Conflict

2 Samuel 14
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As the story unfolds, Absalom, while shearing sheep in a remote village, invites his brothers, including his rival Amnon, whom he murders in cold blood. This crime causes panic among the king’s sons who flee, fearing for their lives. Absalom seeks refuge outside the Promised Land, while David grieves the loss of his firstborn, Amnon.

David faces a profound dilemma: he loves Absalom but, as king, he must uphold justice. Unable to reconcile these conflicting responsibilities, several failed attempts at reconciliation occur, each highlighting different facets of love and justice. The first attempt, spearheaded by Joab, aims to bring Absalom back without addressing his guilt. Although Absalom returns to Jerusalem, the underlying injustice remains unresolved.

In the second attempt, David shows mercy by allowing Absalom back but keeps him at a distance, denying him access to the king’s presence. This lack of true reconciliation causes further estrangement. The third attempt sees Absalom demanding full pardon without any repentance, leading to a superficial reconciliation symbolised by a kiss from David, but this fails to achieve genuine peace or change in Absalom’s heart.

Pastor Colin compares this tragic tale to the parable of the Prodigal Son, highlighting the contrast between Absalom’s unrepentant heart and the prodigal son’s humble return. He reflects on the significance of God’s love and justice, pointing out that true reconciliation is only possible through Jesus Christ. At the cross, God’s love and justice meet,

1 00:00:00,000 –> 00:00:03,320 Well, good morning, everyone. Please open your Bible. 2 00:00:03,320 –> 00:00:07,860 First at 2 Samuel, Chapter 13, just before the passage that was read to us. 3 00:00:07,860 –> 00:00:15,900 We’re continuing in the story of David, in this last troubled chapter of his life. 4 00:00:15,900 –> 00:00:21,760 Today and over these next weeks, the story will focus on this son of David whose name 5 00:00:21,760 –> 00:00:28,200 was Absalom. David had a rebel son who broke his heart. 6 00:00:28,200 –> 00:00:31,420 That story covers several chapters that we’re going to look at. 7 00:00:31,420 –> 00:00:36,480 We’re going to see today how David, without success, tried to heal the breach that was 8 00:00:36,480 –> 00:00:42,580 in his own family, how he was in so many ways manipulated by his own son. 9 00:00:42,580 –> 00:00:50,580 An extraordinary story that speaks to us in so many remarkable ways. 10 00:00:50,980 –> 00:00:58,020 Chapter 13, we begin at verse 23 where we find that Absalom, this rebel’s son, was out 11 00:00:58,020 –> 00:01:04,320 shearing his sheep at a remote village, and he invited all of the king’s sons to come 12 00:01:04,320 –> 00:01:07,000 and join him at this place. 13 00:01:07,000 –> 00:01:12,080 In fact his invitation included, verse 24, the king himself. 14 00:01:12,080 –> 00:01:18,260 But David read the heart of his son, it seems here, and was at least cautious about this 15 00:01:18,260 –> 00:01:19,260 invitation. 16 00:01:19,739 –> 00:01:24,459 Perhaps he already had some sense about where his rebellious son’s heart might be leading 17 00:01:24,459 –> 00:01:25,480 him. 18 00:01:25,480 –> 00:01:30,000 And so the king says, verse 25, no my son, let us not all go lest we become a burden 19 00:01:30,000 –> 00:01:31,040 to you. 20 00:01:31,040 –> 00:01:40,879 And then Absalom says, if not, please let my brother Amnon go with us. 21 00:01:40,879 –> 00:01:44,160 And David replies to that, well why Amnon? 22 00:01:44,660 –> 00:01:52,160 Well we know, of course, why Amnon, because Amnon was the step-brother who so horribly 23 00:01:52,160 –> 00:01:56,800 abused Absalom’s sister Thamar. 24 00:01:56,800 –> 00:02:01,300 And Absalom was out for revenge and that’s what’s happening here in this story and I 25 00:02:01,300 –> 00:02:05,599 think that David, even at this point, has some inkling of it. 26 00:02:05,599 –> 00:02:11,639 But verse 27, notice this is a pattern in the relationship between David and Absalom, 27 00:02:11,639 –> 00:02:13,020 his son. 28 00:02:13,279 –> 00:02:18,380 But Absalom pressed him, here’s a boy who knows how to get around his father, he always 29 00:02:18,380 –> 00:02:23,880 seems to get what he wants from David to his own everlasting ruin. 30 00:02:25,139 –> 00:02:31,880 Absalom pressed David until he let Amnon and all the king’s sons go with him. 31 00:02:33,360 –> 00:02:39,839 So Absalom gets what he wants again, and the king’s sons come to this remote place where 32 00:02:40,000 –> 00:02:45,880 Absalom is shearing his sheep, and while they were there Absalom killed his brother Amnon, 33 00:02:45,880 –> 00:02:51,259 it was a cold-blooded, brutal, premeditated murder. 