Parenting in the Flesh vs. Parenting in the Spirit, Part 1

Galatians 3:1-9

What’s the difference between living by grace and just trying to be “good”? Today Colin Smith looks at how this shift can inadvertently occur not only within the church but also within Christian families.

Join us as Pastor Colin reveals key insights from Galatians, examining how parenting ‘in the flesh’ differs from parenting ‘in the Spirit’. This engaging discussion offers guidance for parents on nurturing genuine faith in their children, highlighting the importance of avoiding the trap of mere conformity. Faith is about much more than following rules – it’s about the transformative power of the Holy Spirit.

100:00:00,000 –> 00:00:12,360You can start out with the Gospel of grace but end up living and sounding as if what you’re are really about200:00:12,360 –> 00:00:18,799is simply morality, law, and obedience. Now that can happen in a church300:00:18,799 –> 00:00:22,260and I think we’ve all seen it. Here’s the application today.400:00:22,260 –> 00:00:27,840It can also happen in Christian family life.500:00:28,600 –> 00:00:31,240Welcome to Open the Bible with Pastor Colin Smith.600:00:31,240 –> 00:00:33,779I’m David Pick, thanks for being with us today.700:00:33,779 –> 00:00:37,980And Colin, that’s an important truth, but how does that actually happen in a family?800:00:37,980 –> 00:00:42,540Yeah, well I’m sure there are multiple ways in which it can manifest itself,900:00:42,540 –> 00:00:47,020but it’s natural for all of us to be concerned that that things should appear well1000:00:47,020 –> 00:00:52,080and therefore when things are not well for us merely to have the objective1100:00:52,080 –> 00:00:55,419that as far as other people are concerned that will look well.1200:00:55,419 –> 00:01:00,660So, as long as things are kept within some kind of bounds and we show up at church1300:01:00,660 –> 00:01:02,459and so forth and so on,1400:01:02,459 –> 00:01:08,779that becomes the adjusted vision for family life and for the children that God has given to us.1500:01:08,779 –> 00:01:15,000And I think what I want to say into that is never, never, never trade1600:01:15,000 –> 00:01:19,879the passionate desire for the conversion of your children –1700:01:19,879 –> 00:01:25,400never, never trade that for the mere acceptance of the fact that they may conform1800:01:25,400 –> 00:01:28,779because the two are completely and utterly different,1900:01:28,779 –> 00:01:32,300and we must always distinguish that many children who conform2000:01:32,300 –> 00:01:35,980turn out, actually, to have very, very hard hearts at the end of the day2100:01:35,980 –> 00:01:37,620because they’ve never been converted,2200:01:37,620 –> 00:01:40,440and some who really kick against the traces.2300:01:40,440 –> 00:01:43,580And you say, oh, God, what in the world is happening here?2400:01:43,580 –> 00:01:45,099And your heart breaks.2500:01:45,160 –> 00:01:47,580And yet, what happens is, that in the course of time,2600:01:47,580 –> 00:01:49,099there’s a genuine conversion2700:01:49,239 –> 00:01:50,980and a life that’s on fire for the Lord.2800:01:50,980 –> 00:01:55,860So seeing beyond the immediate surface appearance is really important here,2900:01:55,860 –> 00:01:58,540and that’s why we’re talking about parenting in the flesh3000:01:58,540 –> 00:02:00,860as opposed to parenting in the Spirit,3100:02:00,860 –> 00:02:02,839which is what we really want to be about.3200:02:02,839 –> 00:02:05,739We see that in Galatians, in chapter 3,3300:02:05,739 –> 00:02:07,620as we begin a message called3400:02:07,620 –> 00:02:10,919Parenting in the Flesh vs. Parenting in the Spirit.3500:02:10,919 –> 00:02:11,960Here’s Colin.3600:02:11,960 –> 00:02:13,440Let me try and paint the picture.3700:02:14,960 –> 00:02:17,300There were a group of believers3800:02:17,380 –> 00:02:19,300in this area called Galatia,3900:02:19,300 –> 00:02:21,300they’d come to faith in Jesus Christ4000:02:21,300 –> 00:02:24,320through the missionary journeys of the apostle Paul.4100:02:24,320 –> 00:02:26,460You’ll notice from chapter 1 and verse 24200:02:26,460 –> 00:02:29,720that churches had been established.4300:02:30,940 –> 00:02:34,039Early on in the life of these churches,4400:02:34,039 –> 00:02:37,940it seems that there was some confusion over the gospel.4500:02:39,020 –> 00:02:43,559Some