00:13:28,859 I want my kids to know that the law is good. 303 00:13:29,880 –> 00:13:33,500 I also want them to know that the gospel is better. 304 00:13:33,500 –> 00:13:35,880 I want them to learn morality, 305 00:13:36,799 –> 00:13:38,440 I want them to see in me 306 00:13:38,440 –> 00:13:41,580 something more attractive than morality. 307 00:13:42,559 –> 00:13:44,760 I want to show them the life of the spirit. 308 00:13:47,559 –> 00:13:48,599 It seems to me, you know, 309 00:13:48,599 –> 00:13:51,820 there are many kids who have rejected Christianity 310 00:13:52,820 –> 00:13:55,200 because all they’ve ever seen is the law. 311 00:13:57,179 –> 00:14:01,059 Imagine with me a family going on a long flight. 312 00:14:02,619 –> 00:14:06,799 Picture them boarding a large 777 aircraft, 313 00:14:06,799 –> 00:14:07,960 you know, the kind where you get 314 00:14:07,960 –> 00:14:09,359 your own entertainment center 315 00:14:09,359 –> 00:14:11,780 on the back of the seat in front, okay? 316 00:14:12,679 –> 00:14:14,700 And can you imagine this family 317 00:14:14,700 –> 00:14:17,580 for mom and dad and Susan and little Johnny, 318 00:14:17,580 –> 00:14:19,460 and for Johnny, it’s the first time 319 00:14:19,460 –> 00:14:21,099 he’s ever been in an airplane, 320 00:14:21,099 –> 00:14:22,580 he’s never flown before. 321 00:14:22,580 –> 00:14:24,739 And so, they get into this large plane 322 00:14:24,739 –> 00:14:25,900 and they find their seats. 323 00:14:25,900 –> 00:14:28,340 Mom and dad have the window and aisle in front 324 00:14:28,340 –> 00:14:31,659 and Susan and Johnny have the window and aisle behind. 325 00:14:31,659 –> 00:14:33,780 They all get in and they are settled 326 00:14:33,780 –> 00:14:36,140 and when they do, mom gets out the little magazine 327 00:14:36,140 –> 00:14:38,539 to see what entertainment is going to be provided 328 00:14:38,539 –> 00:14:40,380 and to her great delight, 329 00:14:40,380 –> 00:14:43,719 it is the latest film by Walt Disney. 330 00:14:43,719 –> 00:14:44,780 Oh, it’s going to be marvelous, 331 00:14:44,780 –> 00:14:46,140 it’s going to be a great flight. 332 00:14:46,140 –> 00:14:47,979 So, she turns over and she says to Johnny, 333 00:14:48,020 –> 00:14:50,900 hey, Johnny, there’s a great film on 334 00:14:51,900 –> 00:14:54,780 and we can all watch it sitting right here in our seats. 335 00:14:56,580 –> 00:14:58,299 Susan, show him how it works. 336 00:14:59,960 –> 00:15:03,039 Well, the flight takes off and the film comes on 337 00:15:03,039 –> 00:15:04,979 and mom and dad and Susan and Johnny 338 00:15:04,979 –> 00:15:08,340 all have their headphones on as the film gets going. 339 00:15:08,340 –> 00:15:12,099 Mom and dad in front are laughing too loud 340 00:15:12,099 –> 00:15:15,559 as you do when you have headphones on. 341 00:15:15,559 –> 00:15:17,460 Susan is laughing too. 342 00:15:18,919 –> 00:15:23,919 But Johnny through an oversight that nobody has noticed 343 00:15:24,940 –> 00:15:26,760 is stuck on the wrong channel. 344 00:15:27,960 –> 00:15:30,919 He’s on the flight information channel, 345 00:15:30,919 –> 00:15:33,840 you know the one where you see that map 346 00:15:33,840 –> 00:15:38,840 and a little plane that moves impossibly slowly 347 00:15:39,659 –> 00:15:44,239 across the ocean and you have numbers 348 00:15:44,239 –> 00:15:48,440 showing the altitude and the speed 349 00:15:48,440 –> 00:15:51,260 and the number of miles traveled and the change 350 00:15:51,260 –> 00:15:54,080 and then occasionally you see a flat view 351 00:15:54,080 –> 00:15:59,080 and then the vertical view and Johnny watches it. 352 00:15:59,260 –> 00:16:04,260 And after about half an hour his eyes glaze over 353 00:16:07,479 –> 00:16:09,000 because he’s completely bored. 354 00:16:10,239 –> 00:16:12,640 He sees his mother and father in front laughing 355 00:16:12,760 –> 00:16:17,119 and excited and what do they think is so funny 356 00:16:17,119 –> 00:16:19,460 about this map and the little numbers? 