34 00:02:54,059 –> 00:02:59,500 Then we’re told, verse 29, that all the king’s sons arose, and each mounted their mule, and 35 00:02:59,500 –> 00:03:03,520 they fled. Of course, Absalom was not alone in this act, he has his servants who were 36 00:03:03,520 –> 00:03:09,419 shearing the sheep, and so he has some force at his disposal, and the king’s sons perceived 37 00:03:09,419 –> 00:03:16,419 that it would not be beyond Absalom to wipe out the entire royal family. And so they fleed. 38 00:03:17,779 –> 00:03:23,179 And the, of course, Absalom himself fled, verse 34. He heads away from the promised 39 00:03:23,179 –> 00:03:30,179 land, outside of its borders, off to a place called Geshur. And as Absalom flees the promised 40 00:03:31,699 –> 00:03:38,139 land, the king’s sons returned to their father, and there is this moving scene of mourning 41 00:03:38,300 –> 00:03:43,460 at the awful loss of this family, verse 36. The king’s sons came and lifted up their voice 42 00:03:43,460 –> 00:03:50,460 and wept. And the king also, with all his servants, wept very bitterly. Oh David’s grief 43 00:03:51,660 –> 00:03:58,660 over Amnon. Amnon was his first-born son, the oldest. A terrible loss. And David grieves 44 00:04:01,100 –> 00:04:07,320 over the way that he met his death and no doubt grieves also over the way that he lived 45 00:04:07,639 –> 00:04:14,639 his life. In verse 37 he mourned for his son day after day. And this went on for a period 46 00:04:17,799 –> 00:04:24,799 of about 3 years. And then we’re told, verse 39, that the spirit of the king longed to 47 00:04:26,700 –> 00:04:32,480 go out to Absalom. I lost one son but I do have another and he’s far away. I wish he 48 00:04:32,480 –> 00:04:39,480 was brought near. I wish I could be reconciled to him. The spirit of David longs to go out 49 00:04:42,040 –> 00:04:49,040 to Absalom, wants this boy back in his life, loves him. Loves him, rebel though he is. 50 00:04:53,119 –> 00:04:58,880 And some of you know what this is like. You have a son, you have a daughter, who is away 51 00:04:59,380 –> 00:05:06,140 from you, distant from you, and far from God as well. And perhaps there is even a division 52 00:05:06,140 –> 00:05:13,140 within the family, and you wish that it were not so. You know what this is like. Absalom 53 00:05:13,140 –> 00:05:20,140 is the rebel’s son, but he’s still David’s son. And David loves him, with all of his 54 00:05:20,299 –> 00:05:27,299 heart. And the heart of a father goes out to a son, even at his worst. 55 00:05:29,100 –> 00:05:35,859 The question, of course, then is what prevented David from bringing his loved son back? And 56 00:05:35,859 –> 00:05:41,200 the answer, really, is very simple. David was not only a father, he was, of course, 57 00:05:41,200 –> 00:05:48,000 also the king. And as king, he was a chief justice in the land. He was the custodian 58 00:05:48,000 –> 00:05:54,600 of justice, it was his job, it was his calling from God to uphold justice in the land. And 59 00:05:54,600 –> 00:06:02,380 Absalom, David’s loved son, had committed premeditated murder. And the law demanded 60 00:06:02,380 –> 00:06:09,380 the death of David’s son. And it is David’s job and it is his calling, it’s the very identity 61 00:06:09,380 –> 00:06:16,100 that goes with being the king that he has to uphold the law. So you see that David is 62 00:06:16,100 –> 00:06:24,320 caught in this great and heart-rending dilemma. He’s a father and he longs to be reconciled 63 00:06:24,320 –> 00:06:31,739 to his son but he’s the king and he has to uphold the law that condemns his son. And 64 00:06:31,739 –> 00:06:39,920 he’s torn, torn to the heart with these conflicting loyalties. And so for three years his son 65 00:06:39,920 –> 00:06:49,359 remains at a distance in a far-off place outside the promised land. Until we get to chapter 66 00:06:49,739 –> 00:06:58,559 14. And here what I want you to see is that there are three unsuccessful attemps at reconciliation. 67 00:06:58,559 –> 00:07:06,760 None of them work and the difficulties that are in each of them point us to what God alone 68 00:07:06,760 –> 00:07:13,339 can do and what God alone has done in his son, Jesus Christ to reconcile us, his rebel 69 00:07:13,440 –> 00:07:16,399 children to himself. 