people placed such emphasis on obedience4600:02:43,559 –> 00:02:47,399that they actually undermined grace.4700:02:48,279 –> 00:02:51,839Now, this meant that in effect, they abandoned the gospel.4800:02:51,839 –> 00:02:54,259If you look at chapter 1 and verse 6,4900:02:54,259 –> 00:02:56,639you will find that Paul is astonished5000:02:56,639 –> 00:02:58,600that such a thing could happen5100:02:58,600 –> 00:03:03,020so quickly among sincere Christian people.5200:03:03,020 –> 00:03:04,960But this is precisely what happened,5300:03:04,960 –> 00:03:09,960that the strong, strong emphasis on obedience5400:03:10,440 –> 00:03:14,479had become so dominant in the life of the church5500:03:14,479 –> 00:03:17,139that they had actually lost sight5600:03:17,139 –> 00:03:21,160of the redeeming grace of Jesus Christ.5700:03:21,160 –> 00:03:23,619Now, that is what Galatians is all about.5800:03:23,619 –> 00:03:27,520Now, this has happened to some good Christian folk.5900:03:27,520 –> 00:03:30,940And this letter in the New Testament that is so important6000:03:30,940 –> 00:03:33,660reminds us that it can happen in a church.6100:03:34,520 –> 00:03:38,339You can start out with the gospel of grace,6200:03:38,360 –> 00:03:41,800but end up living and sounding6300:03:41,800 –> 00:03:43,300as if what you’re really about6400:03:43,300 –> 00:03:48,100is simply morality, law, and obedience.6500:03:48,100 –> 00:03:49,759Now, that can happen in a church,6600:03:49,759 –> 00:03:51,500and I think we’ve all seen it.6700:03:51,500 –> 00:03:53,779Here’s the application today.6800:03:53,779 –> 00:03:58,339It can also happen in Christian family life.6900:03:59,339 –> 00:04:01,059And in this last Sunday in our series,7000:04:01,059 –> 00:04:03,080I want us to think about that together7100:04:03,080 –> 00:04:06,059and how we can make sure that we avoid it.7200:04:06,059 –> 00:04:08,220Now, let’s focus in on Paul’s question7300:04:08,220 –> 00:04:10,539in Galatians chapter three and verse two7400:04:10,539 –> 00:04:13,059that really seems to me to be absolutely critical7500:04:13,059 –> 00:04:17,019for our thinking as parents about raising children.7600:04:17,019 –> 00:04:18,739Galatians chapter three and verse two,7700:04:18,739 –> 00:04:23,640Paul says, I would like to learn just one thing from you.7800:04:25,459 –> 00:04:29,519Did you receive the Spirit by observing the law7900:04:29,519 –> 00:04:32,140or by believing what you heard?8000:04:32,899 –> 00:04:36,480Now, this one verse brings together four themes8100:04:36,480 –> 00:04:37,720that are really central8200:04:37,720 –> 00:04:40,519to our whole understanding of the gospel,8300:04:40,519 –> 00:04:44,980receiving the Spirit, observing the law,8400:04:44,980 –> 00:04:49,579hearing the gospel, believing the gospel.8500:04:49,579 –> 00:04:50,880Let’s put them in this order,8600:04:50,880 –> 00:04:54,399hearing, believing, receiving, obeying.8700:04:55,619 –> 00:04:57,179Now, look at Paul’s question.8800:04:58,179 –> 00:05:03,179Did you receive the Spirit by observing the law?8900:05:04,299 –> 00:05:05,359Now, what’s he talking about?9000:05:05,359 –> 00:05:06,559What Spirit?9100:05:07,420 –> 00:05:09,700Well, Paul is clearly talking here9200:05:09,700 –> 00:05:13,299about the Holy Spirit of God.9300:05:13,299 –> 00:05:15,619And just to fill that in for us a little bit,9400:05:15,619 –> 00:05:18,820throughout the Old Testament, remember God had promised9500:05:18,820 –> 00:05:22,760that one day he would pour out his Holy Spirit9600:05:22,760 –> 00:05:25,000upon all of his people.9700:05:25,119 –> 00:05:28,480And you remember that that happened on the Day of Pentecost.9800:05:28,480 –> 00:05:31,000You can read about it in Acts chapter two.9900:05:31,000 –> 00:05:32,420And actually, I’m going to invite you10000:05:32,420 –> 00:05:34,480to turn to Acts and chapter two.10100:05:34,480 –> 00:05:36,420The story of the Day of Pentecost10200:05:36,420 –> 00:05:39,100that is so important for understanding10300:05:39,100 –> 00:05:40,480the book of Galatians.10400:05:40,480 –> 00:05:42,299So if you turn back to Acts and chapter two,10500:05:42,299 –> 00:05:43,959let’s just review the story10600:05:43,959 –> 00:05:46,760so that it’s fresh in our minds.10700:05:46,760 –> 00:05:48,559Now at this point in the story,10800:05:49,739 –> 00:05:51,600Jesus has ascended into heaven10900:05:51,660 –> 00:05:54,040and you have about 120 believers11000:05:54,040 –> 00:05:56,920who are gathered together in a small room.11100:05:56,920 –> 00:05:58,380And you remember it on the Day of Pentecost11200:05:58,380 –> 00:06:00,760that was the sound of the wind,11300:06:00,760 –> 00:06:03,440they saw this extraordinary fire11400:06:03,440 –> 00:06:06,700that separated into tongues and rested on all of them11500:06:06,700 –> 00:06:11,700and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit.11600:06:12,519 –> 00:06:13,739Now with all this going on,11700:06:13,739 –> 00:06:15,260it’s not surprising that it wasn’t long11800:06:15,260 –> 00:06:16,920until a crowd gathered.11900:06:16,920 –> 00:06:19,480And in verse 14 of Acts chapter two,12000:06:19,480 –> 00:06:21,279Peter gets up to speak.12100:06:21,380 –> 00:06:22,779And notice what he says.12200:06:22,779 –> 00:06:26,179This is what was spoken by the prophet Joel.12300:06:26,179 –> 00:06:28,119Indeed, it was spoken by all of the prophets,12400:06:28,119 –> 00:06:30,839but he quotes from Joel in particular.12500:06:30,839 –> 00:06:32,540In the last days, God says,12600:06:32,540 –> 00:06:34,959I will pour out my spirit.12700:06:34,959 –> 00:06:37,200This is what God has always planned to do,12800:06:37,200 –> 00:06:40,100Peter’s saying, to pour out his spirit12900:06:40,100 –> 00:06:42,820on all of his people.13000:06:42,820 –> 00:06:44,519When I watch Peter then did13100:06:44,519 –> 00:06:46,619is to go on and preach about Jesus13200:06:46,619 –> 00:06:48,440and you can read through the rest of these verses13300:06:48,440 –> 00:06:49,839from verse 22.13400:06:49,859 –> 00:06:53,040He tells the crowd of people who Jesus is,13500:06:53,040 –> 00:06:55,399why Jesus died,13600:06:55,399 –> 00:06:57,359how Jesus rose,13700:06:57,359 –> 00:06:59,359and then how Jesus ascended13800:06:59,359 –> 00:07:01,440to the right hand of the Father in heaven.13900:07:01,440 –> 00:07:03,980So, that in verse 36, he ends by saying14000:07:03,980 –> 00:07:06,040that God has made this Jesus14100:07:06,040 –> 00:07:08,660whom you crucified, both Lord and Christ.14200:07:09,660 –> 00:07:14,059Now, by the way, this is what we mean by the gospel.14300:07:14,059 –> 00:07:17,679The gospel is the good news of Jesus Christ,14400:07:17,720 –> 00:07:21,880the Son of God who was crucified and risen.14500:07:21,880 –> 00:07:24,779He is the savior who is able to forgive14600:07:24,779 –> 00:07:26,480all who will come to Him14700:07:26,480 –> 00:07:29,480and he is able to change your life.14800:07:29,480 –> 00:07:30,720That is the gospel.14900:07:32,000 –> 00:07:34,000As Peter lays this out before the folks,15000:07:34,000 –> 00:07:35,239notice what happens.15100:07:35,239 –> 00:07:36,579Verse 37.15200:07:36,579 –> 00:07:39,660They respond by asking, what shall we do?15300:07:40,980 –> 00:07:42,720Peter’s answer is very clear.15400:07:42,720 –> 00:07:44,839He says, repent and be baptized,15500:07:44,839 –> 00:07:47,339every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ,15600:07:47,339 –> 00:07:49,179for the forgiveness of your sins.15700:07:49,179 –> 00:07:50,220And then what will happen?15800:07:50,220 –> 00:07:54,579He says, and you, whoever you are in the crowd,15900:07:54,579 –> 00:07:57,420if you will come to respond to Jesus Christ in this way,16000:07:57,420 –> 00:07:58,700here’s what will happen.16100:07:58,700 –> 00:08:03,679You will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.16200:08:03,679 –> 00:08:06,040Now notice what he says next.16300:08:06,040 –> 00:08:06,980Very significant.16400:08:06,980 –> 00:08:08,040Verse 39.16500:08:09,679 –> 00:08:12,920The promise is for you, he says to the crowd,16600:08:13,000 –> 00:08:16,040for you and for your children,16700:08:19,380 –> 00:08:21,260for all who are far off,16800:08:21,260 –> 00:08:26,100for all whom the Lord our God will call.16900:08:27,640 –> 00:08:30,059So, this is very clear, isn’t it?17000:08:30,059 –> 00:08:33,599God’s promise for my children17100:08:35,419 –> 00:08:39,080is that if they will turn in repentance and faith17200:08:39,080 –> 00:08:40,559to Jesus Christ,17300:08:40,559 –> 00:08:41,739what will happen?17400:08:41,760 –> 00:08:46,739They will receive the Holy Spirit of God.17500:08:47,880 –> 00:08:49,940And that’s what God wants for them.17600:08:49,940 –> 00:08:51,539That’s