357 00:16:22,080 –> 00:16:25,020 Eventually the family gets off the plane 358 00:16:25,020 –> 00:16:29,059 and nobody knows that Johnny missed the film. 359 00:16:29,940 –> 00:16:31,539 They all assumed that he saw it. 360 00:16:33,299 –> 00:16:36,159 So his dad says hey Johnny, I bet you enjoyed 361 00:16:36,159 –> 00:16:38,140 the film wasn’t that great. 362 00:16:40,000 –> 00:16:42,200 Johnny can’t really work out why they thought 363 00:16:42,280 –> 00:16:44,960 it was so good, but let’s face it, 364 00:16:44,960 –> 00:16:49,179 grownups are strange and sometimes a little dull. 365 00:16:50,159 –> 00:16:52,080 And perhaps they do think it was great, 366 00:16:52,080 –> 00:16:54,500 but when I grow up I want to have 367 00:16:54,500 –> 00:16:55,880 more fun than that. 368 00:17:00,500 –> 00:17:03,080 There are many kids who have rejected Christianity 369 00:17:03,080 –> 00:17:05,140 because all they’ve ever seen is the law. 370 00:17:05,699 –> 00:17:10,699 And I want to speak to you if that’s your position today. 371 00:17:14,959 –> 00:17:18,180 if you think Christianity is boring, 372 00:17:18,180 –> 00:17:22,619 you have not yet seen or grasped the gospel. 373 00:17:24,579 –> 00:17:29,579 How in all the world could being filled 374 00:17:30,119 –> 00:17:32,839 with the spirit of the living God, 375 00:17:32,900 –> 00:17:36,140 the creator of the universe, be boring? 376 00:17:37,500 –> 00:17:38,959 How could it be? 377 00:17:42,939 –> 00:17:47,939 I encourage you, if that’s where you are, 378 00:17:50,260 –> 00:17:52,119 don’t reject the gospel 379 00:17:53,739 –> 00:17:56,099 because all you’ve been looking at is the law. 380 00:17:57,060 –> 00:18:00,199 Be boring. 381 00:18:00,199 –> 00:18:03,199 Now, I want to give some pastoral advice here. 382 00:18:04,199 –> 00:18:05,219 And that’s all that it is. 383 00:18:05,219 –> 00:18:07,140 It is pastoral advice. 384 00:18:08,500 –> 00:18:11,560 But it seems to me that a child brought up 385 00:18:11,560 –> 00:18:15,699 in a Christian home and brought regularly 386 00:18:15,699 –> 00:18:18,660 to a Christian church is, frankly, 387 00:18:18,660 –> 00:18:21,500 very likely to make a profession of faith 388 00:18:21,500 –> 00:18:23,660 early on in life. 389 00:18:23,660 –> 00:18:24,939 I did this myself. 390 00:18:26,780 –> 00:18:28,119 My children did the same. 391 00:18:30,300 –> 00:18:33,800 If that happens, parents should rejoice. 392 00:18:35,020 –> 00:18:38,579 But be very careful not to affirm more 393 00:18:38,579 –> 00:18:40,719 than the child has experienced. 394 00:18:41,660 –> 00:18:43,660 Remember that, especially at an early age, 395 00:18:43,660 –> 00:18:45,880 though indeed there may be a conversion, 396 00:18:45,880 –> 00:18:48,599 I look back at my own commitment to Christ 397 00:18:48,599 –> 00:18:50,780 at the age of six and see that there was indeed 398 00:18:50,780 –> 00:18:52,380 a work of grace at that time. 399 00:18:53,020 –> 00:18:58,020 But remember that it is also possible 400 00:18:58,599 –> 00:19:01,119 that a child may simply be conforming 401 00:19:01,119 –> 00:19:02,199 to what you are teaching, 402 00:19:02,199 –> 00:19:04,199 especially if you’ve taught it strongly. 403 00:19:06,219 –> 00:19:11,219 And assuming that a child has received the Spirit 404 00:19:11,280 –> 00:19:13,680 when all they’re really doing is obeying the law 405 00:19:13,680 –> 00:19:16,619 and conforming to what you have taught them 406 00:19:16,619 –> 00:19:18,040 creates some problems. 407 00:19:19,000 –> 00:19:22,400 This is why we must be very careful 408 00:19:22,400 –> 00:19:23,880 in the home and in the church 409 00:19:23,880 –> 00:19:27,160 never to exert pressure for a child 410 00:19:27,160 –> 00:19:30,479 to make a decision which they may well do 411 00:19:30,479 –> 00:19:31,939 just to please us. 412 00:19:33,319 –> 00:19:35,060 And then think that they have the gospel 413 00:19:35,060 –> 00:19:36,459 when actually all they have is the law. 414 00:19:36,459 –> 00:19:38,500 They’re conforming to our expectations. 