70 00:07:16,399 –> 00:07:20,559 Look at these with me if you would. First attempt at reconciliation we could describe 71 00:07:20,559 –> 00:07:26,980 as love without justice. And the prime mover here in the first attempt is Johab who you 72 00:07:26,980 –> 00:07:33,660 may remember was the commander of David’s army. Verse 1, Johab knew that the king’s 73 00:07:33,660 –> 00:07:35,700 heart went out to Absalom. 74 00:07:35,700 –> 00:07:39,820 He knew that the father loved his rebel son. 75 00:07:40,179 –> 00:07:41,600 We’re not told why it was 76 00:07:41,600 –> 00:07:45,380 that Johab got involved here perhaps it was simply that he wanted to see 77 00:07:45,380 –> 00:07:50,399 David happy and wanted to give him something that he wanted. I suspect 78 00:07:50,399 –> 00:07:54,760 though and from what we know about Johab and his own maneuvering in various ways 79 00:07:54,760 –> 00:08:00,799 I suspect that because David is now in the later period of his life. We’re 80 00:08:00,799 –> 00:08:06,799 within 10 years of the death of David at this point. I suspect that Johab who had 81 00:08:06,799 –> 00:08:10,920 always been David’s man was beginning to think that there’s gonna be a time when 82 00:08:10,920 –> 00:08:14,679 David’s gone and who’s going to be the successor. I’d better position myself in 83 00:08:14,679 –> 00:08:18,760 a way that carries favor with someone who might be his successor and you know 84 00:08:18,760 –> 00:08:24,279 Absalom seemed at this point the most likely one. He was likely to be the 85 00:08:24,279 –> 00:08:29,179 successor because if you look in verse 27 there was no one so much to be praised 86 00:08:29,179 –> 00:08:34,640 in Israel for his handsome appearance. He was a celebrity. He was a rock star we 87 00:08:34,659 –> 00:08:38,960 would say today as far as the people were concerned they loved him. Even 88 00:08:38,960 –> 00:08:44,919 though he was off there in exile and Joab, being David’s man I suspect that he 89 00:08:44,919 –> 00:08:49,780 was interested in carrying the favor of Absalom and so he he takes this 90 00:08:49,780 –> 00:08:55,880 initiative to see if some reconciliation can be brought about. And the way that he 91 00:08:55,880 –> 00:09:00,520 does it, it’s explained at length in the first part of chapter 14, is that he 92 00:09:00,559 –> 00:09:07,539 finds a woman from a place called Tekoa who comes to the king and spins a story 93 00:09:07,539 –> 00:09:12,960 to him. The story is to the effect that our son has committed a particular crime 94 00:09:12,960 –> 00:09:19,900 and she asks the king for a pardon. The king grants this pardon with regards to 95 00:09:19,900 –> 00:09:26,440 her son. And then in a flash the woman turns on David, verse 13, the woman said 96 00:09:26,479 –> 00:09:32,500 why have you planned such a thing against the people of God? For in giving 97 00:09:32,500 –> 00:09:37,960 this decision that is, the decision that David gave in regards to clemency for 98 00:09:37,960 –> 00:09:44,159 the son in her story, in giving this decision the king convicts himself in as 99 00:09:44,159 –> 00:09:49,479 much as the king does not bring his banished one home. In other words, what 100 00:09:49,479 –> 00:09:57,820 she says is this. Look, you have a son and your son is banished. Actually, he 101 00:09:57,820 –> 00:10:03,200 fled, but there are many inaccuracies in this woman’s story. But this is what she’s 102 00:10:03,200 –> 00:10:09,900 saying. Your son is banished. So why don’t you just forget about justice and act in 103 00:10:09,900 –> 00:10:16,960 love? Bring him back. Now she gives two reasons for forgetting justice and 104 00:10:17,799 –> 00:10:24,219 love, and both of them proved to be completely false. The first is she says 105 00:10:24,219 –> 00:10:28,280 it’s in the best interest of the people. Why, verse 13, have you planned such a 106 00:10:28,280 –> 00:10:32,479 thing against the people of God? Look, by hanging on to justice David, you’re not 107 00:10:32,479 –> 00:10:36,539 doing any good for the people. The best thing you can do is simply forget! Let 108 00:10:36,539 –> 00:10:40,020 bygones be bygones, bring him back. That’ll be good for the people of God. 109 00:10:40,020 –> 00:10:45,099 Wrong. bringing Absalom back led the country 110 00:10:45,099 –> 00:10:53,679 to the verge of civil war That’s how bad that advice was. Secondly, she says this 111 00:10:53,679 –> 00:11:02,239 is what God does, verse 14, God will not take away life and he devises means 112 00:11:02,239 –> 00:11:07,900 so that the banished one will not remain an outcast. You see what she’s saying. 