his promise.17700:08:51,539 –> 00:08:53,979It’s the promise to you, to your children,17800:08:53,979 –> 00:08:55,219to all who are far off,17900:08:55,219 –> 00:08:56,859to all whom the Lord our God will call,18000:08:56,859 –> 00:09:00,219to all who turn in repentance and faith to Jesus Christ,18100:09:00,219 –> 00:09:02,260this is the promise of God,18200:09:02,260 –> 00:09:03,859this is the purpose of God.18300:09:03,859 –> 00:09:06,460Nothing less than this is the purpose of God,18400:09:06,460 –> 00:09:10,440that you receive the Holy Spirit of God,18500:09:10,440 –> 00:09:12,760that God’s very presence should come18600:09:12,760 –> 00:09:16,059and live and dwell in you, filling you,18700:09:17,020 –> 00:09:22,020so that the life of God comes to live within you.18800:09:22,039 –> 00:09:24,580Now, let’s go back to Galatians in chapter three18900:09:24,580 –> 00:09:26,200because really acts two helps us19000:09:26,200 –> 00:09:28,239to understand Galatians three,19100:09:28,239 –> 00:09:29,919so let’s go back there, as it were,19200:09:29,919 –> 00:09:32,559where we started and we’ll stay there.19300:09:32,559 –> 00:09:34,440Galatians chapter three.19400:09:34,440 –> 00:09:37,479Now look at Paul’s question in verse two.19500:09:37,479 –> 00:09:41,099How did you receive the Spirit?19600:09:41,099 –> 00:09:42,559This is what I want to know, Paul says.19700:09:42,559 –> 00:09:43,900I’ve just got one question.19800:09:44,979 –> 00:09:48,080How did you receive the Spirit?19900:09:48,080 –> 00:09:50,659Was it by observing the law?20000:09:50,659 –> 00:09:53,020No, the answer of course is of course not.20100:09:53,020 –> 00:09:56,099Of course it wasn’t by observing the law.20200:09:56,099 –> 00:09:59,539Or was it by believing what you heard?20300:09:59,539 –> 00:10:00,979Yes, of course it was.20400:10:00,979 –> 00:10:02,880That’s how we received the Spirit,20500:10:02,880 –> 00:10:05,539by believing what we have heard, by believing the gospel.20600:10:05,539 –> 00:10:08,559This is precisely what happened on the day of Pentecost.20700:10:08,559 –> 00:10:11,140It is what happened everywhere that the gospel went20800:10:11,140 –> 00:10:12,340throughout the Early World20900:10:12,340 –> 00:10:14,700and everywhere it has gone ever since.21000:10:14,700 –> 00:10:17,700They heard the gospel, they received the Spirit21100:10:17,700 –> 00:10:21,619as they turned to Christ in repentance and in faith.21200:10:21,619 –> 00:10:25,260So the relationship between these four key elements21300:10:25,260 –> 00:10:27,340of understanding the Christian faith,21400:10:27,340 –> 00:10:30,059hearing leads to believing,21500:10:30,059 –> 00:10:33,760that leads to receiving, that leads to obeying21600:10:33,760 –> 00:10:36,440and that order is absolutely critical.21700:10:37,320 –> 00:10:38,919The relationship between these things21800:10:38,919 –> 00:10:41,280is critical to our understanding of the gospel.21900:10:42,260 –> 00:10:45,159You did not receive the Spirit by obeying the law,22000:10:45,159 –> 00:10:47,719no, just as it was on the day of Pentecost,22100:10:47,719 –> 00:10:50,640you received the Spirit as you believed the gospel22200:10:50,640 –> 00:10:55,280responding in repentance and in faith to Jesus.22300:10:55,280 –> 00:10:57,280So He’s teaching this very clear principle22400:10:57,280 –> 00:11:00,599that we need to take in and if we grasp it,22500:11:00,599 –> 00:11:03,359it will deeply affect our parenting.22600:11:04,380 –> 00:11:09,119You don’t receive the Spirit by obeying the law,22700:11:10,880 –> 00:11:15,880you do receive the Spirit by believing the gospel.22800:11:17,000 –> 00:11:18,340You’re listening to Open the Bible22900:11:18,340 –> 00:11:20,179with Pastor Colin Smith,23000:11:20,179 –> 00:11:22,640in a message called Parenting in the Flesh23100:11:22,640 –> 00:11:24,559Versus Parenting in the Spirit.23200:11:24,559 –> 00:11:27,760Part of our series, Unless the Lord Build a House.23300:11:27,760 –> 00:11:31,900All about the best way that you can parent your children.23400:11:32,059 –> 00:11:34,140If you’ve missed any of the broadcasts today23500:11:34,140 –> 00:11:36,900or if you’ve missed any of the previous broadcasts,23600:11:36,900 –> 00:11:39,500you can easily catch up or go back and listen again23700:11:39,500 –> 00:11:41,119online at our website23800:11:41,119 –> 