415 00:19:40,760 –> 00:19:42,119 Here’s the exhortation. 416 00:19:42,119 –> 00:19:45,819 Trust God to do His own work in His own time. 417 00:19:46,380 –> 00:19:48,739 Don’t confuse the law with the gospel. 418 00:19:49,900 –> 00:19:53,800 Never mistake conformity for conversion. 419 00:19:55,579 –> 00:19:56,660 Now, with these things in mind, 420 00:19:56,660 –> 00:19:58,699 I want briefly to take a look 421 00:19:58,699 –> 00:20:02,459 at what we framed today as the difference 422 00:20:02,459 –> 00:20:04,939 between parenting in the flesh 423 00:20:04,939 –> 00:20:07,199 and parenting in the spirit. 424 00:20:07,199 –> 00:20:08,500 Which is really just another way 425 00:20:08,500 –> 00:20:12,000 of expressing the difference between law and gospel. 426 00:20:12,859 –> 00:20:13,800 And I’ve found it helpful 427 00:20:13,800 –> 00:20:16,239 to think of parenting in the spirit 428 00:20:16,239 –> 00:20:20,000 as being rather like walking on a narrow wall 429 00:20:20,000 –> 00:20:22,939 with water on either side. 430 00:20:22,939 –> 00:20:26,959 The water is called parenting in the flesh. 431 00:20:26,959 –> 00:20:29,819 And obviously, from this picture, 432 00:20:29,819 –> 00:20:32,859 what we’re saying is you don’t wanna fall into the water. 433 00:20:32,859 –> 00:20:34,760 You can fall into the water actually 434 00:20:34,760 –> 00:20:36,859 in one of two directions as we’ll see. 435 00:20:36,859 –> 00:20:41,439 The first is simply trusting in human works. 436 00:20:42,680 –> 00:20:43,599 Now what that’s all about 437 00:20:43,640 –> 00:20:45,520 is simply this, it’s the kind of parenting 438 00:20:45,520 –> 00:20:46,920 in the flesh that says, 439 00:20:46,920 –> 00:20:51,920 if I do certain things as a parent 440 00:20:51,920 –> 00:20:54,619 and do them absolutely right, 441 00:20:54,619 –> 00:20:57,500 then all will be well with my child. 442 00:20:58,699 –> 00:20:59,959 And that is just the mistake 443 00:20:59,959 –> 00:21:03,040 that the Galatians were into applied in another way. 444 00:21:03,040 –> 00:21:04,560 You know, if I do the Bible reading, 445 00:21:04,560 –> 00:21:07,500 if I do the prayers, if I provide and order at home, 446 00:21:07,500 –> 00:21:10,900 if I exercise discipline, if I get everything right, 447 00:21:14,199 –> 00:21:16,400 now if you go away from family life month 448 00:21:16,400 –> 00:21:19,699 with a sense of, I’ve got to get everything right, help, 449 00:21:20,800 –> 00:21:23,040 if that’s the message you take away, 450 00:21:23,040 –> 00:21:25,660 you will be under an impossible burden. 451 00:21:27,119 –> 00:21:30,739 And some of us are feeling under that impossible burden 452 00:21:30,739 –> 00:21:33,140 and we need to be released from it. 453 00:21:35,439 –> 00:21:38,079 The Galatian believers started their journey with faith. 454 00:21:38,079 –> 00:21:38,979 They ended up living 455 00:21:38,979 –> 00:21:41,119 as if everything depended on their work. 456 00:21:41,979 –> 00:21:44,239 And there is no area, it seems to me, 457 00:21:44,239 –> 00:21:46,699 where we are more likely to fall into that error today 458 00:21:46,699 –> 00:21:48,400 than the area of parenting. 459 00:21:48,400 –> 00:21:51,939 Remember we believe in salvation by grace 460 00:21:51,939 –> 00:21:54,119 through faith in Christ. 461 00:21:54,119 –> 00:21:57,260 We do not believe in salvation by parenting. 462 00:21:57,260 –> 00:22:00,260 Thank God for that because if we did, 463 00:22:00,260 –> 00:22:02,959 you and I would be under an impossible burden. 464 00:22:04,239 –> 00:22:06,719 Your child’s salvation does not depend 465 00:22:06,719 –> 00:22:09,359 on you being the perfect parent, thank God for that. 466 00:22:09,359 –> 00:22:13,680 It is God who saves, not you, 467 00:22:13,680 –> 00:22:15,479 even when it comes to your children. 