113 00:11:08,559 –> 00:11:16,020 God forgives, so why don’t you? God’s not going to take life. God forgives and 114 00:11:16,020 –> 00:11:20,460 because God forgives David, why don’t you just bring the boy back home. 115 00:11:20,460 –> 00:11:25,799 Well, you see, again she’s misleading because yes God forgives but God does 116 00:11:25,799 –> 00:11:31,559 not forgive by turning a blind eye to justice. That’s why there had to be a 117 00:11:31,599 –> 00:11:37,000 cross. And that’s where this story is going. 118 00:11:37,000 –> 00:11:46,799 But David is persuaded by this woman from Tekoa and he calls in Joab, who he 119 00:11:46,799 –> 00:11:51,700 discerns was actually behind this, setting her up to spin this whole story 120 00:11:51,700 –> 00:12:00,280 and he says to Joab okay bring the boy back. And so verse 23, Joab arose and went 121 00:12:00,299 –> 00:12:09,380 to Geshure and brought Absalom to Jerusalem and so now Absalom is back in 122 00:12:09,380 –> 00:12:13,340 the Promised Land. He’s back in the city of Jerusalem but now here’s the problem 123 00:12:13,340 –> 00:12:20,739 there is now another great unaddressed injustice that lies as a stain at the 124 00:12:20,739 –> 00:12:28,159 heart of David’s kingdom. And of course the problem for Absalom is that 125 00:12:28,200 –> 00:12:33,320 while he has been brought back he is effectively living under a suspended 126 00:12:33,320 –> 00:12:40,200 sentence. He’s come home but justice has not been done and the question is when 127 00:12:40,200 –> 00:12:46,500 will it be done? He lives under the Prospect the fearful prospect that at 128 00:12:46,500 –> 00:12:52,679 some point in the future he has to face justice and it is all was hanging over 129 00:12:52,679 –> 00:12:59,159 him that’s a dreadful position to be in by the way and this may have been part 130 00:12:59,159 –> 00:13:07,239 of Joab’s interest in the case. Joab was in precisely the same position himself 131 00:13:07,239 –> 00:13:13,679 because if you remember from our study at last year earlier in the story Joab 132 00:13:13,679 –> 00:13:21,280 had also committed a cold-blooded brutal premeditated murder when he killed Abner 133 00:13:21,460 –> 00:13:27,460 You have that story in 2nd Samuel in chapter 3 and he never faced justice for 134 00:13:27,460 –> 00:13:32,820 his crime. David looked the other way, another case where he did that and so 135 00:13:32,820 –> 00:13:38,580 this was all was hanging over Joab, Joab lived with a sense one day my own crime 136 00:13:38,580 –> 00:13:43,020 is gonna catch up with me and indeed it did right at the very end of The Life of 137 00:13:43,020 –> 00:13:49,539 David and I wonder actually if Joab’s interest in the case may have included 138 00:13:49,679 –> 00:13:56,919 this, perhaps if David will offer amnesty to Absalom perhaps that’s an indication 139 00:13:56,919 –> 00:14:03,739 that there may also be an amnesty for me. Well whatever that motivation may 140 00:14:03,739 –> 00:14:12,900 or may not have been, Absalom came home, he remained a rebel at heart, unchanged 141 00:14:12,900 –> 00:14:17,380 that reminds us by the way of something quite important that it is possible to 142 00:14:17,479 –> 00:14:27,280 be among the people of God and loved by the people of God and to have a heart 143 00:14:27,280 –> 00:14:36,840 that is far from God. That was Absalom’s position and there’s no reconciliation 144 00:14:36,840 –> 00:14:45,359 because while there is surely love David loves his son, there is no justice. 145 00:14:45,460 –> 00:14:51,679 Second attempt that does not succeed I’ve called this one Mercy Without 146 00:14:51,679 –> 00:14:57,760 Access it will you look at verse 24 and the king said so here the son the 147 00:14:57,760 –> 00:15:03,359 dearly loved son comes back and the king says let him dwell apart in his own 148 00:15:03,359 –> 00:15:14,539 house he is not to come into my presence So Absalom lived apart in his own house 149 00:15:14,760 –> 00:15:19,960 and did not come into the king’s presence Isn’t this extraordinary? The 150 00:15:19,960 –> 00:15:25,479 king loves Absalom his spirit longs for Absalom but when Absalom comes back the 151 00:15:25,479 –> 00:15:30,200 king doesn’t even see him he doesn’t say oh bring him into the palace let me give 152 00:15:30,200 –> 00:15:36,059 him a hug no let him live in his own house he cannot come into my presence I 153 00:15:36,059 –> 00:15:42,119 think that must have