00:11:44,020openthebible.org.uk23900:11:44,020 –> 00:11:47,780or find us as a podcast on all the main podcast sites.24000:11:47,780 –> 00:11:50,159Search for openthebible.uk24100:11:50,159 –> 00:11:53,580and subscribe if you want to receive regular updates.24200:11:53,580 –> 00:11:57,020You can also find a link to the podcast on our website24300:11:57,020 –> 00:11:58,640and our website address again,24400:11:58,640 –> 00:12:01,719openthebible.org.uk.24500:12:02,419 –> 00:12:03,520Back to the message now.24600:12:03,520 –> 00:12:05,940We’re in Galatians chapter three,24700:12:05,940 –> 00:12:07,559here again is Colin.24800:12:07,559 –> 00:12:09,460Now, before we go any further,24900:12:09,460 –> 00:12:12,479I want us all to be clear about the relationship25000:12:12,479 –> 00:12:14,700between the law and the gospel25100:12:14,700 –> 00:12:16,119as it’s explained in the Bible.25200:12:16,119 –> 00:12:17,619Let me just say,25300:12:17,619 –> 00:12:20,719if you think this sounds a little bit theoretical,25400:12:20,719 –> 00:12:24,000I ask you to hang in with me for about three minutes25500:12:24,000 –> 00:12:26,400and I promise you, we’re going someplace with this,25600:12:26,400 –> 00:12:27,280All right?25700:12:27,280 –> 00:12:29,619And I promise you it’s someplace good.25800:12:30,419 –> 00:12:31,900There really is though,25900:12:31,900 –> 00:12:34,979a great deal of confusion on this point.26000:12:35,859 –> 00:12:39,080Some folks have the idea26100:12:39,080 –> 00:12:41,799that the law is bad26200:12:41,799 –> 00:12:43,580and the gospel is good.26300:12:44,419 –> 00:12:47,960And that is not the teaching of the Bible.26400:12:49,099 –> 00:12:51,140If you have the idea that the law is bad26500:12:51,140 –> 00:12:52,580and the gospel is good,26600:12:52,580 –> 00:12:54,640that is not the teaching of the Bible26700:12:54,640 –> 00:12:56,679and it’s important to make that clear26800:12:56,679 –> 00:12:57,679because if you think the law is bad26900:12:57,679 –> 00:12:58,719and the gospel is good,27000:12:58,739 –> 00:13:00,280you’ll have an idea of parenting27100:13:00,280 –> 00:13:02,140that includes no law.27200:13:02,140 –> 00:13:03,859You’ll say there should be no rules,27300:13:03,859 –> 00:13:05,280there should be no standards27400:13:06,539 –> 00:13:08,659and you will completely misunderstand27500:13:08,659 –> 00:13:10,299the pattern of parenting27600:13:10,299 –> 00:13:12,880that is laid out in the scripture.27700:13:12,880 –> 00:13:14,520Don’t say the law is bad.27800:13:15,760 –> 00:13:17,859That’s not scriptural.27900:13:17,859 –> 00:13:20,200Romans chapter 7 and verse 12,28000:13:20,200 –> 00:13:21,039Paul says,28100:13:21,039 –> 00:13:23,580the law is holy,28200:13:23,580 –> 00:13:25,479righteous,28300:13:25,479 –> 00:13:26,380good,28400:13:26,380 –> 00:13:27,799it is good.28500:13:27,799 –> 00:13:30,859Look at verse 21 of the same chapter that we’re in,28600:13:30,859 –> 00:13:33,219Galatians chapter 3 notice what he says there,28700:13:33,219 –> 00:13:35,960is the law opposed to the promises of God?28800:13:35,960 –> 00:13:37,260Are these two different things?28900:13:37,260 –> 00:13:38,400What’s his answer?29000:13:38,400 –> 00:13:40,500Absolutely not.29100:13:41,900 –> 00:13:45,960The law and the gospel both proceed from the mouth of God29200:13:46,780 –> 00:13:48,000and God never changes.29300:13:48,000 –> 00:13:50,219God is good.29400:13:50,219 –> 00:13:52,099So if the law comes from God,29500:13:52,099 –> 00:13:53,859how can the law be bad?29600:13:55,020 –> 00:13:57,280If your son or your daughter grows up29700:13:57,280 –> 00:14:01,140to be a person who is faithful to their spouse,29800:14:01,140 –> 00:14:05,500can be trusted with money, tells the truth,29900:14:05,500 –> 00:14:07,880honors their father and mother even into old age,30000:14:07,880 –> 00:14:09,580that is good, isn’t it?30100:14:09,580 –> 00:14:11,239That is really good.30200:14:11,239 –> 00:14:13,580That is not bad, that is good.30300:14:13,580 –> 00:14:16,119Thank God for the law.30400:14:18,059 –> 00:14:21,159So the relationship then between the law and the gospel30500:14:21,159 –> 00:14:23,440is not that the law is bad and that the gospel is good,30600:14:23,440 –> 00:14:24,340what is it?30700:14:24,340 –> 00:14:25,179It’s this.30800:14:26,099 –> 00:14:29,599The law is good, the gospel is better.30900:14:30,460 –> 00:14:34,400The law is good, the gospel is better.31000:14:34,400 –> 00:14:37,640And the reason that the gospel is better than the law31100:14:37,640 –> 00:14:41,080is that when you believe the gospel, what happens?31200:14:41,080 –> 00:14:44,179You receive the Spirit.31300:14:44,179 –> 00:14:47,239The Holy Spirit comes into you.31400:14:47,239 –> 00:14:50,200That’s something that the law can never bring you into.31500:14:50,200 –> 00:14:53,719The law is about living a model life, that’s good.31600:14:54,679 –> 00:14:58,340The law is about a disciplined life, that’s good.31700:14:58,340 –> 00:15:01,179We need to teach and train our children in that.31800:15:01,179 –> 00:15:03,960It’s good, but the gospel is better31900:15:03,960 –> 00:15:08,659because it is about God filling you with his own Spirit.32000:15:10,820 –> 00:15:14,099The law is black and white.32100:15:15,340 –> 00:15:17,719The gospel is color.32200:15:18,719 –> 00:15:22,719The law is like the little speaker in your cell phone.32300:15:24,140 –> 00:15:26,960The gospel is like surround sound.32400:15:28,919 –> 00:15:31,799The law is like dial up.32500:15:32,760 –> 00:15:36,520The gospel is comcastic.32600:15:38,119 –> 00:15:39,200For those of you who don’t know,32700:15:39,200 –> 00:15:42,200that was an internet connection analogy.32800:15:42,200 –> 00:15:46,979I want my kids to know that the law is good.32900:15:49,500 –> 00:15:52,219I also want them to know that the gospel is better.33000:15:53,359 –> 00:15:55,520I want them to learn morality.33100:15:56,419 –> 00:15:58,640I want them to see in me something33200:15:58,640 –> 00:16:01,200more attractive than morality.33300:16:02,179 –> 00:16:04,340I want to show them the life of the Spirit.33400:16:06,280 –> 00:16:08,280It seems to me, you know, there are many kids33500:16:08,280 –> 00:16:10,520who have rejected Christianity33600:16:11,520 –> 00:16:13,900because all they’ve ever seen is the law.33700:16:15,840 –> 00:16:19,760Imagine with me a family going on a long flight.33800:16:21,299 –> 00:16:25,479Picture them boarding a large 777 aircraft.33900:16:25,479 –> 00:16:26,919You know the kind where you get your own34000:16:26,919 –> 00:16:29,880entertainment center on the back of the seat in front?34100:16:29,880 –> 00:16:31,380Okay?34200:16:31,380 –> 00:16:33,679And can you imagine this family of four?34300:16:33,679 –> 00:16:36,239Mom and Dad and Susan and little Johnny34400:16:36,239 –> 00:16:38,140and for Johnny it’s the first time34500:16:38,140 –> 00:16:39,760he’s ever been in an airplane.34600:16:39,900 –> 00:16:41,219He’s never flown before.34700:16:41,219 –> 00:16:43,419And so they get into this large plane34800:16:43,419 –> 00:16:44,559and they find their seats.34900:16:44,559 –> 00:16:47,020Mom and Dad have the window and aisle in front35000:16:47,020 –> 00:16:50,299and Susan and Johnny have the window and aisle behind.35100:16:50,299 –> 00:16:52,460They all get in and they are settled35200:16:52,460 –> 00:16:53,299and when they do,35300:16:53,299 –> 00:16:54,780Mom gets out the little magazine35400:16:54,780 –> 00:16:57,200to see what entertainment is going to be provided35500:16:57,200 –> 00:16:59,020and to her great delight,35600:16:59,020 –> 00:17:02,419it is the latest film by Walt Disney.35700:17:02,419 –> 00:17:03,460Oh, it’s gonna be marvelous.35800:17:03,460 –> 00:17:04,819Gonna be a great flight.35900:17:04,819 –> 00:17:06,520So she turns over and she says to Johnny,36000:17:06,579 –> 00:17:09,180Hey, Johnny, there’s our great film on36100:17:10,560 –> 00:17:13,459and we can all watch it sitting right here in our seats.36200:17:15,199 –> 00:17:16,959Susan, show him how it works.36300:17:18,599 –> 00:17:21,680Well, the flight takes off and the film comes on36400:17:21,680 –> 00:17:23,599and mom and dad and Susan and Johnny36500:17:23,599 –> 00:17:26,979all have their headphones on as the film gets going.36600:17:26,979 –> 00:17:30,719Mom and dad in front are laughing too loud36700:17:30,719 –> 00:17:34,219as you do when you have headphones on.36800:17:34,219 –> 00:17:36,119Susan is laughing too.36900:17:37,400 –> 00:17:40,599But Johnny, through an oversight37000:17:40,599 –> 00:17:42,079that nobody has noticed,37100:17:43,119 –> 00:17:44,920is stuck on the wrong channel.37200:17:46,260 –> 00:17:49,079He’s on the flight information channel.37300:17:49,079 –> 00:17:52,020You know, the one where you see that map37400:17:52,020 –> 00:17:57,020and a little plane that moves impossibly slowly37500:17:57,819 –> 00:17:59,140across the ocean37600:18:00,400 –> 00:18:04,619and you have numbers showing the altitude37700:18:04,619 –> 00:18:08,839and the speed and the number of miles traveled37800:18:08,839 –> 00:18:10,920and they change and then occasionally37900:18:10,920 –> 00:18:13,939you see a flat view and then the vertical view38000:18:13,939 –> 00:18:17,199and Johnny waters it.38100:18:19,859 –> 00:18:21,400And after about half an hour38200:18:21,400 –> 00:18:23,420his eyes glaze over38300:18:24,680 –> 00:18:26,160because he’s completely bored.38400:18:27,479 –> 00:18:29,099He sees his mother and father in front38500:18:29,099 –> 00:18:31,180laughing and excited and38600:18:31,880 –> 00:18:32,640he calls his father.38700:18:32,640 –> 00:18:35,119What do they think’s so funny about this map38800:18:35,119 –> 00:18:36,560and the little numbers?38900:18:39,199 –> 00:18:42,099Eventually the family gets off the plane39000:18:42,099 –> 00:18:46,180and nobody knows that Johnny missed the film.39100:18:47,060 –> 00:18:48,579They all assume that he saw it.39200:18:50,400 –> 00:18:52,260So his dad says, hey Johnny,39300:18:52,260 –> 00:18:54,640I bet you enjoyed the film, wasn’t that great?39400:18:57,160 –> 00:18:58,560Johnny can’t really work out39500:18:58,560 –> 00:19:00,260why they thought it was so good.39600:19:01,359 –> 00:19:03,500But let’s face it, grownups are strange39700:19:04,439 –> 00:19:06,300and sometimes a little dull.39800:19:07,300 –> 00:19:09,219And perhaps they do think it was great,39900:19:09,219 –> 00:19:12,920but when I grow up I want to have more fun than that.40000:19:16,180 –> 00:19:18,780There are many kids who have rejected Christianity40100:19:18,780 –> 00:19:20,839because all they’ve ever seen is the law.40200:19:23,099 –> 00:19:27,380And I want to speak to you if that’s your position today.40300:19:27,380 –> 00:19:32,380If you think Christianity is boring.40400:19:32,420 –> 00:19:36,859You have not yet seen or grasped the gospel.40500:19:38,839 –> 00:19:41,000How in all the world,40600:19:42,660 –> 00:19:47,060could being filled with the spirit of the living God,40700:19:47,060 –> 00:19:50,420the creator of the universe, be boring?40800:19:52,020 –> 00:19:53,219How could it be?40900:19:53,420 –> 00:19:58,420I encourage you, if that’s where you are,41000:20:01,880 –> 00:20:04,119don’t reject the gospel,41100:20:05,300 –> 00:20:07,680because all you’ve been looking at is the law.41200:20:10,560 –> 00:20:13,699Now, I wanted to give some pastoral advice here,41300:20:14,640 –> 00:20:17,640and that’s all it is, it is pastoral advice.41400:20:17,780 –> 00:20:18,900Pastoral advice.41500:20:20,239 –> 00:20:23,300But it seems to me, that a child brought up41600:20:23,300 –> 00:20:24,719in a Christian home,41700:20:26,160 –> 00:20:29,579and brought regularly to a Christian church,41800:20:29,579 –> 00:20:33,260is frankly very likely to make a profession of faith41900:20:33,260 –> 00:20:35,420early on in life.42000:20:35,420 –> 00:20:36,680I did this myself.42100:20:38,560 –> 00:20:39,939My children did the same.42200:20:42,079 –> 00:20:45,560If that happens, parents should rejoice,42300:20:46,319 –> 00:20:50,359but be very careful not to affirm more42400:20:50,359 –> 00:20:52,520than the child has experienced.42500:20:53,420 –> 00:20:55,420Remember, that especially at an early age,42600:20:55,420 –> 00:20:57,660though indeed there may be a conversion,42700:20:57,660 –> 00:21:00,380I look back at my own commitment to Christ42800:21:00,380 –> 00:21:01,219at the age of six,42900:21:01,219 –> 00:21:04,219and see that there was indeed a work of grace at that time.43000:21:06,979 –> 00:21:10,339But, remember, that it is also possible43100:21:10,339 –> 00:21:12,859that a child may simply be conforming43200:21:12,859 –> 00:21:13,920to what you are teaching,43300:21:13,959 –> 00:21:15,920especially if you’ve taught it strongly.43400:21:18,000 –> 00:21:23,000And assuming that a child has received the Spirit43500:21:23,060 –> 00:21:25,439when all they’re really doing is obeying the law43600:21:25,439 –> 00:21:28,439and conforming to what you have taught them43700:21:28,439 –> 00:21:29,819creates some problems.43800:21:32,260 –> 00:21:34,199This