468 00:22:17,280 –> 00:22:19,520 I will never forget the conversation 469 00:22:19,520 –> 00:22:22,420 where the ugliness of this came home to me. 470 00:22:24,880 –> 00:22:28,180 I was talking with a couple who had two daughters 471 00:22:28,180 –> 00:22:31,640 who had both grown up to be fine Christian women. 472 00:22:32,619 –> 00:22:35,560 They were distantly related to another couple 473 00:22:35,560 –> 00:22:38,880 in the same church who also had two daughters 474 00:22:38,880 –> 00:22:42,520 who had grown up and had turned far, far away from the Lord. 475 00:22:44,319 –> 00:22:46,319 Speaking with this first couple, 476 00:22:46,319 –> 00:22:50,680 they spoke with sadness about the second couple’s two girls 477 00:22:50,680 –> 00:22:52,000 and then they said this. 478 00:22:54,119 –> 00:22:57,819 If only their parents had done what we did, 479 00:22:57,819 –> 00:22:59,640 it could all have been so different. 480 00:23:00,959 –> 00:23:02,780 And I nearly died when they said it. 481 00:23:05,000 –> 00:23:08,500 They just robbed God of all the glory 482 00:23:09,520 –> 00:23:12,199 of what he done in the lives of their own kids. 483 00:23:13,959 –> 00:23:18,439 Not only that, they turned the salvation of their children 484 00:23:18,439 –> 00:23:20,900 from a glorious work of grace 485 00:23:23,119 –> 00:23:25,180 into a work of human effort. 486 00:23:27,640 –> 00:23:29,839 That’s placing your confidence in human works 487 00:23:29,839 –> 00:23:31,140 rather than the grace of God. 488 00:23:31,140 –> 00:23:33,819 Beware of turning your child’s salvation 489 00:23:33,819 –> 00:23:36,540 into a human work, don’t go there! 490 00:23:37,380 –> 00:23:39,959 Because if you do, you will either sink 491 00:23:39,959 –> 00:23:44,800 under an impossible burden or you will be lured 492 00:23:44,800 –> 00:23:46,900 into an obnoxious pride. 493 00:23:49,979 –> 00:23:53,020 Your son, your daughter’s salvation is by grace 494 00:23:53,020 –> 00:23:58,000 through faith in Christ and that is why there’s always hope 495 00:23:58,760 –> 00:24:00,380 for your kids. 496 00:24:00,380 –> 00:24:02,040 Praise God for that. 497 00:24:02,760 –> 00:24:07,760 Let’s not fall off the wall of parenting in the spirit 498 00:24:08,920 –> 00:24:12,640 into the waters of parenting in the flesh 499 00:24:12,640 –> 00:24:16,599 by thinking as if it all depends on us 500 00:24:16,599 –> 00:24:19,479 and turn the grace of God into a human work. 501 00:24:19,479 –> 00:24:20,579 Don’t do that. 502 00:24:20,579 –> 00:24:22,520 Be released from that burden. 503 00:24:24,079 –> 00:24:24,979 Be released. 504 00:24:27,859 –> 00:24:30,000 Second, quenching the Holy Spirit. 505 00:24:30,479 –> 00:24:33,160 The thing here is that there is water 506 00:24:33,160 –> 00:24:35,300 on both sides of the wall, 507 00:24:35,300 –> 00:24:37,560 and there are two ways in which you can fall 508 00:24:37,560 –> 00:24:38,959 into parenting in the flesh. 509 00:24:38,959 –> 00:24:41,000 One is that you end up trusting in your own works 510 00:24:41,000 –> 00:24:42,640 as if everything depended on you 511 00:24:42,640 –> 00:24:44,599 and you live under an impossible burden. 512 00:24:44,599 –> 00:24:46,959 The other is that you quench the Holy Spirit 513 00:24:46,959 –> 00:24:49,219 by failing to recognize what he is doing. 514 00:24:52,560 –> 00:24:54,439 Now, we do indeed quench the Spirit 515 00:24:54,439 –> 00:24:56,719 when our eyes are closed to his work. 516 00:24:56,719 –> 00:25:01,040 Remember this. 517 00:25:01,040 –> 00:25:04,180 The Holy Spirit is always at work 518 00:25:04,180 –> 00:25:05,800 in the life of your child. 519 00:25:08,479 –> 00:25:10,479 Whether or not he or she is a believer, 520 00:25:10,479 –> 00:25:12,660 remember Jesus said, 521 00:25:12,660 –> 00:25:15,859 my Father is always working. 