been a thousand agonies for David don’t you? and why 154 00:15:42,119 –> 00:15:45,500 would he have said such a thing well surely for this reason if the man comes 155 00:15:45,500 –> 00:15:51,739 into my presence he has to face justice so the only way in which he can live at 156 00:15:51,739 –> 00:16:00,200 all is at a distance from me David shows mercy to Absolom he does not 157 00:16:00,200 –> 00:16:05,400 enforce the penalty of the law that condemned his son and would have taken 158 00:16:05,580 –> 00:16:14,719 life but Absolom has no access to the father who loves him he is not punished 159 00:16:14,719 –> 00:16:25,760 nor is he pardoned and there is no reconciliation my guess too is that 160 00:16:25,760 –> 00:16:34,000 David discerned the heart of his son and refused to allow his son to think that 161 00:16:34,960 –> 00:16:39,299 was well so long as he continued in rebellion against God Matthew Henry 162 00:16:39,299 –> 00:16:43,200 makes this point I think very perceptively David had reason to think 163 00:16:43,200 –> 00:16:47,919 that Absalom was not repentant and therefore put him under this mark of his 164 00:16:47,919 –> 00:16:53,960 displeasure that he might be awakened to the site of his sin and might make his 165 00:16:53,960 –> 00:16:57,580 peace with God you see what he’s saying son I cannot 166 00:16:57,580 –> 00:17:03,380 pretend that all is well so long as you are far from God that’s a loving father 167 00:17:03,919 –> 00:17:15,520 I cannot pretend that all is well so long as you are far from God so here is 168 00:17:15,520 –> 00:17:21,859 this man and he is dearly loved by his father he lives a very comfortable life 169 00:17:21,859 –> 00:17:30,060 among the people of God but he is as estranged from his father as he would 170 00:17:30,099 –> 00:17:37,500 have been if he had remained in the far country and after two full years where 171 00:17:37,500 –> 00:17:42,819 he has not seen the face of his father there is still no fellowship there is no 172 00:17:42,819 –> 00:17:50,060 access there is no peace and there is no joy. 173 00:17:50,180 –> 00:17:55,699 You get a little bit of a taste of the character of Absalom you say well what 174 00:17:55,699 –> 00:18:00,000 then was he doing if he was not then drawing near to the father you get a 175 00:18:00,060 –> 00:18:03,520 bit of a taste of the character of this man we’re gonna see more of it in the 176 00:18:03,520 –> 00:18:09,040 coming weeks he seems to have spent much of these two years cultivating 177 00:18:09,040 –> 00:18:15,880 celebrity the cult of his own personality he was as I said earlier a 178 00:18:15,880 –> 00:18:23,040 rock star as it were in the minds and hearts of the people of Israel and he 179 00:18:23,040 –> 00:18:27,239 had some of the sort of celebrity trappings particularly he had this 180 00:18:27,359 –> 00:18:33,599 samson-like hair that we are told about in the story it’s fascinating he would 181 00:18:33,599 –> 00:18:37,079 grow this hair for a whole year I mean that would attract a lot of attention 182 00:18:37,079 –> 00:18:45,959 and then once a year he would cut it a full years worth of hair and then verse 183 00:18:45,959 –> 00:18:53,239 26 he made a great occasion about weighing this hair that was cut I guess 184 00:18:53,260 –> 00:18:59,099 this was presented as a kind of sign of his manliness or whatever the hair 185 00:18:59,099 –> 00:19:05,839 would have been oiled of course and that would add to its weight and Josephus 186 00:19:05,839 –> 00:19:11,599 the Jewish historian suggests that it may have been actually powdered with 187 00:19:11,599 –> 00:19:15,839 gold dust can you imagine that but I guess if you’re the king’s son then 188 00:19:15,839 –> 00:19:19,040 money’s no object you powder your hair with gold does that would sure add to 189 00:19:19,040 –> 00:19:23,079 its way I suppose that’s an early way of doing highlights you might think you 190 00:19:23,119 –> 00:19:34,939 know where are hair highlights in the Bible there you go and no touch as this 191 00:19:34,939 –> 00:19:39,800 was a great spectacle the weighing of the hair of the King’s son you know this 192 00:19:39,800 –> 00:19:44,020 is the kind of story that you would get on the front page of the magazine that 193 00:19:44,020 –> 00:19:49,400 sits near the checkout at the grocery store you know speculation how much does 194 00:19:49,599 –> 00:19:54,739 we here if the King’s son wait this year you know and will it be more than last 195 00:19:54,739 –> 00:19:58,760 year let’s run a little