is why we must be very careful43900:21:34,199 –> 00:21:35,719in the home and in the church44000:21:35,719 –> 00:21:40,719never to exert pressure for a child to make a decision,44100:21:41,280 –> 00:21:43,739which they may well do just to please us.44200:21:44,800 –> 00:21:46,839And then think that they have the gospel44300:21:46,839 –> 00:21:48,260when actually, all they have is the law.44400:21:48,260 –> 00:21:50,239They’re conforming to our expectations.44500:21:52,699 –> 00:21:53,859Here’s the exhortation.44600:21:53,859 –> 00:21:57,119Trust God to do His own work in His own time.44700:21:58,199 –> 00:22:00,459Don’t confuse the law with the gospel.44800:22:01,680 –> 00:22:05,500Never mistake conformity for conversion.44900:22:06,859 –> 00:22:09,439That’s a word of warning there from Colin today.45000:22:09,439 –> 00:22:12,859Not to confuse conformity with conversion.45100:22:12,900 –> 00:22:14,619I think all of us would want to be sure45200:22:14,619 –> 00:22:17,040that our children have an authentic experience45300:22:17,040 –> 00:22:19,699of the Christian life and a true understanding45400:22:19,699 –> 00:22:20,859of the gospel,45500:22:20,859 –> 00:22:23,520leading to a real relationship with Jesus.45600:22:23,520 –> 00:22:26,119And that’s what this message is all about.45700:22:26,119 –> 00:22:27,540It’s from our series,45800:22:27,540 –> 00:22:29,219Unless the Lord build a house.45900:22:29,219 –> 00:22:30,439And the message is called,46000:22:30,439 –> 00:22:34,339Parenting in the flesh versus parenting in the spirit.46100:22:34,339 –> 00:22:36,719If you’ve missed any part of the message,46200:22:36,719 –> 00:22:38,920today’s broadcast or yesterday’s,46300:22:38,920 –> 00:22:41,160or if you want to go back and listen again,46400:22:41,160 –> 00:22:43,839you can do that by coming online to our website.46500:22:43,839 –> 00:22:46,900Open thebible.org.uk46600:22:46,900 –> 00:22:50,060Or find us as a podcast on all the main podcast sites.46700:22:50,060 –> 00:22:52,000Search for open thebible.uk46800:22:52,000 –> 00:22:54,800or follow the link from our website.46900:22:54,800 –> 00:22:58,040Open the Bible is supported financially by our listeners.47000:22:58,040 –> 00:23:01,160And we’re very 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says,48500:23:36,439 –> 00:23:39,760why don’t we read one of the Christmas stories?48600:23:39,760 –> 00:23:44,060And here’s a short version of the Christmas story48700:23:44,060 –> 00:23:46,339seen through the eyes of the angel Gabriel48800:23:46,339 –> 00:23:49,199or Mary or Joseph or Simeon or Herod.48900:23:49,199 –> 00:23:52,479You could read one of these easily in 10 minutes49000:23:52,479 –> 00:23:55,699and all of them gets to the heart of the gospel.49100:23:55,699 –> 00:23:56,920That’s what we’ve wanted to do,49200:23:56,920 –> 00:23:59,000to give people a resource49300:23:59,000 –> 00:24:01,579that you could use with your family49400:24:01,579 –> 00:24:05,640or your friends to read part of the Christmas story49500:24:05,680 –> 00:24:08,819so that the gospel of the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ49600:24:08,819 –> 00:24:11,219will be clear to your family and your friends.49700:24:11,219 –> 00:24:13,640Very simple and it’s beautifully presented.49800:24:13,640 –> 00:24:15,219The team has done a marvellous job49900:24:15,219 –> 00:24:17,520in putting these Christmas stories together.50000:24:17,520 –> 00:24:20,239Well, we’d love to send you two copies of this book50100:24:20,239 –> 00:24:23,000along with the five beautiful Christmas cards50200:24:23,000 –> 00:24:26,400if you are able to begin setting up a new direct debit50300:24:26,400 –> 00:24:27,719to the work of Open the Bible50400:24:27,719 –> 00:24:30,599for five pounds per month or more50500:24:30,599 –> 00:24:33,699or a one-off gift of fifty pounds or more.50600:24:33,739 –> 00:24:36,219Full terms and conditions are on out website50700:24:36,219 –> 00:24:40,939openthebible.org.uk, and you can give online.50800:24:40,939 –> 00:24:42,939If you want to receive this gift,50900:24:42,939 –> 00:24:45,079please don’t give anonymously51000:24:45,079 –> 00:24:49,160and do remember to leave your full name and address.51100:24:49,160 –> 00:24:52,260For Open the Bible and Pastor Colin Smith.51200:24:52,260 –> 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