522 00:25:18,680 –> 00:25:22,560 The Holy Spirit is always at work 523 00:25:22,560 –> 00:25:24,079 in the life of your child, 524 00:25:24,079 –> 00:25:25,560 or each of your children. 525 00:25:25,560 –> 00:25:27,359 God is always at work, 526 00:25:27,359 –> 00:25:30,680 your privilege as a parent and mine 527 00:25:30,680 –> 00:25:33,359 is to try and discern what God is doing 528 00:25:33,359 –> 00:25:35,959 in the life of your child and then to encourage it. 529 00:25:38,680 –> 00:25:40,400 Now, the thing that makes this difficult, of course, 530 00:25:40,400 –> 00:25:43,920 is that God doesn’t send report cards, right? 531 00:25:43,920 –> 00:25:46,260 See, it’s easy to know how your kids are doing at school 532 00:25:46,260 –> 00:25:48,020 because they send you report cards. 533 00:25:48,920 –> 00:25:52,699 It’s easy to know how your kids are doing in sports 534 00:25:52,699 –> 00:25:54,219 because you can see the progress 535 00:25:54,219 –> 00:25:55,579 while you stand on the touch line 536 00:25:55,579 –> 00:25:59,540 or sit in the stands and shout and so forth and cheer. 537 00:26:00,760 –> 00:26:04,020 So it’s easy to affirm these things, isn’t it? 538 00:26:05,000 –> 00:26:07,739 Hey, son, I just saw your report card, 539 00:26:07,739 –> 00:26:09,319 straight A’s, good job! 540 00:26:09,319 –> 00:26:10,859 Way to go! 541 00:26:10,859 –> 00:26:12,099 Or something like that. 542 00:26:12,979 –> 00:26:17,979 Or in sports, hey, home run, way to go. 543 00:26:19,040 –> 00:26:22,319 That was a sweet pass out to the left wing. 544 00:26:22,319 –> 00:26:23,380 Beautiful. 545 00:26:24,500 –> 00:26:29,119 Three pointer with five seconds to go on the clock, ow! 546 00:26:29,119 –> 00:26:31,339 See, it’s easy to affirm these things. 547 00:26:34,859 –> 00:26:39,479 If these are the main things that are affirmed in your home, 548 00:26:41,160 –> 00:26:42,819 what will your child grow up thinking 549 00:26:42,819 –> 00:26:44,380 is really important in life? 550 00:26:46,839 –> 00:26:48,099 Straight A’s in sports. 551 00:26:48,199 –> 00:26:53,199 What about parenting that’s parenting in the flesh? 552 00:26:56,819 –> 00:26:59,280 Quenching the work of the spirit? 553 00:27:00,260 –> 00:27:01,560 If that’s all we’re doing, 554 00:27:04,199 –> 00:27:05,500 what about, 555 00:27:07,579 –> 00:27:08,859 do you know, I heard that 556 00:27:08,859 –> 00:27:11,420 you spoke to that new kid in the youth group 557 00:27:11,420 –> 00:27:15,780 who was on her own and didn’t know anybody, 558 00:27:15,780 –> 00:27:20,380 I thought that was terrific, way to go. 559 00:27:23,959 –> 00:27:26,280 What about, you know, 560 00:27:26,280 –> 00:27:29,540 I saw that you really were sorry about that, 561 00:27:29,540 –> 00:27:31,219 and I think God knows that too, 562 00:27:31,219 –> 00:27:35,800 that’s terrific, I think God’s doing that in your life, 563 00:2736,859 –> 00:27:37,699 it’s wonderful. 564 00:27:41,199 –> 00:27:45,199 Now I want to suggest this as a serious, 565 00:27:45,199 –> 00:27:48,099 daily prayer for every parent. 566 00:27:50,260 –> 00:27:54,119 Because heaven doesn’t send report cards. 567 00:27:56,079 –> 00:27:59,180 You need the help of the Holy Spirit to discern 568 00:28:00,199 –> 00:28:03,319 what God is doing in the life of your believing child 569 00:28:03,319 –> 00:28:07,199 or your unbelieving child and then to pray into it 570 00:28:07,199 –> 00:28:08,319 and to encourage it. 571 00:28:10,160 –> 00:28:13,479 So learn to pray like this. 572 00:28:14,479 –> 00:28:18,760 Lord open my eyes to see what you’re doing 573 00:28:18,760 –> 00:28:22,119 in the name of your son or your daughter’s life. 574 00:28:24,199 –> 00:28:25,900 And start praying into that. 575 00:28:26,760 –> 00:28:29,160 Affirm that, go with that. 576 00:28:30,540 –> 00:28:35,000 And let the kids know that that is more important to you 577 00:28:35,000 –> 00:28:38,040 than anything else in the world. 