sweepstakes on that way you know this kind of thing 196 00:19:58,760 –> 00:20:07,420 he’s cultivating the cult of personality it’s all about himself 197 00:20:07,420 –> 00:20:13,380 and we’ll see and those of you who know the story knows where it goes that it’s 198 00:20:13,380 –> 00:20:17,160 going to lead actually to him sir asserting himself against God’s own King 199 00:20:17,859 –> 00:20:24,180 and seeking to seize the kingdom for himself 200 00:20:24,180 –> 00:20:31,540 verse 25 in all Israel there was no one so much to be praised for his handsome 201 00:20:31,540 –> 00:20:37,619 appearance as Absalom from the soul of his foot to the crown of his head there 202 00:20:37,619 –> 00:20:44,339 was no blemish in him think of this not a single blemish on his body but all 203 00:20:44,339 –> 00:20:51,939 kinds of ugliness in his soul and Absalom’s celebrity just keeps on 204 00:20:51,939 –> 00:21:00,839 growing the people love him but he is far from repentance and he is far from 205 00:21:00,839 –> 00:21:11,239 God and he’s still living under a suspended sentence love without justice 206 00:21:11,319 –> 00:21:18,859 mercy but without access and then there’s a third attempted reconciliation that 207 00:21:18,859 –> 00:21:26,359 also fails which is pardon without repentance you might think that Absalom 208 00:21:26,359 –> 00:21:32,099 would have been really grateful for the kindness that had been shown to him he 209 00:21:32,099 –> 00:21:37,660 had been brought back when there was every reason for him to be kept out he 210 00:21:38,560 –> 00:21:43,979 marvelous home and was enjoying an extraordinary lifestyle in the city of 211 00:21:43,979 –> 00:21:48,699 Jerusalem here’s a man whose own actions have 212 00:21:48,699 –> 00:21:55,040 forfeited his light rights to live but he has been kept from facing the full 213 00:21:55,040 –> 00:22:01,359 penalty of the law he is blessed in so many ways but here’s something to note 214 00:22:01,359 –> 00:22:07,079 from the story an unrepentant heart is never thankful 215 00:22:07,579 –> 00:22:14,640 the unrepentant heart is never thankful never thankful it’s never enough it’s 216 00:22:14,640 –> 00:22:23,400 always I’m owed better than this that’s the unrepentant heart and you see it in 217 00:22:23,400 –> 00:22:33,160 Absalom and he takes an initiative he calls on Joab to act as his intercessor 218 00:22:33,180 –> 00:22:37,660 to speak to the King on his behalf remember Joab was the one who had 219 00:22:37,660 –> 00:22:42,099 brought him back and so he goes back to Joab for this second initiative this 220 00:22:42,099 –> 00:22:46,839 time Joab is reluctant I think he’s seen the character of this man he’s seen how 221 00:22:46,839 –> 00:22:51,839 he’s been cultivating his own celebrity and maneuvering his own position and so 222 00:22:51,839 –> 00:23:00,000 forth and Joab’s pulling back he doesn’t want to intercede for this man and so 223 00:23:00,079 –> 00:23:06,239 Absalom in Absalom’s way says well we’ll deal with that and he sends his servant 224 00:23:06,239 –> 00:23:12,479 out and says burn Joab’s cornfield that’ll bring him to my door so he burns 225 00:23:12,479 –> 00:23:14,920 the cornfield and sure enough Joab shows up at his 226 00:23:14,920 –> 00:23:20,599 door why do you burn my cornfield and then we’re down to verse 32 behold I 227 00:23:20,599 –> 00:23:25,479 sent word to you Absalom says come here that I may send you to the King and ask 228 00:23:26,040 –> 00:23:29,880 in other words I want you to ask the King this why have I come from Geshur it 229 00:23:29,880 –> 00:23:33,599 would have been better for me still to be there now therefore let me go into 230 00:23:33,599 –> 00:23:38,619 the presence of the King and if there is guilt in me let him put me to death. You 231 00:23:38,619 –> 00:23:44,599 see what he’s saying and this is the heart of the unrepentant I’ve done 232 00:23:44,599 –> 00:23:52,140 nothing wrong I’ve done nothing wrong I’m actually the one who’s the victim of 233 00:23:52,140 –> 00:23:57,079 the great injustice of course in Absalom’s eyes he had every right to 234 00:23:57,079 –> 00:24:04,680 take the life of Amnon and so Johab reports this to the king 235 00:24:04,680 –> 00:24:09,680 in verse 33 then Joab went into the king and told him and he summoned 236 00:24:09,680 –> 00:24:18,479 Absalom and so he came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground 237 00:24:18,699 –> 00:24:30,540 before the king and the king kissed Absalom the king kissed Absalom. Now of 238 00:24:30,540 –> 00:24:38,040 course the significance of that is that this kiss was the sign of pardon and 239 00:24:38,040 –> 00:24:47,640 what you have here is pardon without repentance, a pardon that leaves Absalom 240 00:24:47,780 –> 00:25:00,540 plotting even more rebellion against the king and the kiss is in so many ways a 241 00:25:00,540 –> 00:25:04,099 kiss that is ultimately a kiss of condemnation because here’s what it 242 00:25:04,099 –> 00:25:11,060 means there’s not going to be justice for Absalom in this world therefore it 243 00:25:11,060 –> 00:25:15,599 remains in the hands of God to bring justice for this unrepentant man in the 244 00:25:15,599 –> 00:25:22,640 next that’s the tragedy of the story of Absalom 245 00:25:22,640 –> 00:25:28,140 and what’s very striking about this is the king gives the case the kiss on the 246 00:25:28,140 –> 00:25:37,760 cheek that is the indication of pardon but there isn’t a flicker of joy in this 247 00:25:37,760 –> 00:25:45,300 story at all there isn’t the slightest whiff of reconciliation you take two 248 00:25:45,300 –> 00:25:52,640 stories about a son coming back to a father this one and Our Lord’s wonderful 249 00:25:52,640 –> 00:25:59,339 story about the prodigal son and the contrast could not be more striking the 250 00:25:59,339 –> 00:26:03,780 prodigal son who comes back to his father comes with humble confession he 251 00:26:03,880 –> 00:26:09,239 says I’ve sinned father against you and against God I’m no longer worthy to be 252 00:26:09,239 –> 00:26:16,040 called your son there isn’t anything like that from Absalom no I’ve done 253 00:26:16,040 –> 00:26:23,099 nothing wrong and when the prodigal son returns you remember the father rejoices 254 00:26:23,099 –> 00:26:31,260 what a scene of reconciliation what an overflow and communication of love but 255 00:26:31,780 –> 00:26:35,079 on his back put the ring on his finger put these shoes on his feet kill the 256 00:26:35,079 –> 00:26:39,180 fetid calf we’re gonna have the greatest celebration we’ve ever had it’s just full 257 00:26:39,180 –> 00:26:44,400 of joy but there isn’t a flick out of joy in 258 00:26:44,400 –> 00:26:51,420 the scene with David and Absalom a kiss of pardon to a son who has not changed 259 00:26:51,420 –> 00:26:58,920 it’s heartbreaking the Sun is pardoned as far as legal process in this world 260 00:26:59,199 –> 00:27:05,300 concerned but the division in the royal family remains and as we follow this 261 00:27:05,300 –> 00:27:09,839 story what David has done here will lead the whole nation to the brink of civil 262 00:27:09,839 –> 00:27:19,859 war and it will lead to Absalom ultimate destruction so this chapter raises then 263 00:27:19,859 –> 00:27:25,699 a profoundly important question and it is this how then is reconciliation 264 00:27:25,900 –> 00:27:33,500 possible you look at David’s dilemma and it boils down to this is there a place 265 00:27:33,500 –> 00:27:43,339 where love and justice can meet and David cannot find it as a father he 266 00:27:43,339 –> 00:27:50,060 loves his son as a king he must uphold justice love desires life for his 267 00:27:50,099 –> 00:27:56,959 son the law demands death for his son he cannot resolve that dilemma and because 268 00:27:56,959 –> 00:28:02,939 he cannot resolve that dilemma there is in the story no 269 00:28:02,939 –> 00:28:06,979 reconciliation whatsoever because reconciliation can only come about if 270 00:28:06,979 –> 00:28:14,900 that dilemma is so so in these last moments I want simply to come back to 271 00:28:14,900 –> 00:28:20,739 some words that the woman from Taqoa spoke, she said very many misleading 272 00:28:20,739 –> 00:28:28,739 things but she also said something very wonderful. Verse 14 she says this God 273 00:28:28,739 –> 00:28:37,800 devises means so that the banished one will not remain an outcast. There she 274 00:28:37,800 –> 00:28:42,400 spoke a wonderful truth that points us forward to what God has done in Jesus 275 00:28:42,520 –> 00:28:51,819 Christ in the very heart of the gospel. God you see is a loving Father and yet 276 00:28:51,819 –> 00:29:05,020 God is also the king. God loves sinners but the wages of sin is death. So God 277 00:29:05,020 –> 00:29:15,260 does what David could not do. He devises means to solve this great dilemma. And 278 00:29:15,260 –> 00:29:21,219 how does he do this? This is what we celebrate around the Lord’s table today. 