578 00:28:40,199 –> 00:28:43,119 And yes affirm the straight a’s. 579 00:28:43,119 –> 00:28:47,040 And yes say way to go if he shoots a basket 580 00:28:47,040 –> 00:28:49,239 with five seconds left on the clock. 581 00:28:51,400 –> 00:28:53,160 But don’t let him leave home thinking 582 00:28:53,160 –> 00:28:56,760 that that’s the thing most important in life to you. 583 00:28:58,520 –> 00:29:02,420 Because that would be parenting in the flesh, wouldn’t it? 584 00:29:05,719 –> 00:29:07,839 Second, parenting in the spirit. 585 00:29:07,839 –> 00:29:10,920 What then is parenting in the spirit all about? 586 00:29:10,920 –> 00:29:15,199 If parenting in the flesh is trusting in human works 587 00:29:15,199 –> 00:29:17,119 or quenching the Holy Spirit, 588 00:29:17,119 –> 00:29:20,619 then think of parenting in the spirit 589 00:29:20,619 –> 00:29:24,400 as being like a narrow path of wisdom 590 00:29:24,400 –> 00:29:27,280 on which Christ will lead all who will follow. 591 00:29:27,280 –> 00:29:30,280 And it is a narrow path on which we need discernment 592 00:29:30,280 –> 00:29:34,079 and the help of Christ every single day. 593 00:29:34,079 –> 00:29:35,199 You say, well, what does it look like? 594 00:29:35,199 –> 00:29:37,199 Very simply, and from this passage, 595 00:29:37,199 –> 00:29:40,520 Paul points to Abraham as our example. 596 00:29:40,520 –> 00:29:42,119 And three things. 597 00:29:42,119 –> 00:29:43,599 First of all, faith. 598 00:29:43,599 –> 00:29:47,760 Parenting in the Spirit is always a venture of faith. 599 00:29:47,760 –> 00:29:50,479 Verse Six, as Paul points to Abraham 600 00:29:50,479 –> 00:29:51,599 as our model right here. 601 00:29:51,599 –> 00:29:56,359 Consider Abraham, he believed God. 602 00:29:56,359 –> 00:29:57,880 That’s parenting in the Spirit. 603 00:29:57,880 –> 00:29:59,260 It’s believing God. 604 00:30:00,319 –> 00:30:01,199 Remember the story. 605 00:30:01,199 –> 00:30:03,280 Abraham was an old man, 606 00:30:03,280 –> 00:30:05,660 and Sarah was pretty well 90 years old. 607 00:30:06,839 –> 00:30:09,359 And God told Abraham that he would have a son. 608 00:30:10,859 –> 00:30:13,040 And of course the thing was impossible. 609 00:30:13,040 –> 00:30:14,239 It was impossible. 610 00:30:14,239 –> 00:30:17,079 The Bible emphasizes the impossibility of it 611 00:30:17,079 –> 00:30:18,500 over and over and over again, 612 00:30:18,500 –> 00:30:22,280 and then it tells us but Abraham believed God. 613 00:30:24,280 –> 00:30:27,119 If you say you can bring a child out of an old man 614 00:30:27,119 –> 00:30:28,640 and a 90-year-old woman, 615 00:30:28,640 –> 00:30:32,260 I can’t see how in all the world you’re gonna do that 616 00:30:32,260 –> 00:30:34,819 but I believe it if you say it. 617 00:30:34,819 –> 00:30:35,680 That’s faith. 618 00:30:37,479 –> 00:30:39,859 Abraham trusted God to do the impossible. 619 00:30:39,939 –> 00:30:42,219 And that is what God is calling you to do 620 00:30:42,219 –> 00:30:43,660 with regard to your children. 621 00:30:45,119 –> 00:30:50,119 The salvation of your child is impossible except for God 622 00:30:53,500 –> 00:30:55,520 because it involves a unique miracle 623 00:30:55,520 –> 00:30:58,780 in which he will bring light into your child’s darkness, 624 00:30:58,780 –> 00:31:01,900 life into the deadness of your child’s soul. 625 00:31:03,380 –> 00:31:08,079 Place your confidence not in what you are seeking 626 00:31:08,099 –> 00:31:10,339 to do as you pursue the path of wisdom, 627 00:31:10,339 –> 00:31:13,719 but rather place your confidence in God’s ability 628 00:31:14,760 –> 00:31:17,599 to work a miracle in the life of your son 629 00:31:17,599 –> 00:31:19,239 or your daughter as a parent, 630 00:31:19,239 –> 00:31:22,780 God asks you to trust him to do his work 631 00:31:22,780 –> 00:31:26,359 as you pursue the work that He’s given to you. 632 00:31:26,359 –> 00:31:29,040 Mine is to teach, mine is to train, 633 00:31:29,040 –> 00:31:32,319 mine is to pray, mine is to provide an example. 634 00:31:32,319 –> 00:31:35,680 God’s is to save. 635 00:31:36,079 –> 00:31:39,920 And maybe you feel that the salvation 636 00:31:39,920 –> 00:31:41,560 of your son or your daughter right now 637 00:31:41,560 –> 00:31:43,760 is a long, long way off. 638 00:31:43,760 –> 00:31:47,300 Maybe you find it impossible to imagine 639 00:31:47,300 –> 00:31:50,319 your daughter filled with the Spirit of God, 640 00:31:50,319 –> 00:31:53,000 your son filled with the Spirit of God. 641 00:31:53,000 –> 00:31:55,479 You find it impossible to imagine, 642 00:31:55,479 –> 00:31:57,119 remember Abraham, 643 00:31:57,680 –> 00:32:00,359 parenting in the Spirit. 644 00:32:01,920 –> 00:32:03,079 It’s about faith. 645 00:32:06,680 –> 00:32:08,239 I pass on a phrase that has been 646 00:32:08,239 –> 00:32:09,719 a great benefit to me, 647 00:32:09,719 –> 00:32:11,160 picked it up years and years ago 648 00:32:11,160 –> 00:32:13,920 from just before our boys were born actually. 649 00:32:13,920 –> 00:32:17,479 Karoen was carrying Andrew. 650 00:32:17,479 –> 00:32:18,739 When I came across this phrase, 651 00:32:18,739 –> 00:32:21,260 it has be one of the most helpful things 652 00:32:21,260 –> 00:32:24,420 that I have ever heard and it’s simply this. 653 00:32:25,359 –> 00:32:28,839 Bring your children up in faith, not fear. 654 00:32:30,119 –> 00:32:32,560 Bring them up in faith, not fear. 655 00:32:33,560 –> 00:32:38,079 Let them see that you trust God 656 00:32:39,439 –> 00:32:41,660 and that you trust God about them, too. 657 00:32:43,479 –> 00:32:48,479 Faith, faith, second gospel, 3 verse 8. 658 00:32:50,280 –> 00:32:52,520 The scriptures foresaw that God would justify 659 00:32:52,520 –> 00:32:53,900 the Gentiles by faith and announce 660 00:32:53,900 –> 00:32:56,719 the gospel in advance to Abraham. 661 00:32:56,719 –> 00:32:57,900 Well, we’ve been saying this right 662 00:32:57,900 –> 00:32:59,560 throughout our time this morning. 663 00:33:00,520 –> 00:33:02,400 God gave the law and the gospel. 664 00:33:02,400 –> 00:33:05,400 The law is good, the gospel is better. 665 00:33:06,380 –> 00:33:09,000 So make sure that there’s law in your home 666 00:33:10,540 –> 00:33:12,900 and make sure there’s lots of gospel. 667 00:33:14,479 –> 00:33:16,560 What’s the law, here’s the law. 668 00:33:16,560 –> 00:33:21,560 Tidy your room, be on time, say thank you. 669 00:33:22,839 –> 00:33:26,040 Now, look, I need you to be on your best behavior today. 670 00:33:26,040 –> 00:33:27,739 Any parent not said these things? 671 00:33:28,300 –> 00:33:30,819 Don’t kick your little brother. 672 00:33:30,819 –> 00:33:34,339 That’s a lot, we need the law, chaos otherwise, 673 00:33:35,180 –> 00:33:36,180 all good stuff. 674 00:33:37,619 –> 00:33:39,140 You need the law in your home. 675 00:33:40,380 –> 00:33:42,619 But you need the gospel far more. 676 00:33:42,619 –> 00:33:44,420 The law is given to drive us to Christ, 677 00:33:44,420 –> 00:33:46,479 the gospel is given to draw us to Christ. 678 00:33:46,479 –> 00:33:47,339 We need both. 679 00:33:47,339 –> 00:33:51,140 Make sure that your kids are seeing and hearing the gospel. 680 00:33:51,140 –> 00:33:53,800 You don’t get the spirit by obeying the law. 681 00:33:54,599 –> 00:33:57,280 The love of God has come in Jesus Christ 682 00:33:57,280 –> 00:34:00,760 and the purpose of God for you is more than morality. 683 00:34:01,739 –> 00:34:04,479 It’s that you be filled with the spirit. 684 00:34:04,479 –> 00:34:07,040 Oh boy, and if you could taste that, 685 00:34:07,040 –> 00:34:09,100 you would never want anything else again. 686 00:34:11,600 –> 00:34:14,320 That leads to the last thing, blessing. 687 00:34:14,320 –> 00:34:16,239 All nations will be blessed through you, 688 00:34:16,239 –> 00:34:17,679 God said to Abraham. 689 00:34:17,679 –> 00:34:20,719 So those who have faith are blessed along with Abraham, 690 00:34:20,719 –> 00:34:22,199 the man of faith. 691 00:34:24,439 –> 00:34:26,459 Boy if there’s one thing our kids need to see 692 00:34:26,459 –> 00:34:28,419 in the home and in the church, 693 00:34:28,419 –> 00:34:32,000 and here every one of us is called to give a model. 694 00:34:33,239 –> 00:34:35,139 If there’s one thing our kids need to see 695 00:34:35,139 –> 00:34:36,780 in the home and in the church, 696 00:34:36,780 –> 00:34:41,540 it is authentic models, not simply of the law, 697 00:34:41,540 –> 00:34:43,820 but of the life of the Holy Spirit. 698 00:34:45,459 –> 00:34:47,439 Let me say this as a word of encouragement 699 00:34:47,439 –> 00:34:51,000 to some of our teenagers who love the Lord. 700 00:34:51,639 –> 00:34:56,639 A few kids who really love Jesus and get on fire for Him 701 00:34:58,580 –> 00:35:00,840 and find genuine joy in Him 702 00:35:00,840 –> 00:35:04,659 will have an extraordinary influence for the gospel. 703 00:35:06,439 –> 00:35:07,280 It really will. 704 00:35:08,860 –> 00:35:12,120 Other kids will see the life of the Holy Spirit in you 705 00:35:12,120 –> 00:35:14,679 and they’ll say, I want a piece of that. 706 00:35:16,100 –> 00:35:16,939 It’s powerful. 707 00:35:18,459 –> 00:35:20,719 And our calling as parents, our calling as a church 708 00:35:20,739 –> 00:35:21,840 is to live in such a way 709 00:35:21,840 –> 00:35:23,899 that that will be the reaction of many. 710 00:35:25,679 –> 00:35:27,260 Listen, do you have something in your life 711 00:35:27,260 –> 00:35:28,520 that’s more than the law? 712 00:35:32,239 –> 00:35:33,080 Do you? 713 00:35:36,520 –> 00:35:38,679 See, it may be the greatest thing that we can do 714 00:35:38,679 –> 00:35:43,000 for our kids at the end of Family Month, 715 00:35:43,000 –> 00:35:45,620 whether it be our own kids within the immediate family 716 00:35:45,620 –> 00:35:47,199 or whether it be the kids that are part 717 00:35:47,199 –> 00:35:49,620 of the wider church family is simply this. 718 00:35:51,500 –> 00:35:53,439 To recognize from the depth of our being 719 00:35:53,439 –> 00:35:56,199 that what they need from us is to see something 720 00:35:56,199 –> 00:36:00,820 more than the law, more than conformity, 721 00:36:01,800 –> 00:36:05,919 more than morality, they need to see 722 00:36:05,919 –> 00:36:10,919 the indwelling, outworking life of the Holy Spirit of God. 723 00:36:13,760 –> 00:36:15,199 And if there’s one place that I’d want 724 00:36:15,199 –> 00:36:17,540 to bring us all at the end of this month 725 00:36:17,540 –> 00:36:18,899 that we’ve shared together, it would be 726 00:36:18,939 –> 00:36:21,659 to the foot of the cross of Jesus, 727 00:36:22,560 –> 00:36:26,179 you receive the spirit believing what you have heard, 728 00:36:26,179 –> 00:36:30,379 and to cry unto him, Lord Jesus Christ, 729 00:36:30,379 –> 00:36:35,379 pour your spirit into me afresh as a father. 730 00:36:36,899 –> 00:36:40,820 Fill me afresh with your spirit as a mother. 731 00:36:41,919 –> 00:36:46,179 Fill us afresh, as a church, with your spirit 732 00:36:46,179 –> 00:36:50,620 so that a rising generation may see more than the law 733 00:36:53,080 –> 00:36:55,179 and discover the riches of the gospel, 734 00:36:56,159 –> 00:37:00,080 the life of the spirit that the world cannot give 735 00:37:00,080 –> 00:37:04,199 and it’s found only in Jesus. 736 00:37:04,199 –> 00:37:05,659 Let’s pray together, shall we? 737 00:37:07,020 –> 00:37:08,399 Father in heaven, 738 00:37:09,239 –> 00:37:13,840 you call us to something beyond ourselves, 739 00:37:14,439 –> 00:37:16,760 and for this we thank you 740 00:37:16,760 –> 00:37:19,580 and in this we cry out to you. 741 00:37:20,679 –> 00:37:25,679 Hear our prayer in Jesus’ name, amen.

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