279 00:29:21,219 –> 00:29:31,199 He sent his son into the world. And his son stood in our place. And the justice 280 00:29:32,079 –> 00:29:39,719 that was due to us fell on him so that the love of the Father could stream 281 00:29:39,719 –> 00:29:45,040 unhindered and unfettered into our lives, and we should have access into his grace 282 00:29:45,040 –> 00:29:51,719 and presence forever and forever. And, you know, if you think about David’s pain 283 00:29:51,719 –> 00:29:56,199 and try and get inside what it was for David to live with this awful, 284 00:29:56,660 –> 00:30:03,380 dilemma, David’s pain gives us some shaft of light into the very heart of God 285 00:30:03,380 –> 00:30:12,900 himself. David loves his rebel son and he will not let him see justice. You can 286 00:30:12,900 –> 00:30:22,180 understand that. David’s saying, he’s my son, I can’t do it. I can’t give him up, and I 287 00:30:22,219 –> 00:30:29,500 want to say that’s how God loves you. That’s how God loves you at your worst. 288 00:30:29,500 –> 00:30:37,819 God says of his own people, Ephraim, how can I give you up? I can’t give you up. I 289 00:30:37,819 –> 00:30:44,979 can’t give you up to justice. I can’t give you up to hell. 290 00:30:45,719 –> 00:30:51,900 So here’s what I’ll do. I’ll stand myself in the place of the justice that is due 291 00:30:52,040 –> 00:30:58,219 to you I’ll take it in my own self. I’ll take it in the person of my own dearly 292 00:30:58,219 –> 00:31:12,500 loved son. God gave him up for us all, and he loved us, and gave himself for us. So 293 00:31:12,500 –> 00:31:18,099 that in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ love and justice meet together. 294 00:31:18,300 –> 00:31:25,979 This is God’s love for us and this is God’s perfect justice. God did not abandon justice 295 00:31:25,979 –> 00:31:33,180 for the sake of love, and he did not withhold love for the sake of justice. He brought them 296 00:31:33,180 –> 00:31:41,020 together at the cross, where his own son stood in our place. God was reconciling us to himself 297 00:31:41,140 –> 00:31:49,560 in Jesus Christ, and Jesus faced the justice so that we should enjoy the father’s love. 298 00:31:49,560 –> 00:31:54,500 Jesus was shut outside. My, God, my God, why have you forsaken me, so that we should have 299 00:31:54,500 –> 00:32:02,300 access into his Grace and into his presence forever and forever. 300 00:32:02,300 –> 00:32:07,079 Brother sister, when God forgives you, he will not keep you at a distance. He will not 301 00:32:07,380 –> 00:32:13,359 have you living under a suspended sentence, wondering what and when will be the final 302 00:32:13,359 –> 00:32:19,859 justice that will come upon you. No probation, no exclusion, no justice has been satisfied 303 00:32:19,859 –> 00:32:25,339 as far as you, at your worst, are concerned at the cross. 304 00:32:25,339 –> 00:32:37,060 And so God embraces you in His everlasting love. And to every person in Jesus Christ 305 00:32:37,060 –> 00:32:43,479 offers this amazing full and free forgiveness and reconciliation and access to grace to 306 00:32:43,479 –> 00:32:52,099 all who will come to Him in faith and in repentance. Let’s pray together. 307 00:32:52,500 –> 00:32:59,819 Father even the slightest glimpse of Your love has us marvelling, that You would not 308 00:32:59,819 –> 00:33:08,859 give us up, that Your love for us should be that strong, that You gave Your own Son and 309 00:33:08,859 –> 00:33:19,839 He gave Himself for us. Father we pray that this will bring fresh repentance in our hearts, 310 00:33:19,839 –> 00:33:25,819 fresh peace in our hearts, fresh joy in our hearts and that we may truly love You more 311 00:33:25,819 –> 00:33:31,640 than we have ever loved You before. In these things we ask in the Saviors name and everyone 312 00:33:31,640 –> 00:33:32,359 together said Amen.

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Colin Smith is the Senior Pastor of The Orchard Evangelical Free Church in the northwest suburbs of Chicago. He has authored a number of books, including Heaven, How I Got Here and Heaven, So Near – So Far. Colin is the Founder and Teaching Pastor for Open the Bible. Follow him on X formerly Twitter.

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It is possible to serve the Lord with great distinction, and then to undo much of the good you have accomplished.

The final chapter of David’s life serves as a warning to us that it is possible to accomplish much good, but then for it all to unravel in the later years of